Post # 1
It is five weeks untill my wedding and I am not convined that I am totally happy with my dress.
My fiance and I only got engaged in November and decided we wanted a small weddng, quite soon (we weren’t bothered for a big wedding so we didn’t see why we should wait 18 months). However this did not leave me much time to fine a dress. Also as you all probably know, when you work full time that doesn’t leave much time for dress hunting and wedding planning.
I don’t dislike my dress, but I’m not in love with it. It’s very simple and it suits my body shape. But I have seen a 1000 dresses I like more.
It’s all paid for and the alterations done so my mum would be very annoyed if I said I wasn’t going to wear it and I don’t plan to do that, I just hope that I can get some beautiful accessories so that I will eventually love the whole ensemble.
Anyone else feel like this?
Post # 3
Yes. I think its only human nature to always have at least a little tingling of wanting something that we dont have. I love my dress, I’ve paid off over $600 on it (which is a big deal because my starting budget was only $500) and they dont do refunds or trade outs at the store. So theres no chance that I would be switching it. But I do still wonder if maybe I shouldnt have been too hasty. Or maybe if I could have found the Casablanca 1900 (my dream dress) that mabye it would have been even more perfect. Or maybe I should have went with a dress I tried on at DB. Theres always what ifs.
Sorry, I just realized this was basically just a bunch of rambling. But its 6am and I havent been to bed yet, so thats my excuse.
Post # 4
@allyfally: Agree. I loved my dress and still do nearly 2 years later. But I still ask the ‘ifs’
Post # 5
I think there will always be a better dress. i know I found 2 I wish we’re available when I was shopping. As pp said its definitely human nature.
Post # 6
@CatyLady: +1 Totally what you said. I still love the dress I chose for my wedding day, but man alive I wish I could wear more wedding dresses LOL!
Post # 7
I feel your pain only in reverse. I tried on probably too many, asked too many people’s opinions and in the end probably spent too much money. My regret now is I went over my budget and I keep having to justify that in my mind. I love the dress but the whole process was not as wonderful as I thought it would be. I’m sure once you get your jewellery and accessories together you feel much better about it.
Post # 8
Let me preface what I’m about to say with I’m going back to the shop this weekend to try on the dress I bought AND another option because I’m torn between the two lol…
there are so many beautiful dresses out there it really is hard to pick just 1 (I sorta wish I had 5 days to wear all the styles/looks I like) but it really boils down to owning what you wear & remembering the dress isn’t why you’re there that day. There’s so much pressure put on finding the “perfect dress” but if you found something you look great in & it’s in your budget, rock the hell out of it!
Post # 9
@catherinequince: could you post a pic! I am sure it looks great!
Post # 10
@pengoala: Yes so agree! I don’t think though I could get away with wearing one to work on Monday lol
Post # 11
Nope. Nothing is every going to be perfect. You just have to decide if your dress works for you and it sounds like it does.
Post # 12
I’m beginning to understand this feeling as well. I’ve tried on MANY dresses and I still don’t know what the heck I want! I kept telling myself it was because we haven’t signed for our venue, but I just emailed them to lock in our date and I still don’t know if I’ll find the right dress. I think a lot of it has to do with the fact that many dresses I’ve tried on cost much more than I thought I wanted to spend (found a style and tried many in that style/price range). Now I’m looking at dresses that are only a few hundred dollars and I’m like, ya… that’s the direction I want to go. I’ve luckily not purchased anything yet, but boy am I started to understand when ladies have dress regret now!!!
Post # 13
I think the definition of the “perfect dress” varies from person to person. My “perfect dress,” was one that fit well, looked good, and that my mom and sister approved of. I really love the dress and it had all the elements I wanted. However, there are a 1000 dresses that could also have met my criteria of what I originally wanted. I had to stop looking once I found one I really loved. If I had looked longer and went to more than one store I would have had a harder time I think.
Post # 14
Yes, I know how you feel. Almost 2 years later and I still wish I had been able to find a lace wedding dress. I tried on a lace dress that I loved, but the shop owner had put me in a discontinued dress (and the sample was 2 sizes too small). My wedding dress was tafffeta, suited me ok, had elements I wanted and really loved, but wasn’t everything I wanted. However, my husband is everything I’ve ever wanted…..so I ended up with the better deal. 🙂
If I ever win the lottery I’m totally buying another wedding dress…..even if all I do is wear it around the house. 🙂
Post # 15
I think there is so much pressure on brides to get it “perfect” (dress, venue, food, music, favors…) But i think when you look back on your wedding photos 30 years from now, you’re just going to see how happy you were!
Post # 16
@catherinequince: I was not in love with my dress. In fact I still gaze at gowns thinking what *would* I have gotten instead. But it was a good deal and it looks good on me and made good photos. All is good!