(Closed) Do you explain when you RSVP “no”?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
291 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I give an explanation.  I am that type of person however. I would want someone to tell me why they can’t come so I tell. 

Post # 4
808 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I typically give an answer!  I know I would like a reason, so I try to give one!  (I had a post recently about people sending their RSVP with a decline- without a phone call, text, e-mail!  Oh well!  I’m over it now!)

Post # 5
7695 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I will usually give an explanation. However, we are not going to be able to attend a friend’s wedding in July because we have another wedding on the same day. I dont think we will write on the RSVP that we are not able to make it because we have another wedding. I think Ill just say “sorry we cant make it!”

Post # 6
3526 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I always give a reason why.

But I have been guilty of fibbing occasionally because I just don’t want to go! Especially for like after work drinks and such. Shh!

Post # 7
11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I never did explain before, but moving forward after our wedding I will because it was frustrating to see a “no” with no explanation. I don’t know that I will for more informal stuff (like a random large party i’m invited to on facebook)… but for smaller get-together or weddings I definitely will. 

Post # 8
13099 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I always try to give a little note (although I don’t always explain the exact conflict that prevents my attendace).

Just saying “No” seems a bit harsh and rude to me.

Post # 9
3176 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

It depends. If I’m declining because I don’t want to go then I just say, “no thank you” but if there is a legit reason I give it.

Post # 10
46416 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I don’t give an explanation or need one from someone else. I usually write in “sorry, unable to make it” rather than just tick the “no” box .

Post # 11
2398 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Sometimes.  Depends on the nature of the event.  If it’s a wedding, baptism, etc. I try to explain.  Otherwise, meh.  “I’d rather sit at home in my jammies with a book than listen to your loud boyfriend’s drunken rants about NCAA basketball,” would probably do more harm than good.

It actually kind of annoys me when people expect to be given an explanation, particularly because they seldom like the answers they receive. 

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