Post # 1
London-based waiting bee here, and while my engagement ring diamond will not be THE most massive at 1 carat (still fairly sizeable, though!), I love looking for things to worry about…! I would want to wear my ring everyday. I don’t particularly frequent “unsafe areas” or go out at night when the streets are quieter, but I still worry about safety, considering that people get mugged in all sorts of places at all sorts of times of day.
How do other bees feel about wearing your rings out and about everyday, and if you also worry, what helps your peace of mind? Needless to say, we will get insurance on the ring, and I am also planning on using the “turning the ring around” method if I feel unsafe, but has anyone got any more tips/advice?
Post # 2
I live in London – I wear my rings all the time. I think in total it’s about 1ct.
Tbh, I’ve never felt any issues with wearing my rings out about time. Or at any time of day.
My ring is insured and tbh if someone did try to mug me the best thing to do is just to give them what they want. I’ve lived here for over 10 years now and not even felt slightly like that might happen though.
Post # 3
I feel safe wearing mine everyday (even if frequenting unsafe areas of cities), but that’s often because I always have cash, a tablet, credit cards, phone and sometimes also a laptop on me which would be a lot more appealing than trying to get my ring off.
Apart from insurance, all I can recommend is as it’s winter, wearing gloves (especially on chilly nights) may at least deter attention. Turning the ring around could work but don’t get too paranoid, there’s always a lot of theft etc. but they are often so random and often not targeted for their bling (I think people that steal assume somebody will have something of value on them).
Post # 4
@Twizbe This is reassuring to hear, thank you! I’ve not been here as long as 10 years, but I have not felt particularly unsafe either, even if I don’t wear/carry expensive things in general. I definitely need to stop frightening myself unnecessarily by googling “London jewellery mugging”, haha… And you are right in saying that in the event that it does happen the best thing to do would be to hand it over immediately and not risk getting injured!
@querty You’ve raised good points, thanks! I do tend to feel more vigilant when I have my laptop out in a cafe, but I also easily forget that many people (including myself) have their phones out on their laps, tables, etc on the regular, and that’s definitely an easier grab than a ring off a finger.
Post # 5
I just turn my ring around 😉
Post # 6
- Wedding: June 2017 - A vineyard
I wear mine all the time. I really pretty much avoid anywhere I think might be an issue as I have no business in places like that.
But the reality is you can be mugged anywhere, even in nice areas, and your home can be broken into. So insurance is really important. It will never replace the sentimentality of the original. especially in my case as my centre is my grandmothers. But it can help you get a replacement with less struggle. So I wear my rings no problem. I have anxiety so I try super hard not to add worries like that to my already long list. Plus my husband worked really hard to get me a setting he thought was worthy of me. He would be super sad if all I did was leave my jewellery at home 🙂
Now if I had a 5 carat diamond maybe that might be different. But I have a less than half carat and a halo so no big lol.
Post # 7
I’m in the US and I feel completely safe wearing my ring. When I travel, I prefer to leave them at home since I do not know the new areas as well as my home area and it’s one less thing I have to worry about when traveling. I’m not worried about it getting stolen at home as it doesn’t look blingy.
Post # 8
If I ever feel unsafe or paranoid (like if I’m walking alone late at night), I just spin my ring to hide the stone. It’s a small thing but makes me feel a bit better!
Post # 9
I am London-based too and my ring is a 2.24ct equivalent moissanite. I sometimes turn my ring around when I’m on the Tube just for my own peace of mind. I don’t think anyone would steal it, but I do worry that if someone thought it was a diamond they may also think there could be something worth stealing in my handbag. They would be very wrong obviously, unless they particularly want loose change, a phone with a smashed screen and some tampons. I am still trying to decide if I want to get a costume ring to wear when I go on holiday. Leaning towards no though. Probably would if my ring was as expensive as a diamond.
Post # 10
- Wedding: June 2018 - England
initially I properly babied my ring. I was like I love it, I need to protect it. But now I’m like eh. I still love it but I want to enjoy it! So I almost never take my engagement ring and wedding ring off. They are made to be worn then as long as they are insured you will be fine, I don’t think you will be mugged!
Post # 11
- Wedding: February 2020 - Breckenridge, CO
Your ring sounds gorgeous and I think you should show it off! 😉 If you ever do feel nervous about wearing it in a certain area you can spin it around or slip it in your pocket until you’re in a place you feel safe.
Until then, flaunt it everywhere you go!
Post # 12
US bee here, I don’t always wear mine. I wear them to most places, but for example I didn’t wear it on a recent trip to Paris. I also sometimes don’t wear it when I go out alone to the mall/with girlfriends. But sometimes I do.
Post # 13
- Wedding: April 2016 - Manhattan, NY
I’ve never felt paranoid about being mugged in my city, but I also drive mostly everywhere, tend to walk with my scary looking dog when I am alone, and I’m trained in martial arts. I also take my rings on vacation (husband proposed on vacation) and to big cities and haven’t experienced anything that would stop me from wearing my jewelry. The point of having it is to wear it and I fortunately do not have to venture to places where I feel unsafe enough to question whether or not I should wear it.
Post # 14
I’m a London Bee also, I’m wearing a quite qlitzy Art Deco ring at the moment and 99% of the time I feel absolutely fine wearing rings around and about, every now and again coming home from somewhere in the dark I spin my rings around so the diamond is facing my palm and so from the outside all you see is the plain metal band if I feel concerned, maybe try that in the future xx
Post # 15
I also struggle with anxiety, and I guess you’re right in that the thing really is to make peace with the fact that anything can happen anywhere, and to have insurance so at least a replacement can be arranged for. I do want to wear my ring as well, it would be such a shame to have it gathering dust in a box or drawer!