- 8 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
You know these posts do make me feel better. Mainly just to hear first hand that I’m not alone in these types of feelings, and thanks for that.
I probably should to tell hubby to come up with me a budget. I would make him do it because dealing with money is such a stressor for me.
All of the time. It could be smallest thing too like an iced coffee at Wawa.
I used to be like that well i still am so now I buy things for my SO and he buys things for me! whenever he see’s me contempating about wanting to buy something he’ll just get it for me 🙂 I rarely “want” anything though. Not even once a month so i think that’s why he’s willing to buy things for me. Why can’t you get the DH to get it for you? I’m sure he’d be more than wililng to considering how much you let him spend on his xbox. (SO’s waiting for NHL 14 to drop and this other game, he already warned me he was going to spend the money but when i said I’d get it for him he said no 🙁 i know how you feel, i liked buying SO stuff too!)
I feel like that too. Im currently not bringing in money and that has increased my guilt of spending. So when we go out nowadays my husband buys for me last weekend we stopped at a mall on way back because my pants were tight and I was refusing to buy maternity clothes. So he took me to store and picked some nice stuff.
@Pocket_Mouse: Wow – are you my twin? I think we are honestly having the same thoughts. LOL. I have been wanting a rug for my front room for FOREVER – and my hubby finally went with me to buy one and I could.not.buy.it.without.him.there.telling.me.to. We got it home and rolled it out and I had the most immense guilt that I kept the receipt for like 2 weeks. If we wouldn’t have bought it at a store like 50 miles away – I probably would have returned it. Believe me girl, I get it.
If you really can’t stomach the spending, then agree on a budget for each of you, make a list of things you want and only buy for each other. So you have $100 a month for him and you decide to go with one game and the gold account this month, the second game next month. He looks at your list and decides to go with the boots, movie and ring this month, coat the next…
This works if you both *want* to spend on each other. It hopefully will teach you that your contributions are worthy too, such that you can spend on yourself reasonably.
The responses have really helped with the feelings of guilt, and I am definitely going to buy myself something this week. DH is going to help “enforce” this. Now I haven’t decided what yet, but I am going to make a purchase, and I’m not going to back out of it this time.
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