Post # 1
Of course I am foreigner and I usually don’t feel racism. People usually say I have a beautiful accent (not sure how to take that) and compliment be for my name.
However every. single. time. I go to Macy’s there is this lady that is rude to me. Not once, not twice. Like every.single.time.
She is at the register. There are people in front of me. She is always nice to them. Make small talk ask if they find everything ok. With me nothing other than “make a face”. She doesn’t say a word to me. I don’t know what is wrong with her. I don’t know if she just doesn’t like me or what.
I mentioned that to my Fi and he said maybe she was just having a hard time that day. So I gave her the benefit of the doubt and went to her register sevral times after that just to see if her behaviour would change. No, always making a face to me. I have now avoided her. If she is at the register I go to another one.
But it just annoys me. I have not done anything to her…
Post # 3
She’s probably just bitchy, I wouldn’t take it personally. I’m white, so obviously I have a different perspective, but where I live, there just isn’t a lot of racism, so that wouldn’t be the first thing that comes to mind.
As an aside, and I’ll start another thread about this, but when people compliment your accent, I think you should take it as such. I study languages, so I *love* listening to different ways that people speak English. Your “accent,” could be influenced by having another language as your first, or simply living in a region that is not your own. For example, I live in central Texas, but I can hear the difference in a speaker from my part of the state versus the more eastern part of the state.
Post # 4
OP, I think you are right. Sounds like there is a bit of subconcious racism happening there. Unfortunately, as beautiful as certain accents are, if everytime you talk to people it’s the first thing they notice about you, you are slapped in the face with automatic “othering”.
I have the opposite problem. I do not have an accent but I always get people saying “Konichiwa” or “Ley ho ma” to me … one time I’ve been told that I “speak English very well”…
Post # 5
i have worked retail, sometimes those on the bottom who think they are the sh*t blame others who do not look like them. I don’t think she is racist I think she is jealous of your gorgeous Beauty 😉
Post # 6
@mrsbruff2b: I have the same problem! I moved to Japan after growing up in the States, and ever since, whenever I go back home to visit, at least one person will tell me, ‘you speak English so well!” I find this hilarious because English is the only language that I can speak!
@foreignbride: It could be racism, but it could be something else too! There’s so many factors at play that it’s sometimes easy to jump to racism when it could be something else. Maybe she’s biased against pretty women, maybe she’s not sure if you speak English, or maybe she’s just reacting to how you’re acting towards her? Or.. maybe she’s just wondering why you go to Macy’s so often? Haha jk. Anyways – don’t take it personally. No reason to let one bad mood ruin your fun shopping trip!