(Closed) Do you drive your SO's car?

posted 3 years ago in Married Life
  • poll: Do you and your SO drive each others cars?

    No, we each have our own cars and respect those boundaries

    Of course we share.

    Maybe in an emergency

  • Post # 16
    544 posts
    Busy bee

    My FI’s car finally shit the bed, so we’re a one car couple until we get to the dealership this week. I drive a CUV and he drives a sedan, so I prefer my car, but I’ll drive whichever one is most accessible– no questions asked. 

    Post # 17
    7610 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I don’t drive his because it’s a manual and I don’t particularly enjoy driving stick (I’m horrible at it actually).

    If we go somewhere together, he will usually drive my car because it’s nicer/newer than his. If I’m staying home and he goes out I’ll encourage him to take my car but he usually won’t just in case I want/need to go somewhere.

    Post # 18
    1991 posts
    Buzzing bee

    We have two cars, but neither of us really claim ownership to either of them. I can drive whichever one I want, whenever I want. 

    I normally take the same car to work out of habit, but he could take ‘my car’ and I wouldn’t care at all. 

    Post # 19
    836 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I drive my own. It’s a luxury car that is very fast. He has a Hyundai and I hate that piece of shit. Most of them have serious issues. 

    Post # 20
    7347 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    If we go somewhere together in my car, DH always drive. On a day to day basis? We never switch cars. Technically, most of the time we take DH’s truck since he drives a company vehicle 100% of the time (as his everyday car) so we figure there is no sense putting the miles/gas on mine. I don’t drive his truck because it’s a company truck unless it’s some reason like he’s the last one in the driveway and I absolutely need to run up to the store.

    Post # 21
    6891 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

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    calliekalico2 :  Well considering both our vehicles are in both our names then yes we do drive each other car.  So not a huge deal on our end

    Post # 22
    1657 posts
    Bumble bee

    Yes, we take each other’s cars if there is a need for it. While I prefer to drive my own car, I will borrow his and vice versa.  We can both drive standard so it’s easy to switch. 

    Post # 23
    594 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2017

    When we had our own cars we typically just drove our own unless we split the journey for whatever reason.  We wouldn’t view this a respecting boundaries at all, it wouldn’t be an issue for either of us if the other used their car. To me it would be strange to view using the others car as crossing a boundary.

    Post # 24
    5082 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2014

    I’ve only driven DH’s car once, in an emergency-type situation. He drives a manual transmission and while I learned how to drive stick in high school, I’m not totally comfortable with it, especially with the stop and go traffic around here.

    DH rarely drives my car. Pretty much it’s only if he’s going to get my oil changed or if he needs to buy something that won’t fit in his car. If we’re together and taking my car, sometimes he’ll drive (like a roadtrip), but mostly we take his car when we’re together. 


    Post # 25
    2543 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Total free for all.

    Post # 26
    15136 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    We are free to drive each others cars, but don’t unless there’s a reason too.  Maybe if there was memory seats and mirrors, but I hate getting into a car and readjusting everything.

    Post # 27
    215 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2017 - Sauk Valley Resort

    We totally share cars. Fiance has had the same car the whole time we’ve been together, so to me it just feels like his. My car was just bought a few months ago, and he was the one who found it and we made a joint decision on it. Mine gets better gas mileage, and is smaller and easier to parallel park, which we almost always have to do when going out anywhere close to home. He’ll take mine to work a few days a week, because he has about a half hour drive to work and mine is only 5 minutes, so we use less gas that way. He also leaves before me for work, so he’ll just take whichever car he can easily get to. We both prefer our own cars, but it’s not a big deal to trade.

    Post # 28
    10605 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: City, State

    No, not really. I drove his car once cause he had been drinking and I was sober and promptly got a speeding ticket.

    Post # 29
    4106 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

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    calliekalico2 :  DH and I will interchange cars regularly. The only stipulation we have with one another (although more so me) is that if either of us leave our car for the other, the car MUST: be clean, have gas, and be left after a head’s up was given ahead of time–meaning, not me waking up to find he left me his car or vice versa. DH has a lengthy commute, so more times than not there are wrappers left behind in his car or old soda cups, which is just a personal pet peeve of mine. Also, if he leaves the car with the gas light on, he will get an ear lashing from me when he gets home. Same with me. I am not to leave him my car on E and take his car without giving him a head’s up first. 

    This morning, for example, DH opted to come through in a clutch for his employer and went into work for three hours to put out a (figurative) fire. He grabbed my key as I was blocking him in and shouted, “Taking your car!” on his way out. 

    Post # 30
    929 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2017

    We each have our own cars and they are the same make and model but his is newer by 2 years…differences are more so the outside, the inside cabin is basically the same. I rarely drive his car even though he doesn’t mind. I just prefer my own car and when we go out together, he drives 99% of the time regardless of which car we go in. I also don’t mind if he drives mine but again he is rarely driving mine by himself. Like others have said, I hate having to re adjust the seat and mirrors and anything infotainment related when driving his car and having to re adjust my seat when he drives mine. 

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