Post # 1
Me and the Boyfriend or Best Friend are an odd couple as far as looks go. I cannot help but wonder if people look at us and think hmmmm how in the world did she get him? Im short, and round basically lol. Im not ugly by any means but Im not model type. He is a tall bad boy rocker type and is very good looking. I know its not just me who thinks so because I see how women are towards him when we are out in public. I know I shouldnt think the way I do but I can’t help but wonder like “what in the hell does he want with me and my round self?” lol. He’s always told me he thinks im beautiful and thats all that matters I guess. Im just curious if anyone else ever has similar thoughts.
Post # 3
Sometimes I do, but really my husband and I are pretty similar in looks. We’re both Jewish, so we have that dark hair and fair skin. And the funniest part is that we tend to lose and gain weight at the same time, so we’re always the same type of build.
What really helps me is that he LOVES showing me off. He’s always wanting me to meet his friends and coworkers. He even made me go meet his boss right after I died my hair hot pink! I figure he wouldn’t want to do that, and he wouldn’t have married me, if he wasn’t attracted to me.
Post # 4
Sometimes…especially when I’m hanging out in the ugliest outfits you ever did see (giant sweatpants and the most comfortable 12 year old t-shirts lol), with my hair in a messy bun, and no makeup, not to mention I’ve gained quite a bit of weight since we met. I’m such a catch…lol
Post # 5
Well, when I first got together with my now Darling Husband people would say “the goofy looking guy?!” Yes, I admit my hubby has a large head but he looks like Harry Potter! Which, I think is a good thing. 🙂
Something I am insecure about though is the fact that Darling Husband likes younger women. I am 8 years younger than him. I ALWAYS worry he will find someone younger.
Post # 6
Oh I wonder this all the time. He’s younger, hotter etc.
I’ve been told that we make a cute couple by random strangers though, so that’s a good sign.
Also, if he’s that attracted to me, I’m not going to try to convince him otherwise! lol
Post # 7
Oh, yea I feel the same way, he’s younger, tall, blond hair and blue eyes with nice broad shoulders…And I’m pretty (pretty average)… I’m a lot less insecure now, than earlier in our relationship. The first time he expressed his insecurity, I looked at him like he had 3 heads. But he feels the same way, apparently, my best features shine thru in his eyes, as his do in mine.
He tells me I’m beautiful all the time, and while I don’t always believe him, I’m certain that we will have pretty children. My grandmother thinks we look a like, and random people have told us what a great couple we make. And our friends are just ecstatic for us.
There is no doubt in my mind that we are perfect for each other, even if he is the hot one.
Post # 8
I think that sometimes but not because of anything that’s come from him. I’m just insecure about myself and that’s what usually leads to those thoughts. I dated in high school but I never dated any of the really popular guys, just more nice/average guys. Fiance played varsity baseball all through high school, pitched all through college and has been popular his whole life. I think I get insecure because I NEVER thought that I’d be able to get the kind of guy that he is.
Fiance is really good about expressing how much he loves/is attracted to me though so those feelings of mine have gotten a lot less strong and frequent.
Post # 9
I always do. I don’t think I’m anything special so when Boyfriend or Best Friend tells me how gorgeous/beautiful I am, I can’t help but cringe slightly. He asks me to just accept it and smile because I am.
Boyfriend or Best Friend is gorgeously cute and I just always wonder how he could be with me. But in my heart we are so good together so it doesn’t matter. But still I wonder sometimes.
Post # 10
Thanks for all the responses. its so nice to know im not alone in thinking this way. At the same time I think we all need to remember that these awesome guys chose us for a reason and to them we are beautiful always 🙂 I told the Boyfriend or Best Friend about this and he looked a bit frustrated and then just sat me down and said he doesnt want to ever hear that im thinking like this again because in his eyes I am the most beautiful girl in the world and who I am as a person is why he wants me and my looks are a bonus. such a sweetie he is….
Post # 11
i think like that pretty much 24/7
girls literally throw themselves at him and because were in an LDR it makes it so much harder..
hes had one girl send him naked pictures of herself, another offered to give him head when he was at work, another one that he goes to college with him tries to get her claws into him everyday… he tells me all about it coz he doesnt want there t be any trust issues, but like seriously?! just coz im not there doesnt give them the right to try it on with him:(
Post # 12
No, beacause I’m a friggan rock star from mars (thanks Charlie Sheen).
My Fiance straight out persued me. I never understood it. I still don’t but I’ve given up on understanding it.
Post # 13
Utterly, completely, and constantly! I’m big, fat, and wide and have a good 100 lbs on him and am white to his asian! We were friends for a long time first and I know the type of girls he went for before me are completely different.
However, he is mine, I am his, and for some reason it works. We are in LDR right now because he went back to school but I trust him. I still have my days where I hate myself and can’t understand how he is attracted to me, but hey…. at least even with all the jiggly bits I can still make him laugh!
Post # 14
Ok so this would be a good time to mention that this confusion of mine goes back to literally the moment we met. we have a rather interesting meeting story. here it goes…
I was selling my old cell phone on craigslist. He emailed about it at like 9 am on a saturday morning. I had gone out the night before and was not in good condition lol. we agreed to meet that morning to do the sale. I literally rolled out of bed. Like so gross guys! i mean for real like no one should have been allowed near me. I through my hair in a messy bun, threw water on my face (hello racoon eyes) wore some sweats and gym shoes and my winter coat since there was snow everywhere. I got there and as soon as I saw him I was like damn it! should have brushed my hair? or maybe did a better wash of my face? doh! so I tried to make it quick since I knew i was such a hot mess and as soon as I got in the car i called my best friend like mother f***!!!!! he was hot! and I was a mess! as I was saying this my phone notified me I had a text it said ” so you left pretty quickly and I didnt get your name?” whaaaaaat?! he then proceeds to tell me he thought i was pretty and wanted to know if he could keep my number. Ladies I still to this day wonder what in gods name that man could have found attractive about me that day. I figured though at the time that if he liked me like that than when he saw me looking um not like a homeless person he would for sure like me lol. we went out a week later and the rest is history its been a little over a year now.
Sorry for the long post lol but maybe now you can see that I literally have been confuzzled about his attraction to me since the minute we met.
Post # 15
Stardustintheeyes, judging by your avatar, I bet you were gorgeous even when you just rolled out of the bed! LOL. Did you ever ask SO what he thought of you when you first met?
As for me, I do wonder that sometimes, but I don’t dwell on it too much. It was meant to be. End of story. 🙂
Post # 16
Oops, I don’t know how the link to your name got in my post.