Post # 17
My brother flipped his sh*t one christmas….. because he had to buy 3 gifts for us (me, ex-hubs and daughter) but he only got 1 gift from us (daughter’s 1st christmas and I completely spaced). He also brought up that he had to buy 2 birthday gifts that year (for me and ex-hubs) and we had given him a gift from both of us for his b’day.
And yes, he was older than 40 at the time.
We now joke about it a bit (after we’ve all had some egg nog!!!!!) But I have been very careful about making sure it’s “even” ever since. Even if before I might have spent more “$$$” and gotten him a bigger gift from both of us…. I started to make sure that he got 2 distinct gifts and put my name on one and ex-hubs name on the other.
Post # 18
We’re gifting about the same, with a couple of exceptions. We figure, I would normally buy gifts for people my husband wouldn’t have bought gifts for (or only something small) before getting married, and vice versa.
For example, the gift we’re giving my brother this year is about the same “level” of gift, but he wouldn’t have gotten two gifts before anyway, only one from me.
Our parents are an exception because they were very generous contributing to our wedding, and we both would normally have bought gifts for each others’ parents.
Post # 19
Our’s didn’t change. I already tended to be very generous as my single self (I love getting people gifts).
Plus – even though you now have two people and two incomes, you are also buying presents for two families instead of one!
Post # 20
For us, it just depends on how much we can afford, rather than that it’s from ‘us’ not just ‘me’. This past year we’ve incurred many expenses we didn’t have before (mortgage, car lease, etc.) and so I think (hope?) everyone understands that we’re strapped for cash.
That said – it sure did increase the size of my Christmas Shopping list! Now all of a sudden I’m looking for gifts for both my family and his! haha
Post # 21
We’ve been giving gifts together for many years already, so it’s going to be about the same for us.
Post # 22
You have twice the income but you also have twice the people to give gifts to, theoretically.
Post # 23
I said that it depends on the situation/person. When I was single and working, with my bonuses, I used to make almost twice as much money as DH. does. Since I had to resign my well-paying job to relocate to his small town in a rural area of another state, I have not found any type of job in my field and have not worked for more than two-and-a-half years. As a single dad, DH’s budget was already very tight before he met and married me, and we do not have the income for us to spend anywhere near the same amount that I used to spend on gifts as a single person.
Post # 24
The Walking Dead is the best show EEVVVERRRRR!!!!!!!!
Anyway…. we give what we can afford.
Post # 25
If our families are giving gifts to each of us, or bigger gifts to us combined,I feel like we should each give gifts back or give a better gift. Not necessarily twice as expensive, but we aren’t just tacking ourselves on to the same kind of gift we would have given while single. Since our families now have an extra person to buy for, they should get an extra person buying for them, too!
Post # 26
The status quo will remain the same: I buy for my family, he buys for his family, and we slap each others name on the card.
Post # 27
Yep, that’s our process too. 😛
Post # 28
We were already doing this before we got married and will continue to do so. As a single person I’d spend X amount on my family and X his, DH would do the same.
Now we combine the 2 X amounts and get them a present from both of us but and while it might be one present, it’s a better present because more money has gone into it therefore we can get them something more extravagant that we would do alone. Quality not quantity!
Post # 29
We’re not married but we’ve been together 2.5 years. Last year we started giving joint gifts to everyone. Basically we split the cost of the gift, so we each pay about the same but now the total cost of the gift we buy is a little more.
Ex: We each spend $50 and get something worth $100, the total cost is more than what we would give individually but it is a combined gift.
Post # 30
Nah – not double. MAYBE an extra 20% but def not double.
In all honesty we combine our gifts now (we put both our names on all of them) and the amount isn’t changing.
Post # 31
The only time my gifting has doubled is wedding gifts. Christmas and birthdays stay the same as you are still buying for just as many people but wedding gifts are different.