(Closed) Do you expect to be invited to someones wedding if…

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
5889 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

depends on the size of each wedding.  i had a friend who had a gigantic mexican wedding who invited me to hers, but i haven’t seen her in about 10 years and i probably won’t invite her to mine, which will be much smaller.

Post # 4
6597 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010


I don’t like obligation invites! And weddings have different sizes and different budgets! Invite who you WANT to invite not who you feel obligated to invite!

Post # 5
542 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

hmmm I would just invite her (not all the siblings) and if she comes, she comes!

Post # 6
173 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Personally, I don’t think you should feel obligated to ask anyone to your wedding that you don’t want to.  It’s your day!  Especially if your venue is on the smaller side, I don’t think that you should have to invite this old friend of yours.  And if you do decide to invite her, you really don’t have to invite her siblings.

Post # 7
16196 posts
Honey Beekeeper

Wedding invites don’t necessary have to be reciprocal. It would be nice, but it’s unrealistic. Put her on your B list and if you end up with the extra space, maybe send her an invite then.

Post # 8
1030 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I think about this too since I have been to 20 or so weddings in the last few years (I’m one of the last of my friends to get married) – I can’t possibly invite all those people and the SOs, esp since I haven’t seen many of them since their weddings. Ultimately I think you invite who you want to invite.

Post # 9
5977 posts
Bee Keeper

Definitely not! If that were the case, we would go broke with all the weddings we would attend! We invited over 400 people to our wedding b/c we had the means to. In no way am I ever expected to be invited to a wedding of a wedding guest at our wedding. That would make for crazy guest lists! And believe me…mine was crazy huge. It would be completely unfair of me to expect people to invite us to their wedding.

I say you’re completely fine not inviting her! Especially if your venue and your budget can’t hold her and her sibilings and their significant others!

Post # 10
339 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Nope – obligation invitations are one of the reasons guest lists get out of control.  As others have said, all weddings have different budgets and different venue limitations. 

Post # 11
7173 posts
Busy Beekeeper

No – you don’t have an obligation to invite anyone.

Post # 12
11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Nope sure don’t. Now if I invited them to mine and they had a 400 person wedding I’d think maybe… but if I knew they were having a smaller wedding I wouldn’t think anything about it. 🙂 

Post # 13
3148 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I would say if your weddings are close together invite her (and only her).



Post # 14
1509 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

No.  I was invited to my second cousin’s wedding and bridal shower last year who I have seen maybe twice in the past 15 years and knowing that we were planning my wedding and not inviting them, we didn’t attend although did give gifts.  My mom rarely keeps in touch with her cousin (my 2nd cousin is his daughter) and they never attend family events… so we didn’t invite them. 

Post # 15
282 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

No way! I can’t stand obligation invites. You shouldn’t feel pressured like that to invite someone because they invited you.

Post # 16
35 posts

It is up to you!Babe you and your husbands wedding!

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