(Closed) Do you ever miss your single life?

posted 9 years ago in Married Life
Post # 47
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Bumble bee

I did, when I first got engaged.  As thrilled as I was that everything was finally “official,” there was a part of me that also felt a little “bummed out” that this was “it” — I’m officially off the market.  There’s a sense of excitement and adventure I always felt when I was single (and even when I was just dating FI), wondering who my “Mr. Right” could be and meeting new people.  I loved that part!  But now that we’ve completely merged our lives together and share everything, I’ve fallen in love with this experience so much that I find I don’t miss the past single life at all.   But I have some great memories from that time that always brings a smile to my face 🙂

Post # 48
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I know what you mean, I haven’t really had one of those moments.. BUT I have a bit of a gypsy bone (hence the username) and sometimes get the urge to pack up and move somewhere else… Being married that has to be a joint decision, which sucks sometimes… that’s the only time I miss being “single”.

Post # 49
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@oracle:  Yes. I hate having to always plan things to involve both of us (such as what to make for dinner… or even whether to have it at all!). That sort of stuff. And like when I am doing stuff around the house on the weekend and he says he is bored like its my problem and I’m supposed to entertain him or something. Grr.

Also, I do enjoy flirting, crushes, etc, so not experiencing that anymore kinda sucks.

 

Post # 49
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2014

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runsyellowlites:  I am not sure that if one is missing single life to do something special for DH would make it better? I’d rather say give some time for yourself! Book an afternoon in a Spa, leave the kiids with him if you have them! If not, tell him you really need some me time, negotiate. Go out with girlfriends you haven’t seen in a while, etc.

Post # 50
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Helper bee

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oracle:  I do on the occasion.  I’m not married yet, but I really loved being single, lol.  Even when I’d have break ups I would be so happy to be able to get to know myself again.  Anyways, I think it’s normal to miss it sometimes… If it’s more than sometimes, then it might be indicative of something wrong in the relationship.

Post # 51
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - DD born 2015 DS born 2017

The only time I feel like this is when DH and I can’t agree on what to eat for dinner (or lunch if it’s a weekend). We are an international marriage and our comfort foods and stables are very different, so sometimes I just think ‘ugh I wish I were single and could just get a Subway sandwich for dinner’! Sometimes we eat out separately as a compromise 🙂

But I don’t feel myself wishing I were single in any other situation.. I love being married!

Post # 52
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Bumble Beekeeper

I notice less late night tv, less excessive snacking, more sleeping in since becoming an engaged lady, which I miss sometimes, but when there are opportunities to do some of my single behaviors, it’s just not the same anymore. And that’s not necessarily a bad thing, just growing up.

Post # 53
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

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oracle:  only when im annoyed with his family. oh the days when i didnt have to put up with that crap

Post # 54
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Helper bee

I really miss the butterflies and excitement that came when I first started dating my fiance. After living together and being together a total of 6 years that certain magic has long faded. Its a deeper kind of love that im more appreciative of now, but I can be nostalgic for our younger years. Not necessarily being single but I understand the sentiment. I dont think its any different than being nostaligic for childhood or even college life when youre older.

Post # 55
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Busy bee

I don’t even really know what the single life is like. I wasn’t even 20 years old yet when I got together with my husband so my “single life” took place over a year after I broke up with my high school boyfriend and I was still living at home. This was more than 10 years ago so of course things would be completely different today but I doubt I would enjoy it any more than I did then. At the time I went on a lot of dates just to get my mother off my back and they all sucked. The guys were nice but I’m just not very social. I am really picky about who I make friends with so of course I was picky about dates too.

Post # 56
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

No! The anxiety that went along with dating is something I wouldn’t wish upon my worst enemy. I’m a tough cookie but rejection sucks.. And rejecting is no fun either. Wanting to have sex and not being able to or having to ‘sleep around’ to get some is also something I don’t miss.

I like the comfort and security that having the same person around provides. I like knowing that when I have good news, my husband is going to be 100x more excited than I am.. I like falling asleep with him. I like venting to him when I need to. I much prefer married life to single life.

Post # 57
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Blushing bee

I actually had a complete panic attack the night of my wedding, thinking I just couldn’t “be married.” My mind just went into “reject, reject!” mode. But as soon as that passed, I took to married life like a fish to water. I love planning together and the feeling of building a future. Also, I enjoy the feeling of contentment that comes from this level of campanionship.

Post # 58
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Pecan Springs Events in Brookshire

It’s normal to have these feelings as you realize that you are entering a whole new world. Instead of instantly being able to take off on a last minute trip, now you will have to make that call first. It does feel a little weird at first. Eventually, it all comes together. Before I would drive in and walk in. Now, I send him a message and let him I arrived safely at home from work. And he sends me a message back, that’s good, see you in a bit. 

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