(Closed) Did you/Do you ever lie about when you'll TTC?

posted 5 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Soon2BeeMrsG:  Yep, I have been telling people the same thing.  I say we are just enjoying being newlyweds for now and will maybe try sometime next year, possibly after our first anniversary.  In reality we started to try on the honeymoon but I really didn’t want people to know we were trying in case it took longer than we hoped.  I don’t know that anyone really believes us when we say we will try next year as they know how much both of us wants a family but at least it puts a little bit of doubt in their heads about whether we are trying.  I wish people didn’t think it was appropriate to ask if you plan to have kids soon just because you are engaged or married.  I’ve been asked 4 times so far and I’ve only been married for about a month.  Most of the people who asked did so in front of a huge group of people as well.  Thanks for that.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

As soon as I had my ring on the first question was when are we getting married, second was when are we having kids. I shut people down, by telling them I didn’t know becoming engaged meant my sexlife and uterus were now to be public information.

This really got on my nerves, I told my parents and Fi has told his parents how annoyed I am, and I told them as soon as we are ready they will be the first to know.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I totally lied to people, we didn’t want the constant questions of if we were pregnant yet etc… so we told people we were waiting a while after the wedding. In all honesty we got pregnant way faster than we expected (we got our BFP about 3 weeks after our wedding) so we didn’t have much chance to get harassed about it.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Soon2BeeMrsG:  Yep, I am still telling people that and I am 9 weeks pregnant! 

As soon as we got married (and even before) people were asking it all the time and although we were TTC right after the wedding I didnt want anyone to know about it. Somethings are private!

 

Post # 8
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1137 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

We’re TTC right now and I’m still telling people we want to wait to have kids. No reason for them to be all up in our business 🙂

Post # 9
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881 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Soon2BeeMrsG:  First cycle off went great actually, I started charting and everything went as I expected it to.  However, my 2nd cycle seems to have gotten a bit messed up, it doesn’t look like I’m going to O this cycle.  I know it’s common to have an occassional anovulatory cycle and it’s also extremely common for your body to take some time to regulate itself after coming off the pill so I’m hoping it will just be a fluke month and hopefully I’ll O again next month so we can try again! This month’s cycle being a bit unpredicatble has made me glad I didn’t tell people we are trying.  Who knows what’s in store for us the next few months. 

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Yes, all the time. And I know exactly why I do it too: it takes the pressure off. I don’t want people knowing that we’re trying to get pregnant and constantly asking us and wondering when we’re going to get the positive/why we haven’t yet. 

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Soon2BeeMrsG:  We’ve only told a few people, and all but 2 of them were totally surprised and shocked (my mom included). My one aunt and uncle knew when my mom said “so… we have news..” and they guessed it. Other then that, it’s been a secret still since I’m only 9 weeks. We are waiting until 12-13 weeks to reveal the news to everyone.

Post # 12
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1423 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

We just say we aren’t planning on having children.  People stop asking really fast. 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@TwoCityBride:  I had to post a status on fb to get everybody to back off! so incredibly annoying!

even saying “we’re not planning on having any” jumpstarts the barrage of WHY? THEY’RE SO CUTE. Sorry people, children being cute is NOT a reason to have them! Don’t forget they don’t stay cute forever.

Post # 14
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Busy bee

@Soon2BeeMrsG:  I say “Oh, we are not trying for a while.”  And give this “ARE YOU CRAZY?” look. Lol. I’m young and my family is really judgemental about this. My cousin had to say that the condom broke with all of her children. 

Post # 15
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607 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

People are more likely to ask me when we are having kids, than when will we start trying. So I truthfully say, oh not for a little while. I we are CURRENTLY trying, but even if I’m pregnant right now, I won’t have a baby for at least 9 months, so it’s not a lie! 

Also, I know there are different motivations behind different people when they ask– my mom I’m sure already thinks I’ve let it go too long (I’m 31, she had her 3rd when she was 31); friends just having babies now want other people to have babies now too; friends who aren’t ready for babies want us to wait so they still have friends who can go out with. My answer is the same to all, “Oh not for a while”. 

Randomly, my landlord asked me! Same answer, but he was just worried we would move out of our one bedroom!

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

I tell people it’s  not even on our radar for another 3+ years, when in truth we’d like to be ready around the end of 2013.  I don’t want people asking me all the time how it’s going, or if we’ve “succeeded” yet– I expect it to take us alittle while due to medical issues, and I don’t want to have the added stress of everyone knowing each month that it didn’t happen when we wanted it to. 

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