(Closed) Do you feel like a “spoiled american”?

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Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I’m a Canadian marrying an American– and I’ll be moving to the US this year. Many, many people have been less than polite when they find out I’m with an American & that I’ll be moving there.

I don’t share their sentiments at all (obviously) but there are a lot of people out there who don’t like Americans. In Canada though its a little different. Many Canadians feel superior to Americans in general (again, not my beliefs).

The funny thing is- people talk crap about Americans ALL the time, yet when they meet & know an American in person they drop all their attitudes. Sigh. Can’t we all just get along?

I’m sorry your in-laws act that way towards you! Hopefully they’ll get to know you better & realize you aren’t as spoiled as they think πŸ™‚

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

Wild… from an aussie point of view (and the Kiwis and aussies are very similar)… we dont like anyone.  thats why when we’re called racists we’re so offended – we dont dislike someone on the basis of their colour, race or religion – its because they arent aussie’s or kiwis we enjoy taking the piss out of you

oh, and during cricket or rugby season, we dont like the kiwi’s and they dont like us and the only time we do like eachother is when they are playing South Africa or England

πŸ™‚

 

 

 

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

my hubbys cousin is married to a lovely canadian girl – imagine my big fat greek wedding meets the cast from that canadian show Corner Gas… craziness on both sides

 

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I’ve never watched Corner Gas (not really a fan of CDN television) but I’ve heard about it! What an interesting wedding that must have been πŸ™‚ hehe

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Can we really help where we’re born? I don’t feel like a spoiled American, because I’ve never been spoiled, lol! Was I born into a country that is full of opportunity and allows you to become whatever you want? Yes! Has anything ever been handed to me? No. So, I was fortunate enough to be born into a country that millions of people try to get into so that they can become whatever they want, and I work my patootie off for it. It’s pure luck that I’m from America, but I don’t take it for granted.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

What a timely thread! Just a few minutes ago I was getting a glass of water from the fridge. As the water came out of the fridge, I had this surreal moment when I realized how incredibly lucky I was to have fresh, safe water.

OK, so that’s not what most people think of when they think “spoiled,” but it’s one of those things that everyone in a developed country takes for granted. I suppose I have a different definition of spoiled because I’m from the country, from a big family, and don’t have money.

I assumed that foreigners didn’t like Americans because we tend to be so high strung and aggressive.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

@Minutiae… its actually because you talk funny and you dont talk real good english like us, aye πŸ™‚

ok, for some real aussie/kiwi stuff, we have a thing down here called the “tall poppy syndrome”. meaning if it is felt that you are behaving above your station, better than others or being a show off – some people will try to cut you down to size, not everyone but it still happens.

 

 

 

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@eloping: In other words, if we don’t walk three feet behind foreigners and avoid direct eye contact when speaking, we’re acting above our “station”? πŸ˜› Eh, I think it’s just a misunderstanding of culture.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

Wild, try to think of it this way – if someone is trying to take the piss out of you, it means they like you!

really, we wouldnt bother with someone they didnt like πŸ™‚

 

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

@minutiae – which country are you talking about? down here everyone is from somewhere else so foreigners are everywhere.  and yes in thinking about it, i guess alot of aussie will try to get an rise out of an american (by teasing their accent, bad beer or bad food) because they can and if they suceed its funny

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

Do or would you act as if they’re unsophisticated and stupid if they didn’t know how to “put” a stock, write a grant proposal or lazy if they’ve never worked a 70hour week?  (Just some random stuff I associate with Americanism).  If not then they shouldn’t act as if you’re spoiled because you don’t know how to dig a ditch.  My point is that living in different places will mean a different skill set.  It’s hard not to think of your own skill set as natural but it really isn’t, it’s all cultural.  Just be nice to them and they will eventually thaw.  And make sure your Fiance supports you!

To an extent I do think I’m spoiled as are all Americans.  The easy availability of food, the internal peace for decades and decades, the easy availability of cheap clothing, the relatively easy availability of jobs that pay good wages compared to most of the world (I know it doesn’t seem like it right now – but compared to countries with 20-50% unemployment we’ve still got a lot of jobs).  I’m aware of the advantages and don’t try to act as if I earned them just by being awesome, I got lucky.  But no I don’t feel like I should grovel or appologize for it.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Can I just say that I thoroughly love the term “taking the piss out of you”? Irrelevant, but still. I love it. Reminds me of my favorite movie, Death Proof – “I’m just taking the piss out of you, mate”

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

lol as a canadian living in the us it’s funny, americans love to make fun of canadians! but my family thinks its funny!

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