(Closed) Do you ever feel bad that FI spent too much on your ring?

posted 8 years ago in Rings
Post # 47
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351 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

We live comfortably, and I love my ring, but yes I do feel guilty about how much he spent. It is a lot of money to me, even if he says it wasn’t. It was within our expected budget, but still.

Post # 48
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1367 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Nope, I don’t feel bad because we spent less than $100. Yes, you read that right. I couldn’t have justified much more than that. I like antiques, and my band is more important and much more frequently worn anyway ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 49
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2392 posts
Buzzing bee

@weddingbee098:  

No, because we stayed out of the brick and mortar jewelry stores and didn’t pay the outrageous mark-up. 

Post # 50
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15528 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

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@CanadianBride456:  I’m not saying it’s not a lot of money.  I do think that it’s a lot fo money, but most people my age I know have homes that are 600k up to 900k… so with cost of housing and living in mind, in the grand scheme here, 25k isn’t *a lot* comparatively and the difference between spending that on a ring, or not, isnt going to be life changing.  And it seems like people who live in high cost of living area with higher incomes, usually have more disposable income also. 

Post # 51
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Bumble bee

sometimes I feel guilty, because although I don’t know an exact dollar amount, I know it was expensive. However, I will wear this exact ring forever, and there will be no upgrades, so not really. It’s not like we would have done something else amazing with the money instead. He spent what he wanted to spend and I’m OK with that ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 52
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263 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2003

I feel like I have been with him long enough. We’ve been married 10 years. And upgraded from my first ring that was $13k. we are in our 40’s now so I deserve this new one! 

Post # 53
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8031 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

Don’t feel the slightest bit bad!

Post # 54
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1935 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

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@Treejewel19:  Word for word what I would have said. 

I don’t feel bad at all. He got what he could afford easily and I got what I wanted. I’d marry him with no ring at all, but I’m sure glad I got the one I did!

Post # 55
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1117 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I know exactly how much he spent on the ring and despite how much I adore the ring, I feel like he could’ve skipped the ring all together. But I said I wanted a romantic traditional proposal since nothing else about our relationship has been traditional. So he figured if I wanted traditional and romantic, he was going to get the ring.

Post # 56
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - DD born 2015 DS born 2017

@weddingbee098:  I do. We’re not strapped for cash, but I told Fiance after he surprise-proposed that he didn’t have to dpend so much on it (and he knows how money-conscious I am), but he *wanted* to. So that was that ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 57
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766 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@weddingbee098:  I don’t feel bad at all, honestly. He gave me a budget of $3500 when we began talking about getting engaged. I chose one that was a little under $1000 (but oh so sparkly). I think we both felt really good about that decision. 

Post # 58
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164 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Nope! He spent way more then I would have wanted, but he loves saying this ring is forever. Wish I could get him to think that way on other wedding things, he keeps saying I spent x on your ring because you will wear it everyday of your life, flowers live only one day ๐Ÿ˜‰ lol

Post # 59
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511 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

No. Mine is an heirloom but, I had picked out a very expensive ring before I knew I was getting the heirloom.  I would not have felt guilty about it. I loved that ring so much and would have never taken it off. I hope to have it as a RHR someday and won’t feel bad about it when I do. 

Post # 60
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2836 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@weddingbee098:  No because I didn’t let him spend much.  You’re right….it’s a piece of metal and a stone- and it’s a damn finger decoration.  Do I love it?  Yep.  It’s a very nice diamond, just on the smaller side.  I’d hate to look at my finger and EVER think “oh, I wish we could have ____________, instead of us standing here wishing while we evil eye my finger” LOL  

Post # 61
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876 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Even though my ring cost quite a bit, I have never felt bad about it. My Fiance makes very good money (I’m finishing up my PhD so not yet making much money), we are not strapped for cash, and we don’t indulge often in expensive things. Plus, he is so proud of it! I will likely get an expensive wedding band to go with it and I won’t feel bad about it either…

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