(Closed) Does your SO not tell you things?

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
14494 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

OMG, we just had this tonight.  I am getting ready for work and there is a kid on my doorstep, I open the door and see what’s up.  He says he is spending the night with the FH’s son.  Whatever!  I get a text while I am at work saying that he now has two kids over and he hopes thats ok.  Really!?  All I want to do when I come home from work is relax for a bit and now I come home to hyped up 13 year olds and FH has gone to bed.  It might be nice to be asked before the fact and not after.  This happens almost every weekend.  We will be speaking about this in the morning.

Oh, and he buys electronics he knows nothing about.  He bought a pirated netbook for his son from some fly by night outfit without talking to me first..there goes $250 out the door, yeah, it doesn’t work now.  He is a self-admitted technology iliterate, but he goes out and buys expensive electronics without consulting me.

Sorry about the rant.

Post # 5
487 posts
Helper bee

My fiance is infamous for not telling details of get togethers.  Like his family will ask “Are you guys coming to dinner tomorrow”? I asked Fiance a week ago, didn’t he tell you?” Ummm….what dinner?  We fixed that really quick by them just calling me directly ha. He’s cute.

Post # 6
11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Guys are really not big on details. He’ll tell me “oh by the way some people from work are coming over this weekend.” Okay, how many? “like 5. or 15. I don’t know.” Um… am I cooking for them? “Um… I don’t know. probably not.” Then I talk to his boss’s wife and find out that this is supposedly a housewarming party for us? LOL um what?

Post # 7
371 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

My SO does this sometimes, but he swears that he has told me. Usually, he’s telling someone else in my presence and I go “Oh, really. I didn’t know…” and he goes, “yes I told you a couple of days ago.” Of course he didn’t, but he assumed that he must have told me. I usually joke and say, “You must have mentioned that to your other girlfriend.” 

Post # 8
2496 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

Hahaha… my Fiance is a chronic, “oh yeah… sorry I forgot to tell you” guy.  I think it’s funny now, but it used to bug me.  He has ADHD, so I just blame it on that and his guyness. 🙂

Post # 9
18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

My husband does it too sometimes.  Back before we were married, he got a ticket and I didn’t find out except when his parents mentioned it.  It sometimes happens now since we are so busy and don’t have a ton of time to see each other.

Post # 10
379 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Yep and it is super annoying. He will make dinner plans with friends for BOTH of us and not tell me until 20 minutes before we are suppose to be at dinner.

Post # 12
33 posts
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’d like to think that the Fiance and I tell each other everything. Which for the most part we really do. But on friday after we got done at the church (going over ceremony details with our pastor) we went to his parents house, (who practically live right across the street from the church). He’s parents always throw his mail in a pile on the count and we just grab it when we are there. So I grabbed the mail and was looking through it and saw something from the county courthouse. He grabbed it and opened and and walked off. I was all like ohhhhh what is it what is it. Turns out it was a notice for a ticket to appear in court. I’m like UHH WHAT you didn’t tell me you got a ticket. and His reply was I didn’t So I grabbed the paper and read it. Turns out he ran a red light!! and of course he got busted. He said the only reason he didn’t tell me about it was because I am a really bad driving and he is always “such a great driver” and he didn’t want to ruin the image I have of him, or some junk. I’m like YOU RAN A RED LIGHT!!! He said it was flashing and he did a california roll or some junk.. I couldn’t believe he didn’t tell me, mind you this was like a almost TWO months ago. So yeah, I gave him crap but I still think we tell each other a lot. IDK, i think guys are just like that.

Post # 13
6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

My hubby tells me everything. Which I like, b/c my ex didn’t. And I was right when I always told him “If you’re not telling me the little things, how do I know that you’re not telling me the big things.” I eventually found out he didn’t tell me that he quit school, and that was the end of us.

Post # 14
3219 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I think some guys are just like that. I tell him everything because in my family we talk A LOT! I always overshare everything with everyone, he is just not like that he doesnt get why the need to tell people (even me) everything that happens.

Post # 15
1553 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

My husband TRIES to tell me everything.  He’s just not always that good at it. 

It’s not like he has anything to hide.  I have the password to his email accounts, his facebook, etc.  He just forgets things.  If something happens to him during the day at work, it’s fairly likely that by the time he gets home, he will have forgotten about it.   Usually, something else reminds him and then I get, “Oh yeah, X happened today.  I meant to tell you, but forgot all about it.”  Then I get that sheepish smile that he knows I can’t resist.

But deliberately not sharing something with me?  No, that doesn’t ever happen.  That would be a problem.

Post # 16
322 posts
Helper bee

Oh yes, I totally have this problem. I always wonder if it is a guy thing or just a MY guy thing…I know women tend to talk and share a lot more than men but I feel like I don’t know anything about his life sometimes unless I directly ask. I wish he would just tell me things. And then I get the “you don’t understand what I’m going through” thing (he’s in business school right now) and I’m like, welllll if you communicated with me and told me what you were doing and what was going on in your life then maybe I would understand! Men.

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