(Closed) Do you feel less attractive?

posted 9 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

It comes and goes for me, but I think it’s just me. KWIM? I truly believe that he thinks I’m sexy still, but I am harder on myself lately then I need to be. So, even if he was done on his knees begging and telling me I was hot everyday, I would still feel ugly sometimes.

Sorry you’re feeling that way, btw. It stinks when you know you shouldn’t be, but you can’t help it! 🙂 

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2018 - St. Charles Borromeo Church/Jefferson-Orleans North

I’m recently married but my husband still tells me when I’m cute/pretty/sexy. In fact, I think it’s moreso than before the wedding. It definitely gives me a boost in my day! I’m sorry it’s not the same for you. 🙁

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

ive been married almost a month and the joke from other wives in the office is "i can let myself go now as ive got the ring"

when we first got together i found contentment had me putting loads of pounds on so im determined not to let marriage do that to me (hence why we both have personal trainers)

lack of attention from Fiance (now hubby) is a bit of an issue with me at times (usually depending on my moods). hes use to me being very independant and not a girly girl so when i whine "i want you to pay attention to me and make me feel special" he usually steps up because ive specifically told him exactly what i need from him. poor man, he def is not a mind reader so needs to be told how im feeling to respond

 

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I totally get what you mean.  I get the "I love you’s" and all that but the "you look beautiful" tends to come less often.  It probably doesn’t help that we see each other less because pretty much every waking moment he has that he’s not at work he is working on our new house.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I think this happens all the time in relationships, sometimes even before marriage. Guys feel like they don’t have to "work" for you anymore. This may sound old fashioned, but I really make an effort to look nice for him. It makes me feel good, too. I try to ask him to do the same, which works sometimes. Honestly, I’d say something to him. Men cannot read minds so he probably doesn’t even realize you feel this way. We all know that communication is key in relationships, so a good talk (and maybe a good cry) might help.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee

Things haven’t changed much for us, but we lived together before we were married. He’s always been the "hands on" type, if you know what I mean, so while he doesn’t say things  to compliment how I look anymore, I know he’s still attracted to me. Funny story though, that kind of relates. Mr. Joe leaves for work before before I have to get up so I’m usually half asleep when he kisses me good bye in the morning. One morning we did the usual routine, and as he was about to walk out of the bedroom, I noticed his clothes didn’t match AT ALL. So, I told him and he kind of thought it over for a second and said "well, I’m married so I don’t have to match anymore" and he walked out the door and didn’t change lol silly man. I do still try to look nice when we go out together and stuff, and I’m hoping to try to start exercising a little so I don’t get chubby (I was a bit skinnier when he first met me) so that I will hopefully stay attractive! (I definitely worry about it!)

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

heheheheh – btw, i went thru one of these moods on friday night when i got home from work, told him flat out you dont make me feel special and then all weekend he was over attentive to me… to the point that i was so over it come sunday. poor guy, cant win

 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

@flamingo – my fiance would say YES! 🙂

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

@flamingo — Sometimes I’ll do that. : )  It usually works.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Flamingo:  I know for a fact that always works! HAHA!

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2018 - Coyaba Resort, Montego Bay

Mr. Quiche tells me all the time – & I think Mr. F should be doing the same for you!  & if that means walking around naked to get his attention & make your point, then by all means – strip down!!  heehee

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