Post # 1
Do you expect to be invited to someones wedding if… you invited them to yours?
I was invited to a childhood friend’s wedding last year and was acutally surprised to recieve an invitation as we hadn’t really kept in touch through out the years. According to my mother, I have to invite this person since I was invited to hers. And she has 3 siblings that I would feel obligated to invite as well as we all grew up together. The problem is that the location I have picked is a little on the small side and I really may not have room.
Post # 3
depends on the size of each wedding. i had a friend who had a gigantic mexican wedding who invited me to hers, but i haven’t seen her in about 10 years and i probably won’t invite her to mine, which will be much smaller.
Post # 4
I don’t like obligation invites! And weddings have different sizes and different budgets! Invite who you WANT to invite not who you feel obligated to invite!
Post # 5
hmmm I would just invite her (not all the siblings) and if she comes, she comes!
Post # 6
Personally, I don’t think you should feel obligated to ask anyone to your wedding that you don’t want to. It’s your day! Especially if your venue is on the smaller side, I don’t think that you should have to invite this old friend of yours. And if you do decide to invite her, you really don’t have to invite her siblings.
Post # 7
Wedding invites don’t necessary have to be reciprocal. It would be nice, but it’s unrealistic. Put her on your B list and if you end up with the extra space, maybe send her an invite then.
Post # 8
I think about this too since I have been to 20 or so weddings in the last few years (I’m one of the last of my friends to get married) – I can’t possibly invite all those people and the SOs, esp since I haven’t seen many of them since their weddings. Ultimately I think you invite who you want to invite.
Post # 9
Definitely not! If that were the case, we would go broke with all the weddings we would attend! We invited over 400 people to our wedding b/c we had the means to. In no way am I ever expected to be invited to a wedding of a wedding guest at our wedding. That would make for crazy guest lists! And believe me…mine was crazy huge. It would be completely unfair of me to expect people to invite us to their wedding.
I say you’re completely fine not inviting her! Especially if your venue and your budget can’t hold her and her sibilings and their significant others!
Post # 10
Nope – obligation invitations are one of the reasons guest lists get out of control. As others have said, all weddings have different budgets and different venue limitations.
Post # 11
No – you don’t have an obligation to invite anyone.
Post # 12
Nope sure don’t. Now if I invited them to mine and they had a 400 person wedding I’d think maybe… but if I knew they were having a smaller wedding I wouldn’t think anything about it. 🙂
Post # 13
I would say if your weddings are close together invite her (and only her).
Post # 14
No. I was invited to my second cousin’s wedding and bridal shower last year who I have seen maybe twice in the past 15 years and knowing that we were planning my wedding and not inviting them, we didn’t attend although did give gifts. My mom rarely keeps in touch with her cousin (my 2nd cousin is his daughter) and they never attend family events… so we didn’t invite them.
Post # 15
No way! I can’t stand obligation invites. You shouldn’t feel pressured like that to invite someone because they invited you.
Post # 16
It is up to you!Babe you and your husbands wedding!