Post # 1
Neither hubby nor I are really social people, so obviously our calendar is not overflowing with things to do. It’s a weird feeling, but a lot of times I don’t think that I ‘mesh’ well with other people my age because my viewpoints are so different and I’m just not into a lot of things that they like. We don’t party or hang out in bars, and we’re not super-intellectuals that like to sit in coffee shops for hours discussing poetry or politics (although I DO like poetry 🙂 Although we are Christian, we don’t attend church on a regular basis, and the idea of going to church to have more of a social life seems really off to me so that’s out.
It just seems like there aren’t a whole lot of options of things to do for younger married couples WITH other couples that don’t involve partying. My partying days are over, and they did not leave me with fond memories anyways so I don’t care to go there again.
My best friend lives here, but her work schedule is COMPLETELY opposite from mine, and I hardly ever get to see her. It’s a total downer. The other few people who I call friends, but are more like acquaintances, are always busy. We have mutual friends that he works with, and we manage to all go out as a group about once every month or two (usually bowling) but that’s it.
So most evenings are spent at home, watching TV or with him playing video games & me on WB. I feel like a loser 🙁
By The Way – I wasn’t sure what category this would go in, so I put in under Weddingbee. It seems like I always blow up the lounge boards with my posts, so I tried something new.
Post # 3
Don’t feel like a loser; that is pretty much the extent of my evenings, too! I wish it were different, but people I consider friends moved away. We are close with his family, but that’s it. But that’s what we’re here for!
Post # 4
Honestly I kind of feel like a loser too. I haven’t made any friends since I moved here back in August and this is the only socialization I get other than at classes.
Post # 5
I’ve felt the same way recently. I’ve never been big into drinking, and go out maybe once every 3 months to a bar. He doesn’t really drink a lot either and really doesn’t go out too much either. My SO and I aren’t really religious, so a church group wouldn’t help. It just is really hard to meet people when you aren’t into partying. I don’t really have any advice except that I know how you feel. I keep hoping as people get a little older they will give up on partying. :-/
Post # 6
Wait, is that a bad thing?! Cuz then I’z in trouble!
Post # 7
@ Amaryllis – Thank you. That makes me feel a little better 🙂 I guess part of it is moving on from one stage of life to the next maybe? As I grew up, I left certain things behind but in doing so, I don’t know what to fill those voids with.. When I do meet someone who I think I could be friends with, I get shy for some reason and I don’t ask them if they want to do anything cuz I don’t want to seem like a weirdo lol. It’s harder to make friends the older you get, at least it is for me. Plus, you really have to watch out who you call your friend cuz I’ve been stabbed in the back by a lot of ‘friends’.
Post # 8
what, you mean we all don’t have TONS of time to be social?! What?!
the most social i ever got was college, probably b/c i was in a sorority. It was good for me, now I enjoy the quiet. At the time, I enjoyed the hustle and bustle.
Post # 9
I am 100% with all you ladies on this one, too!
It’s nice to have a positive community here 🙂
Post # 10
Yeah, sometimes I do. I’m really busy with school and work most of the time, and my friends here are having some very personal weird problems… so I like coming to weddingbee as a good social refuge 🙂
Post # 11
I totally feel that way lol.. I have a huge group of virtual girlfriends. I work full time, own my own business with the SO, and im in school 14 hours so I dont have much time to go out and make friends. I have lived in Atlanta most of my life but have slowly pulled myself away from the crowds I used to hang with. very presumptuous people who party every weekend and drink all the time, and were my “friends” when it was convenient for them…
Post # 12
I’m blessed with great friends, but Fiance and I have been trying so hard to save money that weekend after weekend I turn down the invites to go out. Fiance and I usually sit at home, watch a movie, or he’ll watch sports/play games while I go on here. When I come home from work I come on here and think about wedding stuff. I’m starting to fear what happens after the wedding!! I’ll still be on here, but I’ll miss all the planning fun.
It’s so nice to be able to talk to people who are wedding-minded! Like I said in another post, I do fear overwhelming people IRL with my wedding talk.
Post # 13
Im with you all too! I don’t post too much because I am shy (working on that) but I feel like anything I sasy is respected and taken without judgment. Even though I am waiting, the wedding ideas have been so helpful and I am getting great inspiration while I wait a few more months! Going to school and working has made it tough for me to keep strong relationship with the friends I do have, beyond the basic “hey , how are you”.
Post # 14
Yes, I have no job, and I don’t know anyone of my age near my house (we moved in July), and I have no car…
Boyfriend or Best Friend has a job/car/things you would think to lead to a social life, but he is shy, and he says just about everyone at his job is married with children, and not really into “hanging out”.