(Closed) Do you ever wear non-wedding jewelry (RHR etc.) on your wedding ring finger?

posted 5 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Do you wear non-wedding jewelry (that was not given to you by SO/DH) on your wedding ring finger?
    Yes - I love mixing things up and it is not a big deal! : (18 votes)
    36 %
    No way - the only rings that I'm wearing on that finger are the ones SO/DH gave to me : (29 votes)
    58 %
    Other (please explain) : (3 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
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    207 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I have a blue sapphire halo ring my mother got me that I wore on my left ring finger since I usually wore a white sapphire ring my SO got me (until it broke, sad day) on my right hand, I would have switched them but because it was a white sapphire I didn’t want people confusing it with an e-ring 

    Post # 4
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    445 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    My original ri g lost a diamond, but i feel naked without having a ring. So for now i just wear a cool mystic fire topaz on my left hand 

    Post # 5
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    6360 posts
    Bee Keeper

    Not since I was a pre-teen.

    Post # 6
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    8487 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2014

    Yes. But only because my job can get rough with my hands and I dont have a super strong ring. Fiance bought me an aquamarine ring off Amazon for like $40 and I wear it on days that I know I’m going to be really busy.

     

    Post # 7
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    198 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    Occasionally I do – it’s not a big deal to me. I know I’m married, and wearing engagement/wedding ring on my left or right hand is not going to change the marital status πŸ˜‰

    Post # 8
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Not a big deal, I definitely mix it up! They’re my fingers and I can do whatever I want with them! No one owns real estate on them. If I didn’t love rings already, I probably wouldn’t wear a wedding ring. Yeah, t’s a nice symbol, but it’s not necessary or obligatory, I feel, to follow any code of ettiquette.

    Post # 9
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: July 1998

    My original ering wasn’t meant to be my final ring. It was actually a promise ring that I decided to keep with the intention of upgrading someday. I recently got a really pretty halo cluster ring that I’m wearing right now in place of my wedding ring but I don’t think it’ll be my final upgrade (I’ve been married almost 15 years). Hubby and I were just talking about it today and he’s not sentimental at all about my ring (which is surprising because he’s sentimental about everything else). I told him that my dream ring is a Tiffany Soleste- either a pink sapphire or aquamarine- and he told me that I could wear whatever I want as long as I stay married to him. Smile  Once I do get that ring I will probably switch back and forth with that one and the diamond halo ring I just got. 

     

    Post # 10
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @SQT72

    “My original ering wasn’t meant to be my final ring. It was actually a promise ring that I decided to keep with the intention of upgrading someday.”

    Me too! Actually I pretty much agree with everythign you said πŸ™‚ My e-ring is a “promise ring” and I told him I didn’t need anythign different. But I don’t like wearing two rings together, and so I’ll probably wear a variety of simple wedding bands. I never intended to have a “set.”

     

    Post # 11
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    77 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: July 1998

    @MrsSnowMountain:  I do like wearing a band with my ring (I have a plain one right now though I’d like to get a rose gold one too) but I’m very untraditional in that I don’t really care for diamond solitaires. I was looking at rings today and saw a $25K+ solitaire that did nothing for me. But show me a halo and/or a gemstone I’m in heaven.

    I love your ring btw. It reminds me of my grandmother’s ring.

    Post # 12
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    113 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    Ive been switching between my ering and the rhr my fi bought me for our anniversary. The rhr is larger so I wear it when my finger is swollen. I also completelydesigned the rhr myself and had no input on my ering. Switching between both lets me feel like I have MY ering and HIS ering and I don’t feel so sad about not picking my actual ering. 

    Post # 13
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @SQT72 Thanks πŸ™‚ It’s actually a replica of my great-grandmother’s/grandmother’s ring! I couldn’t wear the original because it was too worn down and delicate. If it wasn’t for this ring, I would definitely be wearing a coloured gemsyone. And I have so many gemstone rings I like that I’ll probably be rotating throught them and my e-ring. I’m lucky to have so many options for so cheap!

    Post # 14
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    837 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    SPIDER WARNING!

     

    I am not a jewelry person. I have two necklaces (the one I wore when my husband and I married, and the one he gave me for our first Christmas) and two rings (engagement + wedding). I haven’t changed my wedding necklace since that day (a rose gold lightning bolt on a silver chain, though the rose gold plating has worn significantly and is turning silver, too — oops!) because I love it and it’s simple and works for daily wear.

    However, two Halloweens ago, before I met my now-husband (yes, we moved fast, as we were married a year later), I was at Target and found the silliest, hugest spider ring, and it fits on my left ring finger. No other finger. Just that one. I love the thing to pieces and wore it when I was getting my engagement ring re-plated before the wedding and when I had to have some prongs fixed a week after we got engaged because I hit it on the door like a super-graceful individual is wont to do.

    Anyway, when we got engaged, we had a good talk about the rings. I told him that if he ever saw me without my rings, it was not a matter of anything negative. I told him that sometimes my hands swell and the rings get uncomfortable and I take them off and forget. (All of this was in future tense, but you get the idea.) I told him that I would never, ever, ever take the rings off out of anger and that any time I wasn’t wearing them would not be a “statement”. My father is a horribly jealous man and he got really, really upset when my mom forgot to put her wedding ring back on one day. He thought it meant she was leaving him. I wanted my husband to know that removing my rings or even going without them for a day or two would never be indicative of something bad happening between us. 

    I also told him that the spider ring fits on that finger only, so around Halloween, I’d be switching the engagement ring for it. He loves the spider ring and fully supports when I pull it out of the drawer, which is awesome! He said he knows that the rings are merely symbolic, and that I don’t stop loving him just because I might wear something else sometimes.

    However, due to my own personal preferences and attachments to my rings, I don’t think I’d ever be interested in wearing something on that finger that isn’t clearly costume jewelry. I’d never swap my wedding rings for another classy, classic, beautiful, real (as opposed to costume) ring just because it would feel, to me, like I was replacing them with something “better”. I don’t know if that makes sense, but there it is. πŸ™‚

    One more “however”, then I’ll stop! I wouldn’t think anything of it if someone I knew to be married wore a non-wedding / -engagement ring on that finger. So if I knew you in person, I wouldn’t think it’s bad etiquette or anything scandalous or wrong if you showed up wearing a different piece of jewelry there.

    Post # 15
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    5423 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 2012

    Yes.  I have a 2 carat 3 row pave band that my father gave my mother.  I had it resized to fit my right hand but it still isnt right.  So I wear it on my left hand above my wedding ring once in a while.

    Post # 16
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo

    I hate having stuff on my left hand cause I’m left handed and I find it gets in the way XD (don’t even wear bracelets on that side). I don’t see why you couldn’t wear another ring alongside or instead of a wedding set. Some people might say tthat it’s unlucky for us unengaged gals though :3

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