Do you ever feel guilty for being happy?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Nope. I don’t feel guilty for being happy. I think everyone creates their own happiness. 

Post # 4
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786 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Nope.  I feel sad that some people can’t be as happy as I am but I never feel bad about it

Post # 5
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807 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Not at all. Happiness is in large part about how a person responds to what life throws their way. In my opinion, it’s a choice.

But I do sometimes feel guilty when things I can’t control go well for me. It’s one thing if I can say “Oh, this happened because I worked hard/earned this”…but sometimes (ok a lot of times) good things just happen, and I sometimes feel a little guilty about that if someone close to me is going through a rough time.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

NO…wait…let me check..yeah..NO! 

I walk through this life with a smile on my face and a roll of Life Savers in my pocket, I’m not sure if I’m emotionally impervious or slightly insane…but it took me a very long time to discover that I was the exception and not the rule….to me life is just too much fun to waste any time on being sad or angry…and it’s funny, that kind of happiness is terribly infectious! 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rosehill Community Center

I sometimes feel guilty for being happy.  Definitely.  My mom has breast cancer, and for the first few weeks I felt guilty every time I laughed or had fun.  I cancelled a camping trip because I didn’t want to have a good weekend when she was dealing with such sucky news.  I finally got over that because I realized my mom doesn’t want me to stop my life during this, that wasn’t helping at all.

But sometimes I stop and think about how lucky and happy I am, and some people are so unfortunate.  Like when I am driving home from the store, perfectly content, and there is a homeless teenager sitting on the sidewalk.  I start feeling a little guilty then.  Maybe that’s just feeling guilty for being so fortunate to have a comfortable life, though…

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Analyzing and picking apart my own happiness would be counter productive.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

ALL. THE. TIME. Why? Because I have fantastic luck while my friends and family have horrible luck. In the time that I got engaged and married my grandmother got cancer, one friend almost lost her first baby to an incredibly RARE heart defect, another friend dealt with the arrest of her ex after he raped her sister and the fallout from that. Yeah. That’s just an example. In that time I paid off a ton of debt, went on a couple vacations, planned and paid for a wedding in full after getting in engaged, had the wedding, and haven’t said much of anything. Why? Because these people have dramatic lives with things constantly going wrong. I’d feel bad to rub my good fortune in their faces. And they aren’t terribly interested either. So I enjoy things and move on and some people are none the wiser.

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper

ABSOLUTELY not.  I feel sad for friends that are going through rough times and struggles, but I do not feel guilty for the happiness and joy I’ve created in my own life (or for it ‘falling into my lap’).  Life has it’s ups and downs and I try to appreciate the up times because I know the down times can be just around the corner.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

No because happiness breeds happiness – the more the better! Guilt is a negative emotion so I try not to feel guilty. However, I DO feel sad for other’s unhappiness and try to help them.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Nope, and I don’t really think about things like this.  I am certainly grateful for my life and privilege, but I don’t feel guilty and I don’t think it’s productive to focus like this.  I’m glad you’re seeing a life coach to get you help! That’s a great idea.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

This never seemed to be an issue for me, that I can remember, before I met my Fiance and we had our son. Soon after our son was born and we become engaged my closest “friends” would say and do things that really made me  feel guilty for finally being in a really happy place in my life. Needless to say, me and those “friends” rarely speak anymore and my guilt is no longer exsistant. Lifes too short to have others pull us down and not allow ourselves to be happy as can be! I hope you’re able to over come the feeling of guilt and live a truly happy & glorious life!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Happiness is what you make it. You can have very little and be deliriously happy with it, you can have everything and be miserable. Happiness is not a result of having a “perfect” life, it’s a result of thinking your life, no matter how actually imperfect, is perfect for you.

So I guess, no, I’m not at all guilty because my life hasn’t been perfect, but I’m deliriously happy with what I have. There’s not guilt to be had there.

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

No. Everyone makes thier own happiness and I have worked hard to achieve my own happiness. I am grateful for everything I have.  I do feel sad for those less fortunate than I, but not guilty. I do my best to give to charity and perform community service in order to give back what I can. 

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@MrsFuzzyFace

I can relate. At times I have felt God, I’m so fortunate. And sometimes not so much obviously but I can definitely relate to that feeling.

@nowdontletsbesilly +1

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