I’m not married yet, but one of my friends started showing her true colors after my BFF got engaged a couple of years ago.
Let me start off saying that this is just a small snapshot of this friend and her decisions constantly have all of us shaking our heads and asking why. To this day, I still can’t really explain this other than just jealousy and being in bad relationships.
My BFF got engaged and then not soon after our other friend got secretly engaged to her boyfriend. She pressured her boyfriend into proposing (this all came out after he cheated on her and they broke up). I say it was a secret because it wasn’t until my BFF’s bachelorette party that I saw what looked like an engagement ring on her right hand. I asked her about it and she began to explain that she was indeed engaged, but keeping it secret because her divorce was not yet final. Once the truth was known to all of us girls in the car she moved the ring to her left hand.
At the bach party, this friend was not really hanging out with us, but texting her fiance all night. When we got back to the hotel room she wanted to hang out with some random guys by the pool. My friends drug her back into the room because she was drunk. She drank way too much and got sick the next day.
On the wedding day, she was late showing up to the venue for photos (we’re both bridesmaids) because of some story about looking at a house with her fiance and then having to stop off at the store for something. Her story didn’t make sense. She told me one thing, but told the bride a different story and the timelines were not matching up.
We went to another location from where the wedding and reception were taking place to take photos and this friend shows up with her fiance. The bridal party had some downtime while the bride and groom did family shots so we all started walking around this property (it was a huge, old house on a large piece of land). It came time to do some more shots with just the bride and bridesmaids and this friend was nowhere to be found. We yelled and looked for her for about 5 minutes and were already behind schedule. Finally, the bride (very angry) said to do the photos without her. Just as we were about to snap the first picture here she comes from somewhere behind the house. Turns out, she went off to take her own pictures with her fiance.
I got engaged last year and my wedding venue was hosting sort of an open house so that brides could come and see the place all decorated and sample food and hear the house band. My friend came with me and all she talked about was what she wanted for her wedding. The girl was not engaged at the time. Not trying to be bridezilla, I didn’t say anything, but that day was supposed to be for me to get ideas for my wedding. After that, she wanted to buy a watch for her new boyfriend (long story on the reasoning behind that) so she wanted to go to a jewelry store to look around. We get there and the sales associate asks if we need help and my friend says she’s just looking. I thougth well while we’re here I’ll take a look at wedding bands just to price compare. After the sales woman helps me, my friend asks to look at the Verragio engagement rings. The woman said you need an apppointment to look at engagement rings on Saturday but she’ll see if she can get someone. The first question the salesman asks her is what is her boyfriend’s budget and my friend said she didn’t know. I could tell the salesman was not happy. He knew she wasn’t serious about purchasing.
Not long after this my friend gets engaged knowing this guy for 6 months and was planning on getting married in 2 months. My friend never asked about my wedding, but would talk nonstop about everything she was doing for hers. They called off the wedding last month.