(Closed) Do you ever miss being single?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 77
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Nope, my life hasn’t really changed much since getting married. I wasn’t exactly a different person while single/dating.

Post # 81
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Buzzing bee

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halfling:  I dress differently now, too. My husband doesn’t MAKE me dress differently, but I know what outfits are ‘attention getters’ and I’m not trying to get anyone else’s attention! When I go to the bar with my single girlfriends, I am always the most conservatively dressed. I don’t look like a dork or anything, but I’m not out in lowcut body con dresses like I did when I was single. Now I’m more likely in a shift dress I wore to work! 

Post # 82
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Bumble bee

I love being married, but there are things I miss about being single, too. I get over it when my single friends tell me about their dating adventures. No thank you!!!

Post # 84
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Helper bee

I mostly miss my old schedule from when I was single. I’m totally a morning person, so I would legitimately go to bed at 7-7:30 pm, then wake up super early and do chores before work. That way, when I’d get home from work I wouldn’t feel so bad being a total bum. But I want to spend time with SO in the evenings, and I don’t want to wake him up by busying myself in the mornings. So I sleep like a normal person now.

Post # 85
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015 - Ruby Princess

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MrsVes:  UGH, my husband and I are going through the same thing. He wants a bike desperately, but it just doesn’t make sense financially right now. And the fact that it’s dangerous and I could not bear to live without him if something happened.

I don’t miss dating. I do miss knowing how our tv works. I used to have 1 remote. Now we have 5. My husband does all the cleaning, so I let him slide with his 5 remotes. There are trade-offs for sure, but I love having my best friend around all the time.

I do really enjoy when he’s working late, and I get to watch HGTV nonsense and eat chips for dinner.  

Post # 86
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

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halfling:  I am half Indian and I really got the red hot curry gene πŸ™‚ I eat my curry hotter than anyone can stand it. I’ve ordered phall before and waiters have gathered round to watch me eat it. I try to be considerate with cooking curry and I add just a pinch of chili powder and even avoid fresh chili altogether so that it’s measurable and so that it’s mild enough for other people. It’s always way too hot though πŸ™ I think I’m going to try making a little pot for myself, and then I’ll get him to add the spices to his own pot. 

Post # 87
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Bee Keeper

I miss having just “me” time. Sometimes I just want to come home and not have a solitary conversation. 

Post # 88
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Blushing bee

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halfling:  not having your friendship and social groups must be really really tough!! Maybe join some classes where you can develop acquaintances? Maybe send your husband on a cookery course! 

 

Am I the only Bee here whose SO does all the cooking and general maintenance?! O_O

Post # 89
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Helper bee

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halfling:  It’s not that I miss being single, but sometimes I do miss the space I used to have before we got married and lived together. I love my husband more than anything, but sometimes I just want to shower and shave my legs alone, and lay on the bed playing candy crush without him silently judging me. πŸ˜‰

It can be an inconvenience to cook and clean and shop for two, and I completely understand that sometimes you might feel frustrated about that! I think that is a normal feeling to have sometimes (as long as it doesn’t lead into resentment). I felt this way earlier this week, and I talked to my husband. We agreed that having thirty minutes to ourselves when we get home from work would be beneficial, and it has really helped. Maybe you just need a little time to yourself. Remember, quality times is more importand than quantity of time! πŸ™‚

Post # 90
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

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halfling:  Awww, I understand that! It’s very considerate of you to cook for him, keeping his taste and preferences in mind! I’m sorry your friends live so far away. Please do buy your self something you feel amazing in. It’ll make you happy and confident; two very good qualities to have for incredible self-esteem IMO :D.

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