(Closed) Do you ever feel alone in wedding planning?? Need some support :/

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2004

You will have alot of bees reply “no one is as excited by your wedding day as you” but i want you to know that i understand, my wedding is ages away so no one has any interest. Its deeply upsetting.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I swing between enjoying it and and getting excited and then worrying about costs and wishing we had just eloped as there is too much to do etc (even thoguh we are having a Destination Wedding which is less planning then at home usually).  Do you mean you are having problems getting your photographer for your wedding day? 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I do understand. Today my fiance’ kind of reamed me out for forgetting about a stupid bill, a stupid utility bill.

for goodness sake I’m getting married in less than a month, do you think the water bill is even on the top 200 things I’m most concerned about right now? LOL!! My mother does nothing but complain she has nothing to wear…..and my friends are mostly MIA.

I think it’s just part of all this…it’s not easy. Today I felt very alone and had a good cry. I told my fiance. Hon, I know you are working two jobs and can’t help me with the wedding, but what you CAN do is be patient with me, refrain from critisizing me, if something isn’t getting done, do it yourself instead of pestering me.

He got pretty quiet after that!! I also told my mom the best thing she an do for me righ tnow is be supportive…even if she doesn’t agree with my descisions (she tends to undermine them even though she’s not helping me)….etc. 

All you can do is be open with those closest to you…tell them straight up they don’t know what it’s like to be you right now…..and being a bride is sometimes a hellish, torturous experience you may never fully tell anyone about!!!

 

=)

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

hey! i often feel alone in wedding planning =S

anyone wants an email buddy to vent/bounce ideas off send me a private message and maybe we can exchange emails!

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I’m getting married the same day as you! And yes I feel like I’m alone in this whole process. I mean my mom has been great but at the same time I don’t want to unload everything onto her, my fiancee helps when he is in the mood to help (which is very rare). I’ve done pretty much everything with little to no help (def. no help from my bridesmaids!). It’s all so stressful that it makes me just wish we would’ve eloped and just had a longer honeymoon.

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I feel very similar. My parents were in the process of house hunting when I got engaged and the first words out of their mouths were, “We can’t help you financially since our house is a first priority.” This is after my younger sister was married last August and they spend 16k on her wedding (might I add that they used plastic table cloths and plastic silverware and the venues were free….where did that money go to?).

Then when I tried to get moral support (asked my mom to go dress shopping with me, flower appointment, etc.) my mother says she will go and then backs out with some excuse. All of my Bridesmaid or Best Man are out of town and my Fiance works out of town during the week. So it has been extremely difficult. The newest is that my dress fitting is on Wednesday and now my mother won’t go to that.

It isn’t like I am 18 and she is rolling her eyes…I am 28 and my family loves my Fiance. It is just that they are extremely flakey and I can’t depend on them at all for what should be the biggest day of my life. But instead I keep comparing their involvement in my sister’s wedding (my mom planned the whole thing and was uber involved) to how I am pushed aside and it HURTS!

So long story short….you aren’t completely alone in feeling this way.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Just keep plugging away at it.  Little by little.  I feel like I got stuck into planning mine.  I want to be married but did not want this whole spending money thing, etc.  I really had to have a serious prayer session with the Higher Power to get my mind together. If you don’t change the way you are thinking and flow. it will wreak havoc on you.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I just want to say that I can completely relate and I know how much it sucks to feel that way… I was so overwhelmed and stressed from doing everything myself that I was ready to break down by the time the wedding rolled around. Like you, I kept hearing “it will all work out” “it will all come together”… and you know what? It did! In the end, I feel that it was all worth it. Sure, I’m still a little upset that I didn’t get more help with things, but the compliments from guests really made me feel good about my hard work.

It looks like you posted this a couple of months ago – how are things coming along? 

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