(Closed) Do you ever feel "ashamed" because of your diamond carat size? (Big or small)

posted 4 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Do you ever feel ashamed or uncomfortable due to your diamond size?
    I always/often feel uncomfortable/ashamed that my diamond is so huge. : (18 votes)
    6 %
    I always/often feel ashamed/uncomfortable that my diamond is so tiny. : (20 votes)
    7 %
    I am always proud of my huge stone, that is way bigger than my native standards. : (50 votes)
    17 %
    I am always proud of my dainty stone, even if it's smaller than "normal" where I live. : (46 votes)
    16 %
    My diamond size is the norm where I was born and live. : (95 votes)
    32 %
    I feel comfortable where I live, but it feels small when I travel back home and compare to others. : (26 votes)
    9 %
    I feel comfortable where I live, but it feels too big when travelling back home, compared to others. : (40 votes)
    14 %
  • Post # 91
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2016 - San Clemente Church, Italy

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    lawandbeauty53:  And my nephew has the nerve to get embarrassed when I pick him up from school. He actually asked me to park outside the lot down the street. I’m like, ” Look, little boy, you can WALK with your no-car having behind”!!

    Post # 92
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

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    lawandbeauty53:  Lol. Kids can be kind of ridiculous at times; they need us to bring them back to reality. 

    You should have heard my husband and son last month when my brand new Sport’s check engine light came on. They were in their glory. It took the dealership 3x to fix it, but happily they drove 45 minutes out to my house with a new loaner car for me to use while it was in the shop. And it’s been working fine ever since <crosses fingers>.

    Post # 93
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: July 2015 - Muckenthaler Mansion - Fullerton, CA

    I enjoyed reading this thread… a lot of very thoughtful responses! I do think it’s natural to feel weird about rings from time to time, especially for those of us who live in different countries from where we grew up.

    With that said, I love my .81 yellow gold bezel solitaire. Honestly, it totally depends on where I go if it feels small or big – in California it feels small, but in Seoul (where wedding rings are not usually worn every day), it feels extravagant. But honestly, I wear it anyway, no matter where I am, and I love it. Darling Husband sometimes says that he wished he spent more or got me a bigger diamond, but I honestly don’t ever want anything different. He picked it out and had it custom made to what he knew I liked – and that blew me away.

    I love looking at all the bling on WB, but I don’t think I could ever actually wear something big and flashy, just not my personal style. But I’m all for people getting what they want, and what they can afford!

    Post # 94
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

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    lediskogirl:  Omg you’re too cute!!! Thank you! I never even thought of that possibility. I guess you’re right, I should prepare myself for that lol.

    Post # 95
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2018

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    janice1989:  It sounds like you are conflicted between having something you really like and having your parents approval. As an adult now you have to accept that sometimes what you want will clash with their beliefs. But that’s life. It can’t be one way where only you make the compromise of accepting their beliefs and choices. They have to learn to accept yours.

    You live in a different country now and YOUR beliefs and tastes have now changed. Follow what YOU want. Your parents will get over it. Trust me. Ultimately they will just be happy that you are with a great person who loves you as much as them. Its ok for them not to initially understand but at the end of your visit, you have to wear that ring FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE. Make sure YOU approve of it. You never know your parents might change their opinion once they see how beautiful it is and how it looks on you.

    People sometimes hold onto old beliefs because they’ve never been challenged.  

    Post # 96
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2016

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    princessforever77:  You nailed it on the head. My parents initially kept trying to push me towards getting a solitaire in yellow gold and for the longest time i kept trying to convince myself that that was what I wanted. Thank GOD my SO kept telling me “get what YOU want” and literally told me to go out alone and try on as many as i wanted to get an idea of what i liked without ANYONES influence on me. He’s the greatest 🙂

    Post # 97
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: October 2020

    I love my ring because it’s a wonderful gift but am starting to feel embarassed to wear it because I feel it looks too big and don’t want to look selfish or consumeristic. My fiance felt it was appropriate and not ‘too big’ since we’re both health care professional doctors and worked hard to be where we are from our modest time as students in graduate school. Fast forward now serving for low income community patients, it doesn’t seem appropriate to me. I look forward to post-wedding where I plan to wear my wedding band instead.  

    Post # 98
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2019

    Zombie thread. 

    Post # 99
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    Busy bee

    I have a larger than average stone for where I live (UK) at 0.75ct, my mum for example have 1/4ct diamond, my grandma had 1/2ct, my friends have 0.1-0.3ct stone and so do the majority of of my coworkers. BUT I would like a bigger stone. Not huge by any means but I’d like 1-1.5cts at some point, but that would be my maximum I think. 

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