(Closed) Do you feel bad/rude returning gifts?

posted 6 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
2531 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Nope. Once a gift is given, it’s the recipient who decides what to do with it – if they want to throw it in the garbage, they have every right (though it’s a bit rude)
I remember once I got a gift from an aunt, a big ptached-jeans satchel. I exchanged it for some PJ’s that I still have and love, and they always make me think of her fondly.

So if the wine decanter isn’t your thing, you have every right to exchange it. If your aunt asks about it, explain what happened in a positive light (that it was beautiful, but you were worried it wouldn’t be used as much in your household, you exchanged it for some beautiful wine glasses that would get more use & oohs and aahs everyday)

By The Way, the lingere? How about you ask your Fiance how he feels before you exchange it all. Maybe he’d like you to keep some! I think that’s a nice little “gift” for him as well, right? 😛

Post # 4
13590 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I do feel totally guilty.  However, if it’s something you’d never use, why would you keep it to take up space?  If your aunt comes over and asks about the decanter, all you have to say is, “Well, unfortunately, we don’t drink much wine these days, but we exchanged it for all of these awesome (insert new things here) that we use all time time!”

Post # 6
823 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@jennygrl070:  OP, I would keep the lingerie. It might not be as practical as pj’s but it’s not supposed to be. I’m sure your husband would appreciate you pulling it out every once in awhile to spice things up and I guarantee it will get you action a lot faster than a comfy robe. I would think you’d feel a lot sexier in the lingerie too 🙂 buy yourself a robe some other time and keep the VS goodies!

Post # 7
585 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I think you should return it for something you’ll use. If it’s lingerie, the gift giver will have no idea because they aren’t going to see you in it anyways.

Post # 8
395 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I asked my fiance if I shuld return some stuff and his response was “You are not allowed to return lingerie.”

We did return wedding gifts to get more practical things. Ex. if we didn’t get the set of something we returned, or we returned a couple single knives to get the knife set we wanted. 

Post # 9
2053 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I wouldn’t return lingerie unless it didn’t fit. Darling Husband lovvessss when I wear lingerie.


One of my good friends from college bought be these really nice crystal tiffany beer mugs that we returned. They were super ornate and really not my style at all. I felt bad returning them, but I knew I would never ever use them.  We have a gift card to Tiffanys now and hopefully we will pick out something wonderful and think of my friend when we use it!

Post # 10
9544 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I second asking your hubby prior to returning the lingerie, but if he’s on-board then I think you plan is fine to keep a few pices but return the rest. And I agree with everyone else about the decanter – if you won’t use it, return it for something you will use. But get something that will last so that you can point to it and how often you use it, if aunt ever asks.

Post # 11
4698 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@TattedNYBride:  I second that!

@jennygrl070: Keep the lingerie. It’s alot sexier than wearing a robe and or pjammas around the house, I’m sure your husband would agree. Wearing lingerie may not be ‘practical’ but it makes you feel good and again, I don’t think your husband would complain.

Return the decanter though. Without guilt. If you’re not going to use it, I’m sure that the gift giver would be happier knowing that you have a gift that you’ll actually use.

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