Post # 1
Like nobody likes you? And like evreyone has more friends than you? I don’t know whats going on with me lately, but i’ve just been feeling awful about myself and like no one likes me. I had a pretty wide circle of friends once upon a time, but because of time and life my circle has gotten smaller and smaller, and the couples and singles have kind of separated. I still see my single friends, but now i feel like a last resort to them – if they’ve got nothing better to do they’ll get together with me but mostly they still go out heaps and are trying to meet people. We have a few couple friends who we get together with reasonably frequently, but this weekend for example, they’re all busy or away and i just feel like there is NO ONE else that i can hang out with, whereas once upon a time I had lots of people i could just call up out of the blue to hang out. I love my fiance dearly and we have a great time together, but i worry that if we keep going at this rate we’ll end up isolated and alone!
Does anyone ever feel this way? whaaah why doesn’t anyone liiiiiikkkkkeeee meeeeee???
Post # 3
Maybe try getting involved in some community activities with or without Fiance and make some new friends; it’s hard and takes a few months to really call new people friends but when Fiance and I moved to a new state its what we had to do. I know what you mean about single friends and couple friends…sometimes you feel like everone is busy and you’re all alone. Don’t fret, get out there and try to make more friends! There’s nothing wrong with you, its just human nature for friendships to fade or people to be busy and not have time for us when we need them. Good luck! You can do it!
Post # 4
I feel exactly the same way. =(
Post # 5
@ScarletBegonia: I don’t think it’s that no one likes you. Honestly, through my life I have had many different types of friends. Some of those friendships last and some don’t. It’s not because we don’t like one another, but more of that our lives have moved in different directions and our friendships fizzled. It happens to everyone.
What I have come to learn over the years is that my family are my best friends. And other than that I have two other girlfriends that I would not be able to live without in my life. Those are the friendships I make honest effort for. The friendships I refuse to let fizzle. My family (FI’s family included) (and two girls that really are part of that family in all honesty) are filled with friends and the most important people in my life. The ones who will always love me and vice versa.
At the same time, we have friends that we see occasionally. Hang out with from time to time. Mostly couples. And some singles. But I don’t take it to heart if we don’t hang out all the time. Or if the single friends don’t invite me out to meet and greet. They’re in a different place in their lives than I am. But when I do go… I make sure to have a good time.
Just be willing to make an effort for the friendships you really want to keep. And don’t get down on yourself.
Chin up buttercup!
Post # 6
*raises hand* il be your friend
Post # 7
aw thanks! Yes lets be friends please 🙂
Thanks for your words ladies…its totally one of those moods where you just need someone to tell you SNAP THE EFF OUT OF IT. Michaela, I agree with you that I need to get out there and do new things and meet new people, i just can never seem to get my ass going. I’ve joined a pilates studio and walk home with a new girl every week which is slowly building up to friendship, but i need to do more. And Mrs. tobe, you are dead on about the solid, lifelong friends. I know they are there, but it still does get me down when i feel like they don’t have time for me. And totally agree about family – living around the world from my entire family has really put that into perspective – the first few times i went home to visit i was all about setting up catch ups with every friend and having huge nights out every night, whereas now 99% of the time i’m hanging out with the family.
Anyway – thanks again for all your words – i think i’m coming out of my funk and feeling alot better. xxxxx
Post # 8
I understand what you’re saying but you’ve just got to remember that there are times when THEY want to do something but YOU’RE busy. It’s all swings and roundabouts.
Post # 9
I’ll be friends, too!
you definitely aren’t alone. I think everyone has moments like that, whether they want to admit it or not!
Post # 10
Yeah, I always had a few good friends adn some acquaintances to hang out with. I’ve found that after you leave school its really hard to meet new people and find friends. I’ve found it hard to find people I get along with really well. Try picking up hobbies (like I joined a vball league which helped).
Post # 11
@ScarletBegonia: i think and have had this happen over time everyone grows up differently and goes in different directions. And yes you do get that feeling and it also hurts when you have FB and you see all your “single” friends go out but you werent invited. Chin up my love, smile and love life!!
Im currently going through the same feeling as well so if you need to PM me and im happy to listen if you need to talk =)
Post # 12
were your freinds !! calll us ! lol
i wish all the bees on this site could hang out and chill… its okay girl every1 feels like that at times. youll meet new people that will always want to hang out , out of the blue. xoxo
Post # 13
Aww again ladies thanks for cheering this silly girl up! I also wish i could meet you guys in person – wouldn’t life be great if it was as easy to connect with people in person as it is online?
I turned 30 a couple of weeks ago, and i think that i thought all this insecurity about friendships would end eventually..but maybe its something that goes on forever, but people just don’t talk about as much as they get older!
Post # 14
Oh man I definitely feel like this a lot. Especially as the wedding gets nearer. I never get calls or texts telling me about outings that my “friends” are having anymore. It also seems like the more I try to make up my absence to them, the less they care. Oh well guess we aren’t meant to have “friends for life”.