(Closed) Do you feel guilty about buying things for yourself? (vent included)

• jennicole01
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: July 2012

@kw617:  Ditto! We are doing the “fun money” thing because my husband likes to buy things and doesn’t like me breathing down his neck about purchases… but honestly, it’s helped me to feel a LOT less guilty about spending money on myself that I normally would feel would be better allocated elsewhere. It’s a great system, I think!

• Rouquine
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: October 2012

All of the time.  It could be smallest thing too like an iced coffee at Wawa.

• kerpao
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: September 2017

I used to be like that well i still am so now I buy things for my SO and he buys things for me! whenever he see’s me contempating about wanting to buy something he’ll just get it for me 🙂 I rarely “want” anything though. Not even once a month so i think that’s why he’s willing to buy things for me. Why can’t you get the DH to get it for you? I’m sure he’d be more than wililng to considering how much you let him spend on his xbox. (SO’s waiting for NHL 14 to drop and this other game, he already warned me he was going to spend the money but when i said I’d get it for him he said no 🙁 i know how you feel, i liked buying SO stuff too!)

• kw617
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: June 2012

@jennicole01:  I love it too!  Our rule is that we can get whatever we want, no questions or comments.  Though hubby gets around that when he thinks I bought something crazy (like an expensive handbag or $180 cordless drill) by holding his neck and pretending to choke and pass out.  hehe. 

• silver1
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: October 2010

I feel like that too. Im currently not bringing in money and that has increased my guilt of spending. So when we go out nowadays my husband buys for me last weekend we stopped at a mall on way back because my pants were tight and I was refusing to buy maternity clothes. So he took me to store and picked some nice stuff.

• brittanym526
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: July 2010

@Pocket_Mouse:  Wow – are you my twin? I think we are honestly having the same thoughts. LOL. I have been wanting a rug for my front room for FOREVER – and my hubby finally went with me to buy one and I could.not.buy.it.without.him.there.telling.me.to. We got it home and rolled it out and I had the most immense guilt that I kept the receipt for like 2 weeks. If we wouldn’t have bought it at a store like 50 miles away – I probably would have returned it. Believe me girl, I get it.

• kay01
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: May 2012

If you really can’t stomach the spending, then agree on a budget for each of you, make a list of things you want and only buy for each other.  So you have $100 a month for him and you decide to go with one game and the gold account this month, the second game next month.  He looks at your list and decides to go with the boots, movie and ring this month, coat the next…

This works if you both *want* to spend on each other.  It hopefully will teach you that your contributions are worthy too, such that you can spend on yourself reasonably.

• floridagirlblue
• 8 years ago

@Pocket_Mouse:  Very pretty ring!!!