Post # 76
Yes! My DH is the same. I’ll have this nice cheaper or healthier meal planned and he’s like “Pizza sounds so good tonight!” Alrighty then haha. Luckily my meals are freezer friendly. 🙂
Agree 100%. I wouldn’t change it for anything. I remember when my husband left for basic it was such a change, I HATED being alone. Even though there are things I miss, I’d gladly give them up to be with my DH.
I would if I was still in my hometown. We had to move away from our hometown (where my friends are) to a new town and don’t know anyone. We are military, so everyone who lives near us is married. 🙁 Totally true about having someone to do things with. I hated nights being lonely before we were married.
Haha yup! My husband has a soda problem. He also likes salads and gournet sandwiches. That stuff adds up! 🙂
Post # 77
Nope, my life hasn’t really changed much since getting married. I wasn’t exactly a different person while single/dating.
Post # 78
Yeah I would never go back to dating again. I wouldn’t change being married for anything, there are just a couple little things that changed that I miss sometimes. My husband is the only one working, so his income pays for everything. He’s very sweet. He let’s me buy and make whatever foods I want, just sometimes I feel like it’s hard to make some things I want because he won’t help me eat them and I end up throwing leftovers away. I don’t think he would have any problems with us eating differently. It would just be more expensive and more time consuming for me. He can’t cook to save his life haha.
We are laid back with our free spending. He’s said I can buy whatever I want. I just feel guilty buying things that are too much because I’m not working and contributing to the income (personal thing). Same with clothes, he doesn’t police it. He’s told me he prefers longer shorts, but that’s because I’m curvier and shorts tend to ride up really high on me. But I’ve also gained weight and my shorts are tight. If it’s hot out he’s not going to tell me to wear jeans because he “disapproves” of my shorts. He understands. Also it’s just another personal thing with me. I’m just more aware now since getting married and my weight gain that my clothes are tighter and show more. It’s just my body type that’s hard to find clothes for. But I’m learning to sew and am working out more, so I am fixing this problem. And no, he doesn’t have any issue with my weight gain haha. In fact he says he prefers it to how I was when we were dating. But I hate my weight so I’m changing it. 🙂
I’m probably making up the actor thing too. I just feel weird making comments now about actors. Like when I was single my friend and I were watching GOT and making a joke that there was no way Jon Snow would still be a virgin if she lived back then haha. I just feel weird making those comments with my husband around now. I probably wouldn’t like it if he said that about an actress.
Post # 79
I’m glad I’m not the only one with a picky eater husband lol. Before when I was single I ate yogurt every morning, soup and an apple nearly everyday for lunch (if it was a long class day I had ham and cheese), then whatever I fancied for dinner…usually ethnic food. My husband would go crazy if he had such a repetitive diet lol. He also dislikes most ethnic food, except Japanese food.
He doesn’t say I can’t
wear things, don’t worry. 🙂 This is just a personal thing for me. And I gained weight so my clothes fit a bit tighter. I’m just more aware that people look. Whenever we visit home and I go out with my friends or I go to a convention I wear clothes that are much more fun like what I used to wear. He thinks it’s great when I’m able to do that. I wish I had the luxury of taking trips with friends! We live too far away from each other. 🙁 It’s mostly our current town. Our current town isn’t safe enough for me to go out by myself. And I wouldn’t dare wear short shorts where I live now. We live in a poorer (kind of ghetto for lack of a better word) town where people like to cat call and also a lot of young, bold, guys like to hit on chicks (married or not). If I lived in my hometown I’d go out by myself and have a day and not have to worry about that. It’s just tricky with our current living situation. It’s just creating some extra stress for both of us – we hate our current town so much. The fictional character/actor thing is just another personal thing for me. I wouldn’t really like it if he said he wanted to do some actress, so I feel weird saying it about an actor.
My husband is like this. I LOVE hot curries but it’s my husband’s least favorite food. :/ I still make it sometimes and I’ll just make him something else. But I don’t make it often because some of the ingredients are expensive.
Yes so much! My chest if one of the few things I really love (physically) about myself. So in high school and college I loved showing it off without a care. But now I just don’t think it’s really appropriate for me to do so. I’ve gotten a little older and now I feel so exposed when I wear V necks lol. I miss not caring about that sometimes. There are some tops I really love in stores, but when I try them on I just feel so….uncovered. I’m not sure about the independent thing. We both have hobbies we do alone, but we don’t have any friends where we live that we go out and do things with (separately). So maybe to a point. It was much easier in our hometown because all of our friends were there. We have the same friends so we’d either hang out in one big group of split up (boys and girls). It was nice having the best of both worlds.
