Post # 1
do you ever wonder what it would be like to just go away with FH and get married. not on the planned day or time with the 100+ guest list count watching..
but just you and FH. getting married.
(ok, maybe have your parents there)
i know some people say “well i would want to celebrate with friends an family”..and i can understand that,
but i sometimes think it would be so nice to just run away and do that. not have to pay all the costs of a reception.
leave all your cares behind.
i love FH so much. i dont need a big celebration.
i also think part of me is just so excited to get married! 5 months exactly to go!
i just want to do it now!..whats the rush you ask? no rush really, i just know that i want to spend forever with FH and i want forever to start now =)
gah sorry i just had to get that out to a bunch of strangers who i cant see your glares through the computer screen thinking im insane
Post # 3
I have this fantasy, too and I know my fiance does as well. It would be so much easier (and so romantic) to just take off somewhere nice and get married. But, ultimately, we do want to celebrate with our nearest and dearest.
Post # 4
I think about this all the time, but too many people would be upset!
Post # 5
I just told Fiance last night that we should just find a nice B&B somewhere and get married. Of course, he reminded me that my mother would basically disown me. -goes back to wedding planning.-
Post # 6
We talked about driving to Reno one night and just doing it for us, not telling a soul. It was really tempting for both of us… needless to say, we both think about it a good amount.
Post # 7
@sweetpea1031: see, that just seems so romantic to me!
Miss Tattoo ha. my mom would too…i would want to share with our parents. id even settle for going to the courthouse first. lol we were talking about it jokingly once and he said “no, you want a wedding” but in all actuality i dont think i do.
iheartnerds i thought about this but then i also thought about the people who get married then have a nice party a year or whenever later
Post # 8
We did the JOP thing with just the parents, if that were all I had I would regret that. But most of the big “life” events have been somewhat screwed up for me. I graduated high school early and didn’t go to graduation, got hired right out of college in another state and missed college graduation, etc. For me, getting to do the traditional thing means more because of missing out on so much.
Post # 9
TOTALLY get this. Would do it in a heartbeat but I know I would regret not having “the day” after it was done. And Fiance wouldn’t agree to it in any case, so unless you can suddenly marry yourself or by proxy (?) I don’t think it’s gonna happen.
Post # 10
We did it (we later had the big wedding) and we didn’t tell anyone (except on here). It was amazing and so fun to have a little secret. We live in LA so we drove to Vegas on a Friday night and stayed in a hotel and then got up the next morning and went to the Commissioner of Marriage (courthouse equivalent) just the two of us and got hitched. Then we went to a big amazing brunch to celebrate. Then we had to hightail it back for a friend’s birthday party that night in LA. We went out to her party and just kept smiling at each other across the bar all night, knowing we were married and no one else even knew we had left LA! It was very sweet and romantic (and practical, we did it for insurance reasons).
I will say that while I loved every minute of eloping with him, I’m grateful we went on to have the big wedding. It really was worth the time and money we spent – and I never, ever wanted a big wedding so for me to say that is huge.
Post # 11
I thought about that all of the time! Every once in awhile we would just be like, “Lets skip paying thousands of dollars for people to eat dinner and just get hitched and go on like a month long honeymoon!” We didn’t though 🙂 We stuck it out and I’m glad we did – although a month long honeymoon would have been nice. Looking back on it all I can definitely say that the last 5-4 months went by insanely fast.
Post # 12
@bloodgo1: 4-5 month honeymoon sounds tempting.
Post # 13
@bebefly: ya thats what i am thinking (would regret it after) but theres no way FH would go for it anyways lol. its just draining to think of all the money its costing. and its all coming out of mine and his pockets…
ladyox ive also thought about soing somethign similar to that as well.
bloodgo1 for me, the last 7 months (thats how long weve been engaged) has gone by insanely fast! slow at first but then fast…and im sure it is going to slow down on me again =P
while i think i like the idea of eloping i dont think i would ever actually do it…just the idea of running away and getting married seems nice sometimes
Post # 14
Yes! 🙂 I know what you mean, and we’ve mentioned it to each other a few times…
but we have too much fam! Which is a good thing…. but if only we could ditch the costs and akward moments… sigh
Post # 15
Ha, I told him the other day the only reason I still want a ceremony is because our daughter is so excited to be a flower girl (she asked if she gets to wear a veil too lol). I feel like I kind of have to do the dang thing because my older sister ran off and got married on the beach, only my grandparents were there, and it really hurt my parents feelings. Now one of my younger sisters may be doing the same thing.
Post # 16
Yes, yes, yes…
For me, there is something so romantic about a simple, small courthouse ceremony.
But honestly.. when all is said and done, I would probably be disappointed that we decided not to have the big blowout with all of our friends and family.