(Closed) Do You Expect a Wedding Gift From the Bridal Party?

posted 10 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2008

I don’t expect gifts from my bridal party either.

However this sentiment may not be shared by all.

I think unless your bride has said something to you about it it’s best to get them something. I wouldn’t go all out and spend a lot of money but get them something meaningful. One wedding I was in the bridal party got together and rented a honeymoon suite for the couple and prepared a basket of food and treates for them to enjoy. I didn’t come up with the idea myself but thought it was a great one 🙂

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

i’m not expecting gifts from anyone, Bridal Party member or not

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2008

I did not expect gifts from my BM’s or GM’s but did expect something if they’re significant others were coming….and it ended up that we got much more than we thought we would. =)

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2018

wow, i was actually thinking in the opposite direction!  i’ve been a Bridesmaid or Best Man twice now and I’ve always given even more generous gifts to the couple because I assumed i was that much closer to them.  and just a side gripe, one of those times I wasn’t even allowed to bring a date!

so i guess my answer is yes, i expect gifts from my wedding party…

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I agree with Domino – when I was in a wedding it was because I was close to the couple, so I bought them an "extra nice". Even when this meant hauling it with me over to Africa (destination wedding to the extreme!)

Truthfully, I do expect gifts from the bridal party … at least some of them!

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

Me three! I’ve always given nicer things when I have been a bridesmaid because I’m closer to the couple than other people whose weddings I have attended. As a bride, though, I don’t expect anything from anybody.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

I’ve been in 4 bridal parties, twice as Maid/Matron of Honor.  One was in Chicago, one in LA (I was travelling from NJ).  I’ve always given a shower gift and a wedding gift- no matter how expensice the flight, dress, hotel, etc.

Now, as a bride myself, I would hope that my BMs (3 of which I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man or Maid/Matron of Honor for) would feel towards me, the way I felt towards them and give a meaningful gift.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2008

I too have always given a gift when I’ve been a bridesmaid (4 times).  In my experience, since I know the couple very well it would be really hard not to buy them a gift.  

I wouldn’t hold a grudge if anyone in my bridal party didn’t get us something because I do know it is expensive,  but I would hope they might get us something thoughtful because we are so close.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

I have always given a gift as a Bridesmaid or Best Man as well, because of the assumption that you are closer to the couple. As a bride I do not expect gifts, but I agree that the sentiment may not be shared by all brides.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2008

I think it depends. I didn’t expect anything from most of my bridesmaides because they paid for my showers (I had two) and I got gifts at both of those, plus they paid for little odds and ends for the wedding. So, I didn’t expect anything from them. But one of my bridesmaids didn’t do anything or give any gifts, and I was disappointed that she didn’t give us a wedding gift. I guess it depends on the circumstances, and how close you are to the couple whether or not you are expected to buy them a gift.

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I have always given a gift as a bridesmaid.  In fact, they got a larger gift, since I’ve only been in weddings of very close friends. 

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

I am sure it depends at least in part on how much money the Bridal Party is spending just to be in the wedding… but as a Bridesmaid or Best Man I always bought a present for the bride and groom.  Of course I never had any crazy expensive dresses – and in many cases the bride actually offered to pay for my dress, although in most cases I thanked her but paid myself.  Probably the most expensive Bridal Party experience for me was my sister’s wedding, as there were significant travel expenses, and of course I also got her and Brother-In-Law a present (she is my Maid/Matron of Honor, and has already sent my present). 

Also, in every case, I received a very nice present from the bride – generally jewelry (necklace and earrings), sometimes also a spa day, hair and makeup for the wedding, etc.  In most cases that more than made up for the expense of the dress and shoes, so I think it would have been a little cheap of me to not buy a present for them.

Post # 15
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Helper bee

This is a timely question, as we just received a big gift from one of our bridesmaids. I was totally surprised, as I guess I wasn’t expecting such an expensive gift. I think I am expecting something from our party (though wouldn’t be surprised or hurt if they didn’t get us anything), but not a gift that is more than what the average guest would give.

It is so strange to be talking about this – isn’t it? The whole thing of expecting (or hoping for) gifts and making lists of things you want is so unusual in every other situation but your wedding (ok, except for Christmas when you were a kid). It makes me feel so materialistic… but I’ll be the first to admit how excited I was when that first box arrived on our doorstep!

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

Earlier I said that I didn’t expect anything, but I think I have to take that back now that I’ve thought about it. I think I would be disappointed if I didn’t get even a little present from my BMs. However, if they already bought me a shower gift, I probably wouldn’t mind if they didn’t bring one to the wedding as well.

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