Post # 1
Some time ago the subject of *ahem* my mans prostate glad came up. He’d heard of how it can be extremely pleasurable for the prostate to be stimulated so he asked me if I knew anything about this. I didn’t really. So we decided to look into it. We’ve always been pretty open sexually with each other, but now that we’re settled into our lives together we always try to at least try new things once. My man said maybe….just maybe he’d like to try this, but I’d have to go easy on him. (hehe my cute FI)
Well, as we’re sitting with a close group of friends (all couples) and we’ve all had a few drinks the subject comes up again. My man’s best friend immediately stomped down the idea that something like that would be okay to try (without us telling we wanted to try it). He went on a rant how a man’s prostate and anus are not for pleasure. He even went as far as to say that any man who tried this was obviously “gay.”
I was a little shocked by his response, but decided to think little of it. To each their own. Well, now Fiance doesn’t even want to talk about it anymore. It’s like his feelings are hurt by his best friend unknowingly calling him gay. He won’t even discuss the subject anymore because he’s “straight not gay.” SERIOUSLY!? I tried to explain that I’m his woman and it’s not a homosexual thing when it’s between a man and woman yet that won’t help. Even so, what would be so wrong with being gay anyway!! (not the point, but you get what I mean).
Have any of you ladies faced this? Are there any stigmas that stop you from going farther in bed with your man? Please share! I’d also like to hear how you’ve over come them.
Thanks in advance for sharing!
Post # 3
My Fiance has quite a few hangups where as I have…very little or none. I know that I will not be able to change him, so I dont try. He does go out of his way to do things that he knows I like even if he doesnt get any joy from them but is pretty unwilling to let me try things new on him.
Thats quite the different issue from what you are facing. His friend sounds VERY close minded and his opinions should have no place in your bedroom! I am trying to think of something that would help.
Basically, I would say are you attracted to men? No? Okay, you are not gay. Do you think it will flip a switch and you will suddenly become gay? No? Okay, so whats the issue?
Being gay implies that you enjoy a sexual act with someone of the same sex. If it is with someone of the opposite sex, it doesn’t make you gay.
I hope other Bees have some better advice for you!
Post # 4
@MissTatas: Agreed. I never understood why doing certain acts WITH A WOMAN were considered gay. If you are in bed with a woman and you aren’t secretly imagninging she is a man, how can anything the two of you do together be gay?
Post # 5
@Neva: My thoughts as well ladies. It’s such a stupid thing!
Post # 6
its really cool that hes open with you cuz my SO would never tell me sumthing like dat! ever
Post # 7
That “friend” sounds like an ignorant douchenozzle.* But it also sounds like your SO has some pretty serious hangups. Tell him that his girlfriend playing with his ass does not, of course, make him the least bit gay. HOWEVER! Thinking about your male friends while she does or doesn’t play with your ass is… pretty gay. Not that there’s anything wrong with that.
*I was going to call him an asshole, but reconsidered. Lol!
Post # 8
Too Much Information alert:
my man likes it and he’s DEFINITELY not gay… *wink*
Post # 9
@Beluga: Hahaha!! Too funny!
OP, it sucks that your FI’s friend’s weird sexual insecurities are going to cause your Fiance to miss out. Fiance and I have talked about trying that too… we still haven’t gotten around to it, but we do intend to!
Post # 10
@mrs.peters.to.be:I’ve known guys like that. My sister’s bf had her do that once when he was drunk and was just realllllly embarassed after. Men can be stupid sometimes. I did it (just a little, like outer play nothing too in depth) with my fiance and it makes sex a lot crazier. Its just a prostate thing. Its biological its not gay or straight. Maybe you should get him drunk and just go for it (just a little haha)