Post # 1
My wedding is an adults only wedding in Denver. My fiances family always have adults only weddings, they are all from San Francisco and Los Angels. My moms side of the family are East Coasters from Boston and New York City, they also always have adults only weddings. My dads family on the other hand are from small towns in the midwest and always have very large weddings that include children of all ages. When my invites went out, many members of my dads family were offened when they found out that my wedding did not include children. We got several messages and phone calls asking us why thier childrens names were not included. Luckily, once they relized we are paying for onsite childcare(which was on our website but they must not have checked) most of them accepted our choice. I think I was as shocked to hear none of them had never been to a child free wedding as they were to hear their children were not invited. This made me wonder if there are cultural differences in urban vs. rual weddings. From your wedding experiences do you find that adults only weddings are less accepted in small towns or certain regions?
Post # 2
yes, I do see that. There can be a lot of difference how things are done, different cultures different ideas.
Post # 3
I’ve never been to an adult wedding but I live in a larger city so maybe that’s why?
Post # 4
I live in a rural town in the Midwest, and yes – child free weddings are viewed as “mean” or “rude.” We had an adults-only post elopement celebration and we received some flack from relatives about it, and my SIL threw a fit about us not inviting her 5 year old. Our reception was on a boat, in the evening, with an open bar. It didn’t feel appropriate for kids so the only person under 18 that was allowed was DH’s 14 year old half sister. Guests were understanding for the most part given the venue we hose, but had it been anywhere else it would have been frowned upon.
All other weddings here are child friendly. My Brother-In-Law literally had someone dress up and make balloon animals for kids at his wedding. Many wedding DJs even play kids music like Disney songs. I’m not a huge fan of it personally, but it is what it is. We have a 1 year old of our own now and she’s always invited to weddings. I don’t think I’ve seen anyone aside from us have a child-free wedding in our family/social circle.
Post # 5
I’m from a big city and actually don’t think I’ve ever attended a totally child free wedding. They seem to be uncommon in my circles. Often just nieces and nephews are included, but my kids have been invited to a number of our cousins’ affairs.
Post # 6
Adult only weddings are the norm where I live (regional city of about 100, 000 people)