(Closed) Do You Ever Feel Judged By Others Because the Ring Was Bought Online?

posted 8 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Do You Ever Feel Judged By Others Because The Ring Was Bought Online?

    Yes, and it bothers me

    No, no judgement here!

    Yes, but I don't let it bother me

    Other (explaining below)

  • Post # 18
    Member
    1768 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 1997

    I’ve never been asked where my diamond rings were bought. People have admired them but never asked me anything personal about “realness” or where they were bought!

    My engagement ring has a center stone a smidge over a carat, while it is in the colorless range and sparkles nicely, it is obviously not perfect nor huge.  I think people wearing stones that are very large and perfect appearing may be more likely to get questions about where their rings come from etc?

    Yes I can see how someone would think it “unusual” to buy a diamond  online. Even with grading standards, diamond appearance can be so different IRL. Think maybe more of the being “judged” is related to buying a diamond lookalike vs where it was actually purchased?

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    @babybee92:you said: “my best friend got an amazing diamond (think D, IF, etc) from a local brick and mortar store. When she told me how much he paid, I was FLOORED..”

    Yep, quality definitely costs! Hence the proliferation of so many diamond sims . 

    Post # 19
    Member
    384 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    No, when people ask me I just tell them that my ring came from Jewellery by Garo in NY. No need to mention that it was an online shop on eBay.

    Post # 21
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    289 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I have been asked this question a few times and I’ve never noticed any attitude. But I do live in Australia and stores mark up prices just because they can, so its definitely worth while buying things online

    Post # 22
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    542 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    No one has ever asked me where my ring was from, but I have to admit I did not love that my ring was purchased online from blue nile. I know it doesn’t matter but still I wish it was purchased in store.

    Post # 23
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    1044 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    The only ones that questioned the online ordering was FH’s parents. At the time Future Mother-In-Law was 78 and Future Father-In-Law was 80.

    Post # 24
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    2909 posts
    Sugar bee

    I voted “other” because I have never been asked where my ring came from, nor has it ever occurred to me to ask anyone else! I wouldn’t judge, though.

    Post # 25
    Member
    2949 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    The only thing remotely close to judgement that I’ve experience was my mother expressing concern about the reputability of the places we were purchasing from.

    Post # 26
    Hostess
    2997 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    no one has asked but honestly I can give a shit what people think about where my ring was purchase…seriously how petty (sorry about the language!

    Post # 28
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    4639 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    not for blue nile because blue nile has a really good reputation. but people are still very skeptical about ebay for sure.

    Post # 29
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    1 posts
    Wannabee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    Being honest, on line was the only way to go.  We got a 1.5 carat perfect diamond E, IF or VVSI, ideal cut for $20,000 which was valued at $38900 by a gemologist.   

    He was a bit cranky at my darling fiancee as he said that internet providers are destroying the local bricks and mortar jewellery model.  But in the next breath, that as a consumer he would do the same thing.

    We bought from blue nile as many people have had great experiences with them.  I do have a bit of a soft spot for the August vintage at Good old Gold.   Pity they are so far away from Australia, we didn’t have the confidence to buy a cushion over the internet.  But a round brillant…   with the HCA guide with perfect proportions it was a steal. 

    Scary to think I have a car on my finger. 

    Post # 30
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    8683 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I dont think anyone has really asked where it has come from. Mine didnt come from online but our store has a website. James Allen has an office half an hour from

    me in NYC. I dont see why it would matter if it was offline vs a brick and mortar store.

    Post # 31
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    628 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @babybee92:  when I took my engagement ring and wedding band to the jeweler he looked at my engagement ring and said “this…this is a work of art” and then he showed me the wedding band and said “internet eh? you got what you paid for”. I’m not wearing the wedding band yet so it isn’t bothering me.

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