(Closed) Do you feel awkward being the center of attention? Need advice re: shower…

posted 5 years ago in Parties
  • poll: Did you like being the center of attention at your bridal shower?
    Loved it! : (5 votes)
    12 %
    It was fine, I managed okay. : (19 votes)
    45 %
    Hated it! : (7 votes)
    17 %
    Hate is a strong word, but I didn't like it. : (11 votes)
    26 %
  • Post # 3
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    731 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    Honestly, it was SO SO awkward. I wasn’t expecting it to be as awkward as it was, either, because it was the last thing on my mind when planning. All I can say is to power through and have friends in the crowd who know what you’re going through. Music, too. Music would make it less awkard maybe. And alcohol.

    Post # 5
    Member
    1966 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    No. But I’m not shy at all. The word is non existent between my family & friends. I’ve been to a lot of bridal showers, baby showers, weddings etc & haven’t encountered an awkward mom/bride. But that’s just bc I’m not amongst shy people. I would suggest finding a few people you’re super comfortable with & focusing on them. Have them by your side to relax you when you get nervous. 

    Post # 6
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    1399 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I felt super awkward at first. I really don’t like being the center of attention for parties & things like that. So uncomfortable. I was totally dreading that aspect of the shower… but by the time we started in on the gifts, I’d had SEVERAL cups of champagne punch, lots of yummy food, and laughs with friends, so I felt a lot more relaxed that I’d expected. I did worry about coming off genuine, reacting enough, etc., but I wasn’t all anxiety-ridden like I was beforehand.

    Post # 7
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    1399 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I felt super awkward at first. I really don’t like being the center of attention for parties & things like that. So uncomfortable. I was totally dreading that aspect of the shower… but by the time we started in on the gifts, I’d had SEVERAL cups of champagne punch, lots of yummy food, and laughs with friends, so I felt a lot more relaxed that I’d expected. I did worry about coming off genuine, reacting enough, etc., but I wasn’t all anxiety-ridden like I was beforehand.

    Post # 9
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    418 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @FiddleSticks:  i don’t have any advice regarding how to combat that feeling for your next shower.. but i wanted to tell you you’re not alone!  my best friend is probably the least shy/anxious person i know, and even she felt uncomfortable and awkward at her shower!  i’m a pretty outgoing person myself, and i’m super scared for mine next month!  i hope your second one goes better- maybe it will since you know what to expect 🙂

    Post # 10
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    377 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I think I know how you feel. I chose to avoid the whole situation entirely. Much to my sister (MOH’s) dismay. She kept pressuring and pushing for me to have a shower. I said no from the get go, and then finally sent her a text that said it was non-negotiable, no shower! She hasn’t spoken to me in two weeks Frown.

    Post # 11
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    98 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Yes, I don’t like it. Something about showers (the predictability?) makes me cringe. I always knew I would never have a shower. I’m not overly shy and I can enjoy social situations fine but I just can’t tolerate the idea of having it be all about me, me, me. Fiance and I are simply having a wedding and that is all!

    Post # 14
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    89 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @FiddleSticks:  I completely understand where you are coming from, because I wasn’t thrilled by the idea of showers either. In fact, I begged my Mother not to have one because I did not want to be the center of attention at a shower – but they had a family shower for me anyways (luckily it was a joint birthday party for my 2 year old niece – she was loving the attention so it made it more fun for me and took some of the attention off of me Smile). Plus, my Godmother threw an even bigger shower for me for family AND friends. Oh dear. Showers just aren’t my thing, but I received so many genuine and generous gifts that, even though the experiences were awkward for me, I was truly touched by all of the love and support and felt very blessed to have so many wonderful people in my life. My Fiance was able to attend the shower that my Godmother threw for me so that also made the experience more enjoyable. He knows how I feel and anytime he knew I might be feeling awkward he would squeeze my hand and/or give me a reassuring smile. 

     

    I was even afraid of being the center of attention on my wedding day, but of course it was the happiest day of my life and I had eyes only for Darling Husband so, as it turns out, there was nothing to fear. I relaxed completely on the actual day of the wedding!

     

    My advice is just to have someone who understands you and how you feel about being the honoured gest at this type of event (shower) near to you. It will help you relax! I am very shy as well and it worked for me!

     

    Sidenote: Is it weird that I hate having parties thrown for me where I am the guest of honour…but I love throwing them for other people??? I threw a huge baby shower for my sister with tons of DIY, candy bar, food, and all kinds of special touches and I had a blast doing it. Weird haha.

     

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