(Closed) Do you feel industry-portrayed “average” wedding costs represent the norm?

posted 10 years ago in Money
  • poll: Do you feel industry-portrayed "average" wedding costs represent the norm?

    Yes

    No

    To some extent, I'll explain below

  • Post # 15
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

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    @Jenbee: Oh crap, I didn’t even know wedding rings and honeymoons were included in the total!  Well, that just about doubles it.

    Post # 16
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I believe it, I don’t think “wedding” includes elopments though, casue I think that would bring the average down.

    Post # 17
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I’m jaded..everything in NYC is way above the average so these “averages” usually shock me because they are so low.

    Post # 18
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    It is hard to say!  There are so many variables, and depending on where you are- that makes all the difference.  Plus, if it is just a numbers game- sure- maybe there are more brides in the state of NY or California- but if they did it right it would be more like an electoral college in a way- I just know that a lot of brides when I lived in Montana had fantastic weddings for next to nothing, but obviously there are more weddings taking place in more populated areas where people spend much more, thereby skewing the results.  Know what I mean?  🙂

    Post # 19
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    No, becaues most of those industry surveys are remotely rigorous in their design. They are based on the responses of people who buy bridal magazines and go to mainstream bridal sites – these are people who tend to be making a bigger deal of the wedding and spending more than others.

    They don’t take into account most elopements, for example.

    Post # 20
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Well Iwould like to know what is all included in the wedding. Is the honeymoon? Fiance is paying for ours but that adds on an extra 5-6k, our photographer was 2k, dj 800, limo 900, cake 350, and reception right around 5k, dress w/ alterations 1k. So all in all we’re just under $15,000.

    That’s not including the rings either! I would add another 4k there. So yea I would say that average sounds right. And I’m just a plain old Midwest girl! This stuff adds up, plus this is for 200+ guests.

    By the way we are paying for everything ourselves, but we both still live at home with our parents which is allowing us to be able to pull this off!

    Post # 21
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    Helper bee

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    @nyc new bee: My understanding is that the rings and honeymoon are not included in wedding cost when trying to compare costs. There would be no point in even comparing then, because you’re not talking about the cost of a wedding anymore, but the cost of a ring (could range from practically nothing to sky’s-the-limit) and the cost of a trip (could be any place in the world). But, the fact that some people do include these things throws off any comparison even more!

    Post # 22
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

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    @mightywombat:  Agreed.  I have also wondered exactly where this data comes from.  I’m guessing someone who does a small JOP ceremony or private officiant ceremony and then takes their family and friends out for a nice dinner afterwards will likely not get “counted” in these numbers…yet what they had is still a wedding.

    Post # 23
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I had a favorite still of this website that says this:

    On average, US couples spend $24,066 for their wedding. However, the majority of couples spend between $18,050 and $30,083. This does not include cost for a honeymoon or engagement ring. Understanding wedding cost now can help you with your wedding budget later.

    Here’s the link to the site. It lets you put in your zip code and see what the average cost is in different zip codes

    http://www.costofwedding.com/

    Post # 24
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

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    @mwitter80:  good site!  I love it! 

    Post # 25
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    My parents gave me a budget of $25,000 to spend (not including honeymoon or rings) for 150 people.

    I live in Massachusetts where everything seems to be a wee bit more expensive. It would be more like $35 if we lived on the other part of the state near Boston for the same items.

    Post # 26
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I think there are a lot of people who get married who never touch the “industry” so they aren’t even counted. All the couples out there who have a small ceremony in their backyard with family and cake and flowers from the grocery store. I don’t think they are ever even factored in to the numbers. How would they be?

    I’ve only been to one friends wedding who I think spent more than 8k, everyone else was really simple. It’s totally a scam to convince you that the “norm” is what you should want, when the real norm is probably the courthouse, lol!

    Our culture, puts too much emphasis on weddings and not enough emphasis on marriage! That’s the main issue.

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