Post # 46
I’m proud to wear my e-ring as it represents our love for each other. Unless you’re a weddingbee, I think most people have no clue about e-ring specs. I was entertained, though, when co-workers noticed the new ring and then realized I was newly engaged. It’s even more entertaining when the wives of my patients see the ring and congratulate me!
Post # 47
My ring gets quite a bit of attention from my coworkers; a few of them have asked to try it on lol and I always oblige. It surprised me at first but now I just roll with it. I am very good at what I do and as far as I am concerned that’s all that counts.
Post # 49
yumcheez: yes I do feel the same way as you too.. It’s either we think too much, or that people really can be shallow and judgmental.
For me, as I am still in a junior position and know thay many of my seniors in the firm still do not have boyfriends and definitely not engaged yet.. i am also afraid of them being jealous of me? I am trying not to stand out too much as well..
Post # 50
Mysecretdiary: I work with a lot of veterans, so for me I sometimes feel self concious in the fact that they are judging me for having nice things, and not understanding their struggles. My ring is pretty large, and it took me a while to be comfortable wearing it around the population I work with.
On the other hand, I worked part time at a very, very, very high end spa/hotel on the weekends part time in grad school. Women there had MONEY, like multi millions to billions of dollars worth. 5+ carat rings were the norm. When I worked there, I felt self concious that my ring was too small.
It’s all about perspective 🙂 Be happy with your ring and wear it proud. Don’t be ashamed for thinking its too big, or too small.
Post # 51
I am a bit self-conscious about it cause I look young for my age and I am still studying so it does feel like I am standing out and I’m not used to that… I have to take it off though for labs and then I guess I feel less pressure aha. Although at work it helps a bit cause ppl think I look young for my work and when they see the ring I’m sure that reassures them about my age xD
Post # 52
- Wedding: June 2009 - Mountain Meadow/Mansion
I actually voted yes, because I work in a low income school and my center stone is visibly large. Sometimes when I know a family is struggling to make ends meet, I feel like a jerk having bigger bling. That said, I love my ring and what it symbolizes, and it would either be in the safe deposit box or on my finger, and why leave something gorgeous at the bank? I think it’s normal and healthy to have empathy/think about what others think.
However, from what you’ve described, it sounds like you may be a pretty private person and it feels vulnerable to share your personal life at work. My guess is that your coworkers are not going to pay a whole lot of attention to what your actual ring looks like and will simply be happy for you that you got engaged (unless they lack manners, and there can be a few in every workplace who make unnecessary comments)! Enjoy this exciting time in your life!
Post # 53
I work from home, so nope!
Post # 54
Mysecretdiary: I never felt self-conscious about my engagement ring until I started receiving comments about it’s size. My fiancé is a bartender and makes very good money as such, and I am a pet nutritionist and manage a natural pet supply business. Together we make good money and live comfortably in NY, but apparently people assumed that because we weren’t lawyers or hedge funders that we can’t afford nice things. Long story short, I was finding myself hiding my hand whenever I caught people staring (it happens A LOT at work, mostly by my clients) and would “accidentally” forget to put it on after I showered or turn it around. Then one day I was like, “F*$! These jerks. This is my beautiful ring, symbolic of my amazing relationship with a man who loves me and brings more joy into my life than these miserable assholes.” People read way too much into erings and the cars people drive and the homes they live in and at the end of the day you just gotta own your shit and forget what anyone else thinks or says. Rock that ring because it’s from a man who loves you!!
Post # 55
I’m low key and extremely introverted. I got engaged the week before I started pastoring a new church and the co-pastor I worked with announced my engagement the first day there. The next several weeks I had people coming up and grabbing my hand and making comments: good and bad. I got sick of it and stopped wearing it to worship services. After the novelty of my engagement wore off, I started wearing it again.
Post # 56
I was soooo excited I showed mine to every single person!!!! One by one and made them look at every detail. That was just the first day though (my first full day of being engaged). I wear it every day now with no worries as to hat people will think.
Post # 57
- Wedding: May 2015 - The Fairmont, SF
I’m fairly new to my office and ridiculously shy/awkward around people when it comes to being fussed over for what I’m wearing or own. My Fiance bought be a beautiful, fairly large solitaire and while I love it to bits and pieces, at first I was a bit embarrassed for people to fawn over my hand. When it eventually came up (a day after we got engaged – not a secret for very long), everyone flocked to grab at my ring finger and made comments like: “Bloody hell, it’s massive!” and “I don’t know how I missed it yesterday, it’s sooo big!” A lot of girls asked what my Fiance does as a result of seeing it, which I personally felt a bit like they were asking, “How much does he make?”
Things like that made me feel uneasy but even so, I knew it was coming from a place of excitement. Everyone said how beautiful it was and one girl even came over two more times to look at it. Now that it’s been a few weeks since the proposal, no one mentions it and I feel totally at ease waving my hands around like a spaz again. I can’t imagine ever taking my ring off but I still don’t like getting excessive attention because of it.
Post # 58
I work in a school in a very low income area and sometimes I feel self conscious when I’m speaking to a parent or family member of a student. I worry that they will think I’m snobby or priviledged or something. It’s hard to get the families to trust you sometimes.
Post # 59
Absolutely not!! We had to spend a few months making payments on my ring. During those months I lost my job and decided to go to college and I told him almost every day that I want my ring before I start college. Poor guy, haha it really was like every single day for about 5 months.
There’s no reason to be self conscious. Wear it proudly!!
Post # 60
I actually do sometimes get self conscious wearing my ring. But not to work, just around other friends that are engaged and married as most have bigger rings. My husband makes pretty decent money and I guess knowing that others in our circle, some of whom got married young after only a few years of full time work, got something grander makes me a bit self conscious sometimes. I know i’m being stupid, and that they won’t be thinking it, so it’s just an issue in myself.