- 2 years ago
- Wedding: City, State
I’m stealing all your names, by the way.
I’m stealing all your names, by the way.
My DHs cousins all have kids so there’s a few names I’ve like but axed because it’d be weird to me lol. I don’t want to be a “stealer” persay although it’s likely they may share middle names since my Darling Husband wants to use his moms maiden as a middle and I know at least one has used it.
We know for our first son he will be named Dominic Jeffrey. Dominic was my fathers middle name and Jeffrey is my husbands name and it’s tradition in his family for the first born son to get the fathers first name as a middle. I also like Dominic because it’s not super common but it’s not out there lol. I’m a Danielle and there were 4 of us on our HS softball team. My husband is also 1 of 3 Jeff’s in his office lol.
girls names are hard for me I’d really like a J name but hate pretty much all of them lol. Madeline is st the top of our list since Darling Husband doesn’t totally hate that one lol
I lost my best friend as a child and I always vowed that if I had a boy, I’d name him after that friend. Lo and behold, I had a boy! Thankfully, Darling Husband liked the name and was on board with it. To compromise, I let Darling Husband have final say on the middle name and the one he chose happens to be his own middle name but also, we had a friend with the same first and middle name. When I told this friend and his wife, they were not really pleased and told us they were planning on naming their child the same. I’m sorry but.. both names are important to us and it certainly wasn’t intentional, oh well. I’m glad I didn’t let them affect anything being that they have since split and I’ve seen him maybe once? The name wasn’t why, either… they just drifted off from the group in general.
Sidenote, I like to name my cars. A few months after choosing a name for my new car openly, friends of mine shared their birth announcement of the same name. I hope they don’t hate me for stealing their name… for my car. LOL
endlessloop : Umm maybe she was trying to be nice by incorporating her brother’s name (who I assume is someone she cares about) into her child’s name? We used SIL’s name for a middle and didn’t tell her beforehand, she was honored. Like actually teared up and needed kleenex she was so happy.
How often is someone really going to use their middle name in every day use? Almost never.
I might have said it didn’t matter until this week. My daughter has a fairly common but not overly common name. (I think it was like #20 on the popularity lists when we picked it.) She was the only baby on my mom’s side of the family for a long time. My cousin got accidentally pregnant with her boyfriend when my baby was about 8 months old. Both my cousin and her boyfriend had met my baby and knew her well. They quickly got engaged, had a bridal shower, wedding, and baby shower. I talked to my cousin at length at her wedding and other events about how excited I was that we would have two little girls of similar ages and how I hoped they would be close. She told me she had picked a name but was keeping it secret. Fast forward a couple months, and the baby is born. Same name as my daughter. At first I thought I was fine with it, but I am honestly having a lot of trouble with this. I feel like no one would do this to a close family member, and she must see us as not being very close. Everytime I mention my daughter and I have to say “my daughter” instead of her name to our close family, it breaks my heart. I thought I would be okay with it but I actually think it may tarnish my relationship with my cousin forever. I don’t want that to be true, but I don’t know if I have the grace to get over it anytime soon.
In my family having a child named after you is an honor. My niece was given my middle name as her middle name but that’s what she’s called. And a nephew was named after an uncle who died a decade before we were born. It’s kind of nice.
I guess I just don’t understand why people think that if they know a single other person with their potential kids name that the name is “ruined” for all eternity. What if someone “claims” a name that a friend or family member also likes, and then they never have a child of that gender? So the name is just retired forever even though they never ended up using the name? I hope none of these kids end up hating the name their parents fought tooth and nail to “save” for them.
I know several who have kept their names secret due to people stealing them. I can’t say I blame them- I know name stealers although I couldn’t imagine doing it myself.
I feel strongly about my kid’s name(s) not being something that a lot of other people have- especially those in my close family or friends groups. I’ve got a couple names I’ve loved for years but since they belong to nieces/nephews/cousins I won’t use them.
However, I spoke with a woman who has an identical twin and they got pregnant around the same time and (independent of one another) each decided to name their babies the same name. One had a girl and the other had a boy. The name is the boy’s first name and the girl’s middle name.
We are nowhere close to having our own children but we have names for both boys and girls picked out that we plan on using eventually. We have decided to not tell anyone their names until a sex has been identified. I’m not worried about anyone “stealing” the names but I honestly don’t want to deal with everyone’s opinion and having to pretend that their opinions actually matter.
Fiance slipped and told one of his sisters both our boy and girl names and she went on tangent about both of them. She didnt like that we were naming our potential daughter after Fis grandmother’s first name because his grandmother went by her middle name instead and didn’t particularly like her first name (we both love it). And she made a disgusted face when he mentioned the boy name we had picked out. Why? I have no freaking clue lol. It’s a “normal” name, just very old and fairly uncommon.