(Closed) Do you ever beat yourself up over "why doesn't he WANT to get married?

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 46
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  • Wedding: May 2016

Yes. All the time now. I don’t know what is wrong with me, that he wants to stay with me but I’m not good enough to be his wife. Its crushing. I feel like I must not be attractive enough, funny enough, smart enough.. I don’t know. We are officially the last of our friends/acquantinces/siblings to not be engaged/married and we’ve been together for more than 6 yrs now. Its doing a number on my self esteem. 

So hang in there! Many of us beautiful, smart, lovable woman go through this waiting! And I have to remind myself it is not me, its his issue.

Good for you @LucaM78, that takes a lot of guts to walk. Whatever the outcome, you’re putting yourself first. I’m afraid I might be getting to that point soon. 

Post # 47
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492 posts
Helper bee

yes, at my low point I feel like something is wrong with me. I just don’t understand how we’re not married yet. I do think the mess that his first marriage was affected our relationship. Bad marriage, nasty divorce and horrible custody battle. We also have only been together 3 years and really have not had real time to enjoy our

relationship. We moved in after eight months together due to financial circumstances, then we got pregnant with our daughter, then we lost her, all while he was fighting for his custodial rights and then we had more financial problems and after getting a little stable we got pregnant with our son who is now six months old and I love to pieces. We are currently adjusting our budget and expenses for a new vehicle and redoing our emergency fund since most of it went to my high risk pregnancies expenses. I do know he loves me and our son, but he has explained we need to get more things in order first and enjoy our relationship more. We had lots of losses and bad luck in the beginning. I definitely think its made our relationship stronger.

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