Post # 1
I’m pretty sure I’m just hormonal today. So, please, don’t read this as me resenting my relationship. I’m just cranky.
But I was wondering: Do you ladies ever resent your guys for making you wait? Do you go through phases where you feel like maybe you could be with someone better, someone who was more attentive, who felt more inclined to “put a ring on it”? Basically, do you ever feel like you deserve something better?
Not looking for advice on my relationship or waiting status. Just curious if this is a shared sentiment every once in a while. 🙂
Post # 3
@claireos: YES YES YES. i’m staying in my hometown for the summer beacuse being near him all the time living with him is driving me crazy. the happier i amwith him, the more i want it.
Post # 4
i remember once being bitchy because we were saving to buy my ring but he went out and blew $2K on a guys toy and didnt bat an eye about it
Post # 5
Absolutely! I’ve gone through the exact same emotions you are talking about. Like you said, just once in a while when I’m feeling particularly frustrated. It usually passes in a day or two. Hope you’re in better mood soon!
Post # 6
i totally felt like that at points. i resented him because i’m so decisive and planful and he deliberates every decision to death. i totally understand your frustration.
Post # 7
Ummmm yes I did and I did NOT feel bad about it! haha. Other people that had met while we were dating were getting MARRIED, not just engaged! AND he bought a TV. Nothing was wrong with the relationship or anything like that, it was great. He is just slow lol. In the end though, it worked out as it was supposed to.
Post # 8
Yep, I get resentful of him from time to time, but like you said, it’s just when I’m particularly frustrated, and not all the time. When it’s good, it’s good, but when it’s bad, it’s reeeeeal bad, lol.
Post # 9
Yes, like MrsCoachBtobe said, people are meeting, getting married and having babies during our dating period….and we’ve only been dating 2yrs!
Post # 10
He’s not making me wait, I’m choosing to wait for him. I could leave anytime I want, I just don’t want to! I think this change of view helps, at least it does for me. I’m super happy with us right now, I don’t want to force him into anything he’s not ready for.
Post # 11
Sometimes but usually only during bad waiting periods.
Post # 12
I used to on my bad days. Now I’m actually surprised to find myself feeling…okay. I’m just “there.” Just hanging out.
Guess I’m back in the apathetic stage of waiting?
Post # 13
I used to, but when he finally gave me a timeline it made it seem like it is actually going to happen. So, while I’m still feeling impatient many days, I don’t feel resentment anymore.
Post # 14
Frustrated at times yes, resentful no.
Post # 15
@LaurenK0105: He’s not making me wait, I’m choosing to wait for him. I could leave anytime I want, I just don’t want to
I love this – thanks!
Post # 16
Resent him… No. Resent the attitude and issues (internal and external) that have contributed to him having more than a normal delay of simple cold feet in moving forward with almost ANY part of his life, including marraige, Yes.
I get frustrated and it can be hard not to be upset with him for MY expectations – even when my rational brain knows better and tries to temper things, that impatient, fussy side pops out and can be really cranky, and he’s like, “what’s wrong?”, and I’m trying not to say, simply because I know it’ll be counterproductive at this point.
Well said, LaurenK0105 – “He’s not making me wait, I’m choosing to wait for him. I could leave anytime I want, I just don’t want to“
I’ll try to keep that in mind when bad days hit.