- 6 years ago
I am mainly turning to those who have a ring that is bigger than their native cultural standard. But I also like to hear the thoughts of the ones wearing rings that are smaller than what’s considered “the norm” where they live or come from.
As some/most of you already know, the diamond size varies alot from town to town and well as from country to country. For example we have New York, where a 2-3 carat stone is totally normal and “nothing that you turn your head around for”, whilst in Europe our diamonds are much more modest in size, and at least where I come from, a 0.5 carat diamond is HUGE, and I don’t think that I’ve ever even seen a full carat on anyone there!
I worked in a luxury brand jewellery store for a while, in the capital city of the country, the biggest stone they had was a center of a three stone at 0.60 carat, with two 0.30 carat diamonds on each side. Needless to say, for as long as I worked there, no one ever bought that one. The second biggest was a 0.50 carat stone, I can’t remember if we ever sold that one or not, either.
Some of my friends that are engaged have rings that are thin white or yellow gold, with center stones less than 0.1 carats (!). And they are all so beautiful, dainty and classy looking. Northen europeans doesn’t neccessarily believe in the American saying “the bigger the better”. Plus, people back home would faint just by the thought of paying $5000-10 000 + for a ring. That sounds insane compared to our standards. And anyone who would wear such a ring would probably be considered vulgar or gaudy, a show off, gold digger, etc.
Me and my soon fiance are living in a big city in the US, he is from New York, and in the area where we live and work almost everyone has in everything from 2 carat weight to 10 carats or something. To my boyfriend this is normal, and for him it’s natural to save money to buy his future wife a ring of a certain size. He want’s me to have “just as good” as my friends and co workers. Which is sweet and I do appreciate his thoughfulness. I too love all these wonderful rings that women carry around here. They certainly takes ones breath away sometimes! And after living 10 years in the US my “normal” has slowly turned in to US standard, and now, even though a 1-2 carat stone is by all means huge, it’s not as unrealistic as I would have thought 10 years ago. Not financially either.
As always, whilst some people like to stand out, others prefers to just “blend in” in the crowd (I would belong to the latter category), so, this is why I am asking you, all brides that comes from civilizations where gianormous diamonds is not the norm, how do you feel when you travel back home with your ring? Do you get a lot of attention? Do you feel uncomfortable, or even ashamed? Do you feel judged because of your diamond size?
And in opposit from the main question, you Bees that wear rings that meet your native county’s standards, and maybe moves, and they now seem very dainty compared to the rings women wear where you live, do you get selfconcious about your ring, feeling that yours doesn’t fulfill the “expectations”? Or the other way around, if you moved somewhere where the rings are on the daintier side, and you got one by those standards, do you feel ashamed/uncomfortable when you travel back home, feeling that you are expected to have a bigger stone?