Post # 1
I want to preface this by saying I am NOT in danger. My Darling Husband is amazing, attentive, and protective. This is purely about MY thought process. Also, I would like to say that this does not really affect my day to day life. I don’t think I need a therapist any more than anyone else(the Bee always suggests that!) and I am not living with excessive amounts of fear. I was gonna go all anonybee on this post… but that would require more effort than I am willing to expend.
I do not intend to be offensive to anyone who has lost someone to a murderer or has come close to being killed herself. I just wonder if anyone else feels this way.
I have a love/hate relationship with murder mysteries. I hate them because they are scary as hell. I love them because they give us a picture of a murderer’s method and thought process. Watching these shows is terrifying because many people are killed by those they loved and trusted. Many never saw it coming. So how can any of us be sure that anyone won’t kill us?
I am not afraid of Darling Husband. But sometimes I do wonder if he could kill me. I wonder if that switch could ever flip and cause him to do the unthinkable. This isn’t a consuming thought or an actual concern… I just wonder sometimes. And wondering about it makes me feel abnormal. Nobody ever talks about this. I just think it’s a legitimate fear. If a woman is killed, the first person that police look at is the husband. It’s crazy to know that statistically, if you’re going to be killed it will probably be by your husband. It doesn’t make me afraid… I just wonder.
I am not looking for snide remarks or concerns for my safety. I am just interested in knowing whether or not this has ever crossed your mind. I mean nothing disrespectful by this post and genuinely am just wondering if this is something that crosses anyone else’s mind.
Post # 3
It’s never crossed my mind. I have sometimes wondered if I would ever snap and kill him lol.
Post # 5
I have nothing to fear from FH, it is him that needs to worry about me! I studied martial arts for 18 years and he knows what I am fully capable of. By The Way, I have never delibrately hurt anyone in my life but under the right circumstances, I WILL defend myself!
Post # 6
the thought has never even crossed my mind to be honest
Post # 7
HAHA yes, maybe that should be in the poll!
This has never crossed my mind, and my husband has never (since I’ve known him) displayed much of a violent temper. I HAVE however wondered if one day all the things he doesn’t share with me verbally will combust and he will freak the eff out in some way.
Post # 8
I’ve thought about it. I’ve hesitated telling him about my life insurance policy where he is the sole beneficiary LOL. No, I don’t think he’ll murder me for money. But it has crossed my mind. I guess I’ve watched too much Dateline.
Post # 9
Can’t say that I have EVER wondered this…
Post # 10
Not with my Fiance, but with my ex.
Post # 11
Holy shit fuck, no.
I’m pretty morbid, but this specifically has never crossed my mind.
Post # 12
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
No, I have never worried about this, nor do I think I ever will. He doesn’t even yell at me, even in arguments.
Post # 13
Ha! Have you ever watched Snapped on the oxygen channel? All stories about wives who lost it and killed their husbands.
I understand what you mean by husbands usually being the ones who kill their wives. I always think of Scott Peterson and how no one one in the family would ever have seen that coming. So yes, the thought has crossed my mind and my conclusion was NO my husband would never do that.
Post # 14
Yeah….but only because Mr. 99 laughs in his sleep, it’s this really creepy and sinister thing to hear in the middle of the night, total horror movie fodder….I know he never would but in the middle of the night, in a pitch black room, to hear this hulk of a man start to chuckle…it freaks me out!
Post # 15
@jayebaby: Not with my husband but with my ex there was a real threat…hence being my ex. I agree there’s been times I thought I might snap! LOL But no. I think you’re brave to bring up this topic and I like how you did it. It is important to talk about things we’re afraid of or make us feel abnormal.
Post # 16
OMG… thank you for that. I just laughed harder than I have since watching Scarlet takes a Tumble for the first time. That is SO funny. Thank you for that visual!!