Post # 76
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Sugar bee
People at my work other than my work friends haven’t really said anything to me, although I’ve seen them glance at my hand. I got engaged recently, though, so it’s probably more out of curiosity than “look at that rock.” I’m a little bit self-conscious about it because I’m in a fairly junior position and I have a ring that’s big enough to be noticeable on my hand (although not big by the standards of NYC, where I live). However, I’m not so self-conscious about it that I’d leave it at home.
Post # 77
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Helper bee
- Wedding: October 2014 - Ranch
I voted no, but thinking back (almost three years ago) I was a little. Mine was the biggest from the women around me and I had barely started there. I always talk with my hands so I was very self conscience about that. I didn’t want them to think I was trying to put my ring in their faces. I didn’t announce my engagement, but all the girls kept staring at my hand.
At our next work meeting, my boss asked if anyone wanted to share anything from our holiday vacation. Everyone kept looking at me and it was very uncomfortable. Finally a co-worker said, “Oh come on, Calirorter, we all see that huge rock.” It’s not even huge, but I guess compared to theirs. I had no choice but to say I was engaged. I must say, they did treat me a bit differently after that. My boss and his wife especially treated me differently and I kept getting the comments of, “So when you get married do you still plan on working? You know that if you stay with us, you can really grow in the company etc.” they were a lot nicer and attentive, but I believe it was for fear of me leaving, not the size of my ring
Post # 78
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Helper bee
We just did a major upgrade. At my old job, in my old city, I wouldn’t have thought twice about it as nearly every woman had some major bling but we live in a very rural, country area now and I got a part time job in retail just to keep me busy. I guess there’s nothing to feel weird about and I’m sure everyone will just assume it’s a CZ but I have thought ‘Maybe I won’t wear it into work….’
Post # 79
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Busy bee
- Wedding: August 2015 - Carmen\'s Lakeview
Mysecretdiary: I was scared to wear mine at first because I was scared people would judge me because I’m so young (20)
Now I don’t care and wear it with pride because who cares I’m happy! 🙂
Post # 80
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Newbee
If money (big diamonds) bought stable relationships, we’d see a lot more Hollywood marriages that last…
Your fiance would probably be deeply hurt if he knew you had any insecurities about that ring. Pride is such a big thing to a man – he wants to provide for you. Does it bring you happiness? Would a bigger, less sentimental ring bring you more happiness? Probably not.
Give it a few months. It’s a new and foreign thing – it seems like the first thing anyone notices about you, but probably it’s far less important to them than it is to you.
Congrats! Send me a note if I can help with your wedding planning financing – sort of a hobby of mine. 🙂
Post # 81
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Busy bee
i wore it. i had just started at the company back in august and he proposed christmas eve. but in that short amount of time the people i worked with became family. i walked in all excited showed the other receptionist and she was so excited. then when i went to show my friend christine she flew out of the chair to give me the biggest hug ever. everyone was excited no joke.
just wear the ring and be proud and do your work. dont let anyone distract you from your work and be done with it.
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