Post # 1
Someone asked me this recently and yeah, I think I do. This often manifests by me going out of my way to try to help everyone, trying to fix things for people (like their lives), and sometimes being taken advantage of because of it. I am working on it but I feel like my life is way better than I deserve. I am actually seeing a life coach who has made me understand for the first time that I am sabotaging my happiness out of guilt. Crazy, I know, but I never thought of it that way. Surely I am not the only one that gets sucked into “great life guilt”, right?
Post # 3
Nope. I don’t feel guilty for being happy. I think everyone creates their own happiness.
Post # 4
Nope. I feel sad that some people can’t be as happy as I am but I never feel bad about it
Post # 5
Not at all. Happiness is in large part about how a person responds to what life throws their way. In my opinion, it’s a choice.
But I do sometimes feel guilty when things I can’t control go well for me. It’s one thing if I can say “Oh, this happened because I worked hard/earned this”…but sometimes (ok a lot of times) good things just happen, and I sometimes feel a little guilty about that if someone close to me is going through a rough time.
Post # 6
NO…wait…let me check..yeah..NO!
I walk through this life with a smile on my face and a roll of Life Savers in my pocket, I’m not sure if I’m emotionally impervious or slightly insane…but it took me a very long time to discover that I was the exception and not the rule….to me life is just too much fun to waste any time on being sad or angry…and it’s funny, that kind of happiness is terribly infectious!
Post # 7
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rosehill Community Center
I sometimes feel guilty for being happy. Definitely. My mom has breast cancer, and for the first few weeks I felt guilty every time I laughed or had fun. I cancelled a camping trip because I didn’t want to have a good weekend when she was dealing with such sucky news. I finally got over that because I realized my mom doesn’t want me to stop my life during this, that wasn’t helping at all.
But sometimes I stop and think about how lucky and happy I am, and some people are so unfortunate. Like when I am driving home from the store, perfectly content, and there is a homeless teenager sitting on the sidewalk. I start feeling a little guilty then. Maybe that’s just feeling guilty for being so fortunate to have a comfortable life, though…
Post # 8
Analyzing and picking apart my own happiness would be counter productive.
Post # 9
ALL. THE. TIME. Why? Because I have fantastic luck while my friends and family have horrible luck. In the time that I got engaged and married my grandmother got cancer, one friend almost lost her first baby to an incredibly RARE heart defect, another friend dealt with the arrest of her ex after he raped her sister and the fallout from that. Yeah. That’s just an example. In that time I paid off a ton of debt, went on a couple vacations, planned and paid for a wedding in full after getting in engaged, had the wedding, and haven’t said much of anything. Why? Because these people have dramatic lives with things constantly going wrong. I’d feel bad to rub my good fortune in their faces. And they aren’t terribly interested either. So I enjoy things and move on and some people are none the wiser.
Post # 10
ABSOLUTELY not. I feel sad for friends that are going through rough times and struggles, but I do not feel guilty for the happiness and joy I’ve created in my own life (or for it ‘falling into my lap’). Life has it’s ups and downs and I try to appreciate the up times because I know the down times can be just around the corner.
Post # 11
No because happiness breeds happiness – the more the better! Guilt is a negative emotion so I try not to feel guilty. However, I DO feel sad for other’s unhappiness and try to help them.
Post # 12
Nope, and I don’t really think about things like this. I am certainly grateful for my life and privilege, but I don’t feel guilty and I don’t think it’s productive to focus like this. I’m glad you’re seeing a life coach to get you help! That’s a great idea.
Post # 13
This never seemed to be an issue for me, that I can remember, before I met my Fiance and we had our son. Soon after our son was born and we become engaged my closest “friends” would say and do things that really made me feel guilty for finally being in a really happy place in my life. Needless to say, me and those “friends” rarely speak anymore and my guilt is no longer exsistant. Lifes too short to have others pull us down and not allow ourselves to be happy as can be! I hope you’re able to over come the feeling of guilt and live a truly happy & glorious life!
Post # 14
Happiness is what you make it. You can have very little and be deliriously happy with it, you can have everything and be miserable. Happiness is not a result of having a “perfect” life, it’s a result of thinking your life, no matter how actually imperfect, is perfect for you.
So I guess, no, I’m not at all guilty because my life hasn’t been perfect, but I’m deliriously happy with what I have. There’s not guilt to be had there.
Post # 15
No. Everyone makes thier own happiness and I have worked hard to achieve my own happiness. I am grateful for everything I have. I do feel sad for those less fortunate than I, but not guilty. I do my best to give to charity and perform community service in order to give back what I can.
Post # 16
I can relate. At times I have felt God, I’m so fortunate. And sometimes not so much obviously but I can definitely relate to that feeling.