(Closed) Do you get butterflies with FI???

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Do you get butterflies seeing your FI/husband after work?



  • Post # 47
    2513 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    Old thread, but it’s already been necro’d, so I will add my two cents. Yes, I do still get butterflies. I still get that slight, jumpy nervousness ( how I define butterflies ) when I, for example, am waiting for him to come home from work. We’ve been together 7 years.

    Post # 48
    280 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    This is in relation to my DH.

    We have been together for almost 7 years (only married for 4 months), and I still get butterflies every now and again. If we have a special date night, haven’t seen each other in awhile, or he suprises me with something sweet I will.


    Post # 49
    3400 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    Not normally lol. I’m also married, but I rarely get butterfly with him anymore just because we are around each other all the time. I still do get butterflies if we gets a haircut or does something extra special, but otherwise, no.

    That doesn’t mean I’m not in love with him, it just means the newness has worn off.

    Post # 50
    98 posts
    Worker bee

    Every time! We’ve been together nearly a year, and live together. I get excited to see him every time. But I am known to be an overly emotional romantic person lol

    Post # 51
    4027 posts
    Honey bee

    I do get excited to see my DH after a long day. We have been together for 10 years and I still look forward to,seeing him. I wouldn’t say it’s butterflies, but it is definitely excitement. 🙂

    Post # 52
    1722 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 1998

    I remember my very first boyfriend walking toward me in a crowded mall. We were meeting up and I was frantically calling a friend, worried I’d been stood up. The rush of butterflies when I saw his head above the crowd was unrivaled. They were the same butterflies I felt when we first held hands (woah!) and kissed (double woah!!!). 

    A year later, I was breaking up with him. I was tired of the disrespect, the blase attitude toward what was important to me, the lack of ambition, the disrespect for other people (my family and friends included), and how he used me for rides to school and never bothered to do anything nice for me. To put this succinctly, he was a horrible person.

    I met my husband sometime later. I felt *nothing* when it came to butterflies. Occasionally, I feel excitement and anticipation about seeing him, but always? Hardly at all, and I hardly ever did.

    It says nothing about my love for him.

    Post # 53
    429 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Not my Fiance yet, still BF, but we have been dating for 8 years, so I think I can put in some pretty valid input here.  

    I LOVE my man, I am totally head over heels for him! I can honestly say that even if we get into a fight, I am annoyed or angry at him, or we are into our normal swing of life and havent been physical in a while, I still LOVE him! But am I always infatuated with him? Do I always get butterfly’s when I am driving home from work? Do I get butterfly’s when he touches me? No, not always. As time goes on love grows, but infatuation seems to fade.

    Now I did vote yes, because I do still sometimes get butterfly’s when I think about him.  When he leaves a note for me, or surprises me with fresh cut flowers from our garden, yes I do still get butterflys! But this is not a daily occurance. 

    Post # 54
    4687 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

    Sigh. This is that problem with that stupid show. I stopped getting butterflies at about one year. I’m excited to see him, sure, but in real life I feel like butterflies go away.

    Post # 55
    11736 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @hollyberry4:  I don’t every day but there are def moments where I just look at him and feel so much love/happiness/excitement. There are definitely days I really look forward to getting home to him but most days it’s just the status quo. I don’t think it’s anything to be concerned about at all. 

    Post # 56
    1284 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    The only time I get butterflies in anticipation is when we haven’t seen each other in a while!  But when we touch (more than just casual touching) I still get butterflies, and I still get goosebumps CONSTANTLY when he touches me!

    We have been together for 7-8 years (wow!) but we do not live together so that could have something to do with it!

    Post # 57
    1228 posts
    Bumble bee

    My Fi and I are still long distance (kill me). But whenver we’re together, I still get butterflies. Even when we’re together for awhile in the same location, still get them. I wouldn’t be able to be with someone if I didn’t feel the butterflies all the time. I’ve done that before for a few years.. Did not work out so great. 

    Post # 58
    165 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    DH and I have been together nearly 6 years and spend a lot of time together. I can honestly say that I don’t get butterflies, but I’m perfectly okay with that because the feeling of completeness is enough for me. I’ve found my other half that makes me so incredibly happy and secure. We light eachother’s fire in so many ways, we are eachother’s cheerleaders in everything. I get excited thinking about our future, but I don’t necessarily get butterflies when I haven’t seen him for a few hours or even a few days. I’m not an overly emotional person (a bit too logical sometimes) to begin with so that could explain it, but then again I’ve never felt butterflies with anyone either.  

    Post # 59
    551 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @hollyberry4:  I agree with PPs that I don’t get butterflies when I see DH after work, but I DEFINITELY got them on our wedding day and whenever he does something really sweet! We have been together for more than 7 years and have lived together for 3 years.

    Post # 60
    815 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

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    @hollyberry4:  Not at all!!  It kind of makes me laugh to think of it!!  I know that sounds terrible, but I actually think it’s a good thing, I’ll explain…  When we first met, I totally had them all the time & I’m pretty sure that feeling lasted longer with him than anyone else I had dated.  I went through a period of missing that “new love” sort of feeling and thought something was wrong.  But with all that we have been through in over 10 years together, I am so incredibly comfortable with him and happy and in love.  I can’t imagine being this comfortable with anyone else, even my family at this point.  I am really happy when he’s with me and I miss him when he’s not home, but I don’t feel “butterflies”.  My feeling is more like “this is the way it’s supposed to be”.  And that makes me happy 😉

    I think you hit something in one of the last htings you said.  You felt them a lot with an ex, but he wasn’t a great guy.  I felt them all the time with an ex too, but he was such a jerk that I would actually get nervous about seeing him and wondering if he was still going to be into me & I think that’s where the butterflies came in with that guy.  I’m more than happy that’s over!!!  So I say as long as your happy, and love your SO, and know he’s the greatest guy for you, you’re in a good place 😉

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