(Closed) WAITING BEES 4 yrs+ ONLY: stopping celebrating anniversaries ?

posted 9 months ago in Waiting
  • poll: Did you stop celebrating anniversaries when waiting? (choose nearest option)
    No! We always celebrate them happily! : (33 votes)
    92 %
    Yes - after 4 years : (1 votes)
    3 %
    Yes - after 6 years : (1 votes)
    3 %
    Yes - after 10 years : (1 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 16
    Member
    475 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2021 - City, State

    Shinytoy :  I agree with everyone else, you are being very rude and I was a waiting bee for quite a while. A lot of these people who were married or engaged that are replying to the thread have been through that phase of waiting for a long time.

    Post # 17
    Member
    36 posts
    Newbee

    Got a different viewpoint. Been with my fiance for 10 years this July and we decided to tie the knot this year. We’ve never celebrated our anniversary. We might acknowledge it, but aside from that it’s just another day. We met when I was 24 and I’m 34 now. I’ve never viewed the number of years we’ve been together as depressing though – we’re both super happy. He’s my best friend. 

    Post # 18
    Bee
    282 posts
    Helper bee

    You can’t dicate who can reply and what they can reply with. 

    No one was gloating and there were barely any comments to justify saying “all married people” on a wedding website. Those people specifically have obviously been in the dating realm. It would likely behoove you to take thoughts and advice from a multitude of posters. 

    I’m not married or engaged but I don’t consider myself waiting as we both feel we haven’t been together long enough to take that step, but I personally have celebrated all dating anniversaries with him and exes no matter the length, even after four years.

    Post # 19
    Member
    9855 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2016

    Aren’t you engaged though? So you aren’t technically a waiting bee anyway. 

    Shinytoy :  

    Post # 20
    Member
    5859 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: July 2018

    We are currently engaged and we were together for 9 years of darting anniversaries prior to that. We celebrated every anniversary.

    Based on your other comments you early aren’t going to take this well but i think if you get to a point when you don’t want to celebrate anniversaries then you need to let go of the relationship. 

    Post # 21
    Member
    6833 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2016

    Shinytoy :  I hate to break it to you, but you can’t tell Bees what threads they can and can’t post on. Plus, the first poster dated for 7 YEARS before getting married, so obviously that would apply to your question. 

    If you’re going to be rude, don’t bother with asking questions on a public forum. 

    LOL at the “thread full of gloating married women” comment. Obviously you’re not happy with your waiting status which is something you should address with your partner. There were no gloating married women posting here. You’re projecting. 

    Post # 22
    Member
    1320 posts
    Bumble bee

    We have out or 7th anniversary this week. Yay us. We dont  usually celebrate at all. 

    Post # 25
    Member
    643 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2019

    Of course. What’s the benefit to all of a sudden declaring that you refuse to celebrate anniversaries? Like, not getting a card and a gift this year will make him propose? 

    Not everyone views waiting in a negative light, so if it’s reached that point for you, you need to have a tough conversation. One of my best friends met her now-husband young and they dated for like 12 years before getting married…it never would have occurred to her to stop celebrating anniversaries. 

    Post # 30
    Member
    6833 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2016

    Shinytoy :  Just because they’re married NOW, doesn’t mean they weren’t ever waiting. Sometimes (a lot of the time, in fact) people that have been through a situation have a good perspective and we can benefit from hearing about their experiences. 

    Regardless, you can’t tell someone what boards they can and cannot post on. That’s not how WeddingBee works. You’re upset about your situation. That’s understandable but there’s no reason to be rude to the Bees here that were just answering your question.

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