I am not a jewelry person. I have two necklaces (the one I wore when my husband and I married, and the one he gave me for our first Christmas) and two rings (engagement + wedding). I haven’t changed my wedding necklace since that day (a rose gold lightning bolt on a silver chain, though the rose gold plating has worn significantly and is turning silver, too — oops!) because I love it and it’s simple and works for daily wear.
However, two Halloweens ago, before I met my now-husband (yes, we moved fast, as we were married a year later), I was at Target and found the silliest, hugest spider ring, and it fits on my left ring finger. No other finger. Just that one. I love the thing to pieces and wore it when I was getting my engagement ring re-plated before the wedding and when I had to have some prongs fixed a week after we got engaged because I hit it on the door like a super-graceful individual is wont to do.
Anyway, when we got engaged, we had a good talk about the rings. I told him that if he ever saw me without my rings, it was not a matter of anything negative. I told him that sometimes my hands swell and the rings get uncomfortable and I take them off and forget. (All of this was in future tense, but you get the idea.) I told him that I would never, ever, ever take the rings off out of anger and that any time I wasn’t wearing them would not be a “statement”. My father is a horribly jealous man and he got really, really upset when my mom forgot to put her wedding ring back on one day. He thought it meant she was leaving him. I wanted my husband to know that removing my rings or even going without them for a day or two would never be indicative of something bad happening between us.
I also told him that the spider ring fits on that finger only, so around Halloween, I’d be switching the engagement ring for it. He loves the spider ring and fully supports when I pull it out of the drawer, which is awesome! He said he knows that the rings are merely symbolic, and that I don’t stop loving him just because I might wear something else sometimes.
However, due to my own personal preferences and attachments to my rings, I don’t think I’d ever be interested in wearing something on that finger that isn’t clearly costume jewelry. I’d never swap my wedding rings for another classy, classic, beautiful, real (as opposed to costume) ring just because it would feel, to me, like I was replacing them with something “better”. I don’t know if that makes sense, but there it is. 🙂
One more “however”, then I’ll stop! I wouldn’t think anything of it if someone I knew to be married wore a non-wedding / -engagement ring on that finger. So if I knew you in person, I wouldn’t think it’s bad etiquette or anything scandalous or wrong if you showed up wearing a different piece of jewelry there.