(Closed) Do you ever not tell people your carat size?

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 32
8470 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

As always, I disagree.

Who cares if someone wants to know the carat size?  I’ve been asked and told the truth.  

And I have asked carat size only if I thought the ring was big and beautiful and was just curious, that’s all.  Then again, I’m a nosy Nellie 😉

Post # 33
269 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I don’t even know my carat size! LOL…..and nobody’s asked but  don’t think I’d be offended if they did

I did have a coworker go: “Oh, its awful small…..but I guess that’s all he could afford huh?”
 I think my favorite thing was when I turned around and my 2 bosses jaws were on the floor and they were like “omg, I can’t believe she just said that!”

My response: “Actually, he got me exactly what I wanted: a small simple not ostentatious ring….it’s perfect” followed by a sickeningly sweet smile that pretty much said Go [email protected]&k yourself lol.  

Post # 34
9484 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I wouldn’t care if someone asked, but if it did I’d just say “I think it’s around a carat” and change the subject.

Post # 35
1979 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I have had multiple people ask me- some strangers, some friends- I have never thought it was rude. A random girl on the bus spotted it and asked me a million questions because she wanted a similar ring from the same designer- NBD. A few of my friends are in long term relationships/close to ring shopping so I think they asked because they don’t know what 1 carat v. 1.25 carats looks like and are curious- though they also aren’t the type of girls who need to make sure their ring is bigger to be competitive (I am not friends with those girls, lol). It doesn’t bother me a bit! My center stone is actually a CZ right now- and I’m pretty open about that too. Though I guess some people are more sensitive than others about some things. 

ETA: I asked a stranger once how many carats her ring was- she was a customer of mine when I was working retail and it was HUGE! Like HUGE HUGE! I think I said, “If you don’t mind me asking, how big is your ring?” She said she didn’t mind- she gets that a lot. It was over SEVEN carats- totally movie star ring status. I told her it was a very beautiful ring and that was that.

Post # 36
3400 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I normally don’t just come out & tell me the carat weight of my ring. That seems kind of rude/odd. If I’m asked, I will tell though.

I would just tell her. Apparently she wants to know, and if she is going to be upset by the truth, then that’s on her. But of course if you just don’t want to tell for whatever personal reason, that’s completely your business and you don’t have to disclose those kind of details.

Post # 37
2279 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@cls9q:  if someone asked, I probably would just tell them.  I don’t see the issue with just telling your SIL the size, then it would be over and done with and you wouldn’t have to dance around the subject.

Post # 38
2154 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@cls9q:  I don’t think it’s rude for people to ask, depending on their tone. She may be jealous, but who cares? Let her be 😉 You don’t have to be ashamed or feel bad for her-I would be totally honest if she asks. If she has a problem, let her take it up with her husband! Not your problem your ring is gorgeous! Be proud of it.

Post # 39
1671 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@cls9q:  Eh, I don’t usually tell, but it depends on the asker. My stone is 0.5 carats exactly but seems to appear larger. If they seem genuinely curious and not snarky, I’ll tell. I think in your case I wouldn’t. I’ve seen your ring, by the way. It’s beautiful! Very tasteful too, if I may add. Elegant.

Mostly I love talking diamonds, but I’d NEVER ask anyone this question. There’s no winner in The Carat Race.

My older brothers gf (who I love, she’s great) asked and I told her. She had guessed it was a carat! We both love jewellery and have that kind of rapport, so I proudly told her. Besides, I’m fishing for her stone preferences for my brother. He asked me to. 🙂

My younger brothers gf (who is awful, I dislike her) is not welcome to that info. We don’t see her very often at all, so I just kinda hide my ring from her… She’s that bad about this kind of thing. She seems to want numbers to compare everything, and then gets huffy. It’s weird. So uncomfortable. 

Post # 40
568 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I would just say I am not sure but I love it. Or I am not sure but I just love how it sparkles; yours is gorgeous too!

Post # 41
14963 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’ve been asked a few times by SIL and cousin in law.  Who cares?  I told them.  Not gonna lie, not embarrassed, and not bragging if they asked.  Nothing really to hide imo.

Post # 42
308 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’ve never told anyone and generally people that know me don’t ask. (for the record, all I know is its a little over a half carat… My Darling Husband doesn’t want me to know, haha).

However, I do go to a Christian grad school where people date for like a month and then get engaged. In comparision to those I go to school with I would be considered to have a lot of “bling.” Every once in awhile people will say, “omg thats so huge!! how big is it? Is it real?” Usually it’s strangers and I always tell them I don’t know because I think its rude to even ask if you don’t know someone. 

Post # 43
2570 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I usually say, “I don’t know, around a carat I guess”. I do know. It’s 1.25 ct, but the specifics of my ring are nobody’s buisness and frankly I don’t care if I’m lying to them.

Post # 44
260 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

@HisBride515:  Exactly what I would say.  I get annoyed when people ask so playing dumb is my way of saying its none of your business!

Post # 45
331 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I normally say that either I dont know, and if they keep asking I just say that its a family stone and we havent gotten it appraised yet. I know the size 1.8 ct is HUGE for my area so I know once people find out they are going to assume I marrying for money which is not true at all

Post # 46
223 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I had someone ask me and I just played dumb.  It’s really not their business.  Don’t feel pressured to tell anyone.

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