(Closed) Do you ever just feel alone?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I’m sorry that you’re having a hard time πŸ™ 

I read the post you wrote earlier today, and saw how pretty much everyone disagreed with you. Now, I know the Bee is all about honesty and I love that! But I wondered if it would hurt your feelings at all. I didn’t comment on the post.

I know it wasn’t a big deal or anything, and you obviously have more trivial things going on in your life that are contributing to you feeling this way, but I just wanted to reply so that you could feel maybe a little better πŸ™‚

I’m glad that you have you fiance to lean on. Things will be looking up soon, girl!

P.S. If my SO will ever propose soon, I’m hoping we’ll be date twins πŸ™‚

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Any of those things that you mentioned (school, your mom’s health, etc.) are stressful enough by themselves.  Add a few of them together, and no wonder you’re feeling overburdened and stressed out! Take it one day (or hour or minute) at a time, and be thankful for the wonderful fiance you have who supports you and listens to you.

When I’m feeling overwhelmed I try to remind myself that God won’t give me more than I can handle and that everything will work out in the end.  Hang in there – you’re not alone! πŸ™‚

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I feel the same way. While I have all the support in the world when it comes to college, I don’t get much in the way of wedding planning or in my basic social life. My mother hates my FH, my grandparents think I’m making a big mistake, my stepdad thinks I’m making a mistake… I only have 3 friends, none of which I can really talk to in the way of the wedding, so I turn to the Bee.

I know how it feels when people tell you to calm down and relax. Sometimes it’s just not what you want to hear and you have no idea how anyone could tell you to calm down when you’re dealing with so many different things. I too am dealing with the stresses of college, I have poor health and I have wedding planning to do alone.

I have a wonderful FH but he’s about as emotional as a stick and sometimes it’s hard to talk to him because he really doesn’t have anything to say to make me feel better. Especially when it comes to wedding related things.

I know that sometimes I really do just need to calm down and relax, but that’s easier said than done.

I can’t really give you any advice but I know how you feel.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

You’re not alone in the way you feel. I personally get like this all the time. I suffer with Bipolar Affective Disorder (a serious mental health condition incase you’ve never heard of it), and due to that I often feel like people are always expecting me to do things wrong, and that people don’t understand me. I too have a lot of added stress in my life, so things are never easy. It’s always difficult to find support, and like you, I only really have my Fiance to turn to. It can be difficult to know who to turn to, but I’ve learnt that talking about how I’m feeling to those who I want to listen really does help. I’ve always felt like I couldn’t talk to my mum and my sister about my feelings as I didn’t want to worry them. This year is the first year I’ve really opened up to my mum, and although she has her own stressful things going on, she wanted to help take the worries from me. It’s okay to have bad days, but try not to let things permanently get you down. Smile in the knowledge that you’ve found a great person to spend the rest of your life with. I wish you all the happiness in the world x

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

i understand where you are coming from completly… I feel like no one but Fiance cares all the time… What i do to get threw it all is just take a step back and RELAX. Fi keeps telling me no one can make me happy but me.

Everyone is diffrent But when I am having what i call a “Off day” I try to Make sure to appreciate the little things and get your self a small treat even if it is as little as a candy bar or as big as a spa day. I hope you start feeling better!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I feel that way a lot! I could have written the exact same post πŸ™ I’m so sorry you feel this way because it sucks! If you ever need someone to talk to go ahead and PM me, okay?:)

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@agirlwithdreams7: I am sorry dear, I know a lot about feeling lonely… just read the majority of my posts lol. I know a lot of people have said it but I am always here if you need to talk πŸ™‚

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@agirlwithdreams7: I agree, I’m sorry some people were kind of rude! I really hope you get to feeling better. And that is so sweet about your 3 year anniversary date! I wanted to do it on our 3 year (November 22nd) but that falls on a Tuesday, soo….haha. I am hoping for Dec 17th because it will be during my break before my last semster, and logically it is the ONLY time we coud get married for a couple of years (long story). So, like I said, boy needs to put a ring on it soon! πŸ˜‰

Are you doing a winter theme at all?

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

God I can totally relate. I literall dont have any fam any more, friends are great but they are just friends…I rely very heavily on my Darling Husband and his fam, at the moment I am finding it very hard to connect with him at all, and therefore feel very alone!

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@agirlwithdreams7: I like many others can of course relate to what you are going through. It sounds like you have many things on your plate at the moment and sometimes all a person wants in the world is to have a good vent and get kind words back…even if in hindsight you realize you should let it go.

That said, I have noticed that on many of your posts people pile on and are just plain RUDE! There is no reason for certain people people to attack your every word and assume things about you. I haven’t read all your posts but it is a trend. I would just note the people that constantly attack you (because if you look on the other threads they are the same people who are rude and/or instigators) and anytime they say something just completely disregard them. These people have a vendetta for whatever reason–maybe they are miserable and just taking it out on others.

Feel loved, you are not alone ::hugs::

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

@agirlwithdreams7: I feel exactly like you feel, especially today.  I’ve noticed that there are a few people who’s comments sound rude, but I just give them the benefit of the doubt that they are being “direct.”  I don’t know, makes me feel better somehow lol.  I am stuck at home alone having to write a freaking law school paper while Fiance enjoys his day at the pool with his friends.  The weather is beautiful for the first time in forever and I can’t enjoy it.  I have the same exact things going on that you posted as well.  Know you’re not alone.  It’s funny because I’ve noticed that those people who tell you to relax and calm down react the same way when put in the situation.  Hope you feel better!

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