Post # 16
- Wedding: April 2021 - City, State
Shinytoy : I agree with everyone else, you are being very rude and I was a waiting bee for quite a while. A lot of these people who were married or engaged that are replying to the thread have been through that phase of waiting for a long time.
Post # 17
Got a different viewpoint. Been with my fiance for 10 years this July and we decided to tie the knot this year. We’ve never celebrated our anniversary. We might acknowledge it, but aside from that it’s just another day. We met when I was 24 and I’m 34 now. I’ve never viewed the number of years we’ve been together as depressing though – we’re both super happy. He’s my best friend.
Post # 18
You can’t dicate who can reply and what they can reply with.
No one was gloating and there were barely any comments to justify saying “all married people” on a wedding website. Those people specifically have obviously been in the dating realm. It would likely behoove you to take thoughts and advice from a multitude of posters.
I’m not married or engaged but I don’t consider myself waiting as we both feel we haven’t been together long enough to take that step, but I personally have celebrated all dating anniversaries with him and exes no matter the length, even after four years.
Post # 19
Aren’t you engaged though? So you aren’t technically a waiting bee anyway.
Post # 20
We are currently engaged and we were together for 9 years of darting anniversaries prior to that. We celebrated every anniversary.
Based on your other comments you early aren’t going to take this well but i think if you get to a point when you don’t want to celebrate anniversaries then you need to let go of the relationship.
Post # 21
Shinytoy : I hate to break it to you, but you can’t tell Bees what threads they can and can’t post on. Plus, the first poster dated for 7 YEARS before getting married, so obviously that would apply to your question.
If you’re going to be rude, don’t bother with asking questions on a public forum.
LOL at the “thread full of gloating married women” comment. Obviously you’re not happy with your waiting status which is something you should address with your partner. There were no gloating married women posting here. You’re projecting.
Post # 22
We have out or 7th anniversary this week. Yay us. We dont usually celebrate at all.
Post # 23
MancBee : Twizbe : I have had to keep amending the op because for some bizarre reason only married women or those who are not waiting are responding to this thread. for those of you who are saying i have issues – ask yourself why a married person would be on a wedding forum posting in a waiting forum on a thread specifically marked as being only for waiting bees – unless it is to be bored and gloat over unmarried bees and people having problems.
there are many other threads i am sure will appreciate your “experience”, this is not one of them.
Post # 24
rez123 : thank you for the helpful reply. did you consciously decide not to celebrate them?
Post # 25
Of course. What’s the benefit to all of a sudden declaring that you refuse to celebrate anniversaries? Like, not getting a card and a gift this year will make him propose?
Not everyone views waiting in a negative light, so if it’s reached that point for you, you need to have a tough conversation. One of my best friends met her now-husband young and they dated for like 12 years before getting married…it never would have occurred to her to stop celebrating anniversaries.
Post # 27
yogahammy : we keep having setbacks. one of my parents died recently one year after another big bereavement. one bad thing after another keeps happening meanwhile everyone else is getting married.
Post # 28
llevinso : why are they all posting on a thread which specifically states it is not for them? unless it is for the reason i suggested?
Post # 29
i just kinda thought there would be other bees, especially those who are thinking about ultimatums and walk dates, who might find anniversaries painful and just decide not to observe them anymore
Post # 30
Shinytoy : Just because they’re married NOW, doesn’t mean they weren’t ever waiting. Sometimes (a lot of the time, in fact) people that have been through a situation have a good perspective and we can benefit from hearing about their experiences.
Regardless, you can’t tell someone what boards they can and cannot post on. That’s not how WeddingBee works. You’re upset about your situation. That’s understandable but there’s no reason to be rude to the Bees here that were just answering your question.