Post # 1
A lot of our guests were invited by our parents. Their friends and co-workers, some of whom we’ve never even met before. Others who we’d only met once or twice or haven’t seen in years. We received gifts from these people (at least 30) ranging from $100 to $250. It felt totally awkward when someone would introduce themself to me for the first time and then hand me a large sum of money. I’ve never given more than $200 to my closest friends for a wedding! A card or a simple verbal “congratulations” would have been totally acceptable to me. I am very weirded out by it. So uncomfortable in fact that I am considering just giving the money to our parents since they were the ones who invited them. Is it normal to feel this way?
Post # 3
@Aquaria: I can understand why you feel awkward, but these people sound like they’re older… so $100-$250 for them is likely pocket change. Try not to feel guilty. They wouldn’t gift it if they couldn’t afford it. Many older people get immense happiness for helping out younger people (even if you don’t need the money per se). Do something fun or useful with the money. It’s yours.
Unless your parents are completely paying for the wedding (and even then, these are still YOUR gifts), I would simply graciously accept the money.
If they bought you a toaster, would you give that to your parents? They give money because it’s something that you can use… guaranteed.
Post # 4
@Aquaria: I often feel awkward about receiving gifts, but my grandma always says the best thing you can do is smile and say thank you. Make sure you send them a thank you note!!! It would be more awkward not to keep the money, they obviously wanted you to have it and they wouldn’t give more than they could afford. Remember they once got married, so they are probably just paying it forward.
Post # 5
I definitely feel awkward getting gifts. My friend offered to host another shower for me and I graciously agreed and thanked her but I just wanted to say, let’s just all go out instead of have a party to give me gifts. super awkward.