That’s be great if he could cook lol. 🙂 I do sometimes. Sometimes I just do not want what he wants. I love to cook so I don’t mind making him what he feels like, that’s when I make what I want. I just try to too because it is more expensive. My husband doesn’t mind at all, it’s just another personal thing with me. Our grocery budget can get pretty pricey if I do that too often. I live away from my friends, so I can’t really go out with them. 🙁 But I will take you up on the clothes thing. I didn’t want to buy any new clothes because I keep telling myself I’m going to lose the weight. But it would be nice to have one outfit that fits super well. 🙂
I never thought about it that way. That makes a lot of sense, thanks 🙂
Post # 80
I’m like this too. 🙂 I love sleeping with him. But I get so antsy! I have sleeping issues and we don’t have a guest room. I practically sleep sideways and I’m a blanket hog. I also toss and turn a lot, but he has to get up really early for work so I try not to because I don’t want to wake him, but I just get so fidgety!
I know right! A bag of apples, a jar of PB, a variety of soups, a case of yogurt, tea mix ins and I was pretty much good. 🙂 I’d get some chicken and beef to make Korean Beef and Green curry. Serve that with rice and I was set on groceries. Not that simple when I have to feed someone else haha.
Post # 81
I dress differently now, too. My husband doesn’t MAKE me dress differently, but I know what outfits are ‘attention getters’ and I’m not trying to get anyone else’s attention! When I go to the bar with my single girlfriends, I am always the most conservatively dressed. I don’t look like a dork or anything, but I’m not out in lowcut body con dresses like I did when I was single. Now I’m more likely in a shift dress I wore to work!
Post # 82
I love being married, but there are things I miss about being single, too. I get over it when my single friends tell me about their dating adventures. No thank you!!!
Post # 83
Same, my husband doesn’t make me do or not do anything. But I live in a different area now where the people are more rude and more likely to make comments on how I dress. Before I wouldn’t care and just brush it off. But now if I wear something low cut and someone says something, it’s not only insulting to me, it’s insulting to my husband as well. That’s just the way I see it 🙂
Post # 84
I mostly miss my old schedule from when I was single. I’m totally a morning person, so I would legitimately go to bed at 7-7:30 pm, then wake up super early and do chores before work. That way, when I’d get home from work I wouldn’t feel so bad being a total bum. But I want to spend time with SO in the evenings, and I don’t want to wake him up by busying myself in the mornings. So I sleep like a normal person now.
Post # 85
- Wedding: October 2015 - Ruby Princess
UGH, my husband and I are going through the same thing. He wants a bike desperately, but it just doesn’t make sense financially right now. And the fact that it’s dangerous and I could not bear to live without him if something happened.
I don’t miss dating. I do miss knowing how our tv works. I used to have 1 remote. Now we have 5. My husband does all the cleaning, so I let him slide with his 5 remotes. There are trade-offs for sure, but I love having my best friend around all the time.
I do really enjoy when he’s working late, and I get to watch HGTV nonsense and eat chips for dinner.
Post # 86
I am half Indian and I really got the red hot curry gene 🙂 I eat my curry hotter than anyone can stand it. I’ve ordered phall before and waiters have gathered round to watch me eat it. I try to be considerate with cooking curry and I add just a pinch of chili powder and even avoid fresh chili altogether so that it’s measurable and so that it’s mild enough for other people. It’s always way too hot though 🙁 I think I’m going to try making a little pot for myself, and then I’ll get him to add the spices to his own pot.
Post # 87
I miss having just “me” time. Sometimes I just want to come home and not have a solitary conversation.
Post # 88
not having your friendship and social groups must be really really tough!! Maybe join some classes where you can develop acquaintances? Maybe send your husband on a cookery course!
Am I the only Bee here whose SO does all the cooking and general maintenance?! O_O
Post # 89
It’s not that I miss being single, but sometimes I do miss the space I used to have before we got married and lived together. I love my husband more than anything, but sometimes I just want to shower and shave my legs alone, and lay on the bed playing candy crush without him silently judging me. 😉
It can be an inconvenience to cook and clean and shop for two, and I completely understand that sometimes you might feel frustrated about that! I think that is a normal feeling to have sometimes (as long as it doesn’t lead into resentment). I felt this way earlier this week, and I talked to my husband. We agreed that having thirty minutes to ourselves when we get home from work would be beneficial, and it has really helped. Maybe you just need a little time to yourself. Remember, quality times is more importand than quantity of time! 🙂
Post # 90
Awww, I understand that! It’s very considerate of you to cook for him, keeping his taste and preferences in mind! I’m sorry your friends live so far away. Please do buy your self something you feel amazing in. It’ll make you happy and confident; two very good qualities to have for incredible self-esteem IMO :D.