(Closed) Do you ever wonder why your SO is attracted to you?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

Sometimes I do, but really my husband and I are pretty similar in looks. We’re both Jewish, so we have that dark hair and fair skin. And the funniest part is that we tend to lose and gain weight at the same time, so we’re always the same type of build. 

What really helps me is that he LOVES showing me off. He’s always wanting me to meet his friends and coworkers. He even made me go meet his boss right after I died my hair hot pink! I figure he wouldn’t want to do that, and he wouldn’t have married me, if he wasn’t attracted to me.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Sometimes…especially when I’m hanging out in the ugliest outfits you ever did see (giant sweatpants and the most comfortable 12 year old t-shirts lol), with my hair in a messy bun, and no makeup, not to mention I’ve gained quite a bit of weight since we met. I’m such a catch…lol

 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Well, when I first got together with my now Darling Husband people would say “the goofy looking guy?!” Yes, I admit my hubby has a large head but he looks like Harry Potter! Which, I think is a good thing. 🙂

Something I am insecure about though is the fact that Darling Husband likes younger women. I am 8 years younger than him. I ALWAYS worry he will find someone younger. 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

Oh I wonder this all the time. He’s younger, hotter etc.

I’ve been told that we make a cute couple by random strangers though, so that’s a good sign.

Also, if he’s that attracted to me, I’m not going to try to convince him otherwise! lol

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Oh, yea I feel the same way, he’s younger, tall, blond hair and blue eyes with nice broad shoulders…And I’m pretty (pretty average)…  I’m a lot less insecure now, than earlier in our relationship.  The first time he expressed his insecurity, I looked at him like he had 3 heads. But he feels the same way, apparently, my best features shine thru in his eyes, as his do in mine.  

He tells me I’m beautiful all the time, and while I don’t always believe him, I’m certain that we will have pretty children.  My grandmother thinks we look a like, and random people have told us what a great couple we make. And our friends are just ecstatic for us.

There is no doubt in my mind that we are perfect for each other, even if he is the hot one.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think that sometimes but not because of anything that’s come from him. I’m just insecure about myself and that’s what usually leads to those thoughts. I dated in high school but I never dated any of the really popular guys, just more nice/average guys. Fiance played varsity baseball all through high school, pitched all through college and has been popular his whole life. I think I get insecure because I NEVER thought that I’d be able to get the kind of guy that he is.
 
Fiance is really good about expressing how much he loves/is attracted to me though so those feelings of mine have gotten a lot less strong and frequent.

Post # 9
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Helper bee

I always do. I don’t think I’m anything special so when Boyfriend or Best Friend  tells me how gorgeous/beautiful I am, I can’t help but cringe slightly. He asks me to just accept it and smile because I am.

 

Boyfriend or Best Friend is gorgeously cute and I just always wonder how he could be with me. But in my heart we are so good together so it doesn’t matter. But still I wonder sometimes. 

Post # 11
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Helper bee

i think like that pretty much 24/7

girls literally throw themselves at him and because were in an LDR it makes it so much harder..

hes had one girl send him naked pictures of herself, another offered to give him head when he was at work, another one that he goes to college with him tries to get her claws into him everyday… he tells me all about it coz he doesnt want there t be any trust issues, but like seriously?! just coz im not there doesnt give them the right to try it on with him:(

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper

No, beacause I’m a friggan rock star from mars (thanks Charlie Sheen).

My Fiance straight out persued me. I never understood it. I still don’t but I’ve given up on understanding it.

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Utterly, completely, and constantly!  I’m big, fat, and wide and have a good 100 lbs on him and am white to his asian!  We were friends for a long time first and I know the type of girls he went for before me are completely different.

 

However, he is mine, I am his, and for some reason it works.  We are in LDR right now because he went back to school but I trust him.  I still have my days where I hate myself and can’t understand how he is attracted to me, but hey….  at least even with all the jiggly bits I can still make him laugh!

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Stardustintheeyes, judging by your avatar, I bet you were gorgeous even when you just rolled out of the bed!  LOL.  Did you ever ask SO what he thought of you when you first met?

As for me, I do wonder that sometimes, but I don’t dwell on it too much.  It was meant to be.  End of story.  🙂

Post # 16
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Oops, I don’t know how the link to your name got in my post. 

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