Post # 1
- Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden
HOLY CRAP, I CAN’T BELIEVE HOW MUCH MONEY WE’RE SPENDING ON ONE DAY!!! and then think how nice it would be to get married at City Hall and then have a nice fancy dinner?
I’m excited to have a big party with all of our close friends and family, and to wear the white dress, and to have attendants and dancing, etc. But sometimes I freak out about the money.
Anyone with me?
Post # 3
Sort of. We aren’t spending TONS of money though, and I think it will be well worth it! 🙂
Post # 4
Yes! Some days it just hits me… this will all be over in one day. All this time, effort, and money are going into One.Day.
Then I realize that to me it’s worth it, but I still come to that realization at the oddest of times.
Post # 5
YES!!! I cringe when I think about how our budget has gone over time and time again. I really even have been holding back and not sharing with people on how much the whole wedding will be, because of being afraid of their judgement, I don’t want to hear another “why don’t you guys put that towards a house,” anymore.
Post # 6
i never wanted the big party. my fi did. we’re compromising… and i know it will be beautiful. but i always have a minor heart attack when i look at the budget!
Post # 7
YES! I have thought about it a lot…but when it comes down to it I have had an idea of what my wedding would be like and I think I would be disappointed if it were something totally different
Post # 8
Meh, sort of. I honestly think about it more about my dress than the wedding itself. I guess I’m just really confident that we are building a memory for ourselves and our families and friends that will be really special. We had some recent deaths on both sides of our families, so getting everyone together under happy circumstances feels really precious. Also, Fiance and I are at a point in our lives that the core friends we have now are the people we will be vacationing with in retirement. Not every person attending the wedding is a besty forever, but there won’t be many people there who I won’t be in touch with 40 years from now. For some reason, that really makes me feel much better about the money.
Another way to look at it is that my parents and I took a vacation to China (with little bro) last summer, and the split of costs was roughly the same as the wedding, and it cost about 2/3 as much. We had a great time and built beautiful memories. The money we spent was worth every dime, and I have the same feeling about the wedding (excpet maybe the dress! Love it, but…woah, I spent a lot). The fact that the trip was 14 days compared to 3 (wedding weekend) doesn’t make a huge difference.
Post # 9
- Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden
When I start to freak out, I just remind myself that although we’re spending a lot of money, we’re not spending on anything unnecessary, in our opinion. We’re staying true to ourselves and our vision and aren’t spending money on certain things that the WIC tells us we need (i.e. limos, ice sculpture, videographer, etc.)
Post # 10
Definitely, yes, especially now since my budget has roughly doubled since my parents got involved. But given how many people are coming, it’s not that much at all – probably under $60 per person. And we are making efforts to support companies we like, which employ people we like, so there’s that aspect, too.
Post # 11
i struggle with this too, i want my wedding to be great but to spend 5,000 (my budget) on one day is hard to swallow. i think of what we could do with the money…BUT i think i would regret it if i just ran off and got married.
Post # 13
Of course! But then I shove those thoughts away and try to just feel grateful that it’s all possible.
Post # 14
Yes – especially since I had a city hall ceremony already which I was really happy with. But I am excited about my wedding and I think I’d be bummed if we were not doing it. Our wedidng is a little different that most people’s though in that we don’t have big families and there aren’t all of these obligations to invite certain people or not invite them. So our list is very small and I feel like we are getting to do exactly what we both want.
Post # 15
- Wedding: September 2009 - City Hall
Hehe, what was that about city hall and a fancy dinner?
(That’s what we did, and it was SO WORTH IT, 100%! No regrets.)
But it’s your special day, so if what you want costs more, you gotta go for it. Be true to yourself and your idea of what your wedding day needs to be! Sometimes those dreams cost a little (or a lot)!
Post # 16
Yes, I think that exact thing… Or sometimes I think we should have just done a destination wedding with just family and a few friends. Oh well! Big wedding here we come!