(Closed) Do you ever not tell people your carat size?

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 62
5374 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’ve been asked by a couple of the girls at work (and not in a nice way!). They asked a ton of specific questions like how much it cost, where he got it, how many carats, what size, what metal, etc. It was really weird. I said I didn’t know the cost, but told them the carat size hoping it would shut them up. Other people have been more polite and I don’t think anyone else has asked.

Post # 63
2190 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

If someone asks, I tell the truth. I don’t mind at all. I’m proud of it and it flatters me when people take the time to ask. 

Post # 64
877 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - A Beautiful converted Barn

@cls9q:  i have only been asked carat size by 1 person (my sister) 

she asked me and i told her, because i thought it was genuine sisterly interest – how stupid of me, it wasnt – it was so she could gossip with my mum about how big and unessesarily expensive it was (for UK standards). it caused a huge argument.

(majorly petty of me and deep routed sister stuff…but im glad to say that when my sister rushed her engagement and ran down the aisle so she could ‘beat me to it’ she ended up with a smaller, cheaper ring than me. so HA!)

other than on here i dont tend to talk about ring specs. its just one of those things i guess. i would tell if asked but wouldnt just come out and tell someone.

Post # 65
1529 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I don’t think it’s anyone’s business, beyond a few good friends and my SO. I have spoken about my diamond rings here and included the carat sizes, but it’s a site designed for it.


Post # 66
1377 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I have had complete strangers ask me. I have a .6ish blue diamond, total about .75. I’ve gotten questions anywhere from ‘are you sure it’s real/a diamond – he didn’t lie?’ to ‘how big is it?’. Surprisingly, it’s all from strangers or very distant aquaintences. My friends and family have spazzed about how pretty it is (it’s perfect 😀 ) but not one has asked how big it is. My dad asked my fiance what the specs were from curiosity (he recently got my mom an anniversary ring) when Fiance asked permission/blessing to propose. Honestly, if any family or friends asked on the specs, they’d get a 30 minute discussion on it, lol. I would tell a vague number to strangers. But I’m still rather insulted by anyone who asks me if I’m sure Fiance didn’t lie to me and get a fake ring, because “everyone knows blue diamonds don’t exist” or something. Ugh. >.>

Post # 67
1150 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

It depends on who is asking- of course a couple of close family members asked when I first got engaged, and I had no problem telling them. I haven’t had a stranger ask. If a close friend did for a legitimate reason (like, if she was scoping rings to see what she would want), I would answer honestly, too. 

I see no reason to not be honest with your FI’s SIL, OP. If she keeps asking, you might as well just answer and put the issue to bed. Everyone has different finances and different financial priorities, and being I assume at least 35 she should understand that. If she pushes the “I had to wait 10 years” thing, just say “Yeah, I guess I’m lucky” and change the subject.

Post # 68
6526 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@cls9q:  no one ever asked me how big it was. around here, they only ask if its something above average. I have a 1.25ct cushion cut diamond (I am not at all saying its small, because its not, but where I live, people have 2cts)

Post # 69
313 posts
Helper bee

I understand your hesitation to disclose the info in this case, but just wanted to present another point of view for the future… I asked my cousin what carat size she had, because I loved the way it looked on her finger and wanted to know FFR. Just a thought!

Post # 70
685 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@cls9q:  I do not tell anyone because I don’t know, nor do I care what size my diamond is. I don’t think it is anyones business to ask. 

Post # 71
810 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@Rubbs:  Haha! This is exactly what I was thinking.

If someone asked, I would assume they were just curious. If their tone was rude, I might reconsider but, for the most part, I think people just ask to ask with no intent of ill will. I haven’t had someone ask me, but I have had a few people say “whoa, that’s big!” I get a little self-conscious, but in my town, 1 carat in a halo is BIG for the norm. Now, I wouldn’t ask someone the carat size if it was visibly smaller than mine because I wouldn’t want it to seem like a competition, but if I see a huuuge, beautiful ring, I might be tempted to ask (or, at the very least, guess the carat size in my head. ) 🙂

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