Post # 1
When I first got engaged I didn’t want an e-ring or wedding band, but six months in I was eventually worn down into getting one (which I now love).
I get hit on often, and before I got the ring I would have to explain to pushy strangers that I really WAS engaged and that I just didn’t think that rings were big a deal.
As in, “no I’m not just lying because I don’t want to give you my number,” although I wouldn’t give them my number if I was single… Lol
I thought things would be different once I started wearing a ring, WRONG. I find that nobody even checks, even if I start waving my hand around while I talk as a polite hint, they just keep on going….
Are you Bees experiencing the same thing or does it change when you start wearing your band?
Post # 3
Guys hit on me just the same. However, once i wave my left hand around most guys get the hint, freak out and run away.
Post # 4
If I sense the convo is going in a flirty direction, I usually wave my hand around so the guy can see my ring. Guys seem to notice the ring pretty quickly and back off.
Post # 5
Nope not in NYC….they don’t seem to care
Post # 6
No real diff, seems to me that single guys don’t seem to really recognize that an engagement ring is not just some random ring.
Post # 7
Guys are usually oblivious; they don’t check hands before starting their “moves.” But all I have to do is nonchalantly brush my hair out of my eyes with my left hand, and it works – sometimes they even stop in mid-sentence!
Post # 8
@everyheart: That’s awesome!
Post # 9
@joya_aspera: THIS! I’m finding that guys and girls think it’s just some “random ring,” even though it’s the most traditional “I’m getting hitched” ring ever! Lol I have a solitaire on a plain band.
Oh how I wish they took the hint and left me alone! Lol Sometimes I get, “Well you’re not married yet…” Eww!
Post # 10
I seriously feel like I’ve been hit on more since I’ve had my ring. My mom said the same happened to her when she got engaged too. I think some guys see it as some sort of a challenge.
Post # 11
Yep, i found guys just dont notice at all, or maybe see the ring, but just dont realise.
Post # 12
I think I get hit on MORE now that I’m engaged/in a relationship. I swear, when I was single I couldn’t get a guy to look at me twice. Maybe it’s a confidence thing – as in, now I’m not interested in picking up when I go out, so I project a different sort of vibe.
Post # 13
These days guys just don’t really seem to care LOL…..I get hit on the same amount with or without my ring. When I had my ring I literally had a guy hit on me and I said I’m engaged and he was like yeah right! and I was like yeah I am….and he goes you could just be wearing that ring to throw me off LOL….funny because I did have a friend that did that
Post # 14
They don’t care at all…It’s stupid. GUYS are guys.
Post # 15
I work in a male-dominated field, and I find that guys seem more comfortable with me now that I’m decidedly “taken.” I feel like especially other married guys are totally comfortable talking with me because we both know the other isn’t trying to hit on us. It’s definitely made networking a lot easier for me.
Post # 16
@sunsetchristy: That’s a good way to look at it. I do have an easier time talking to guys at work when the situation is that we’re both “taken.” It leaves no room for confusion so everybody can relax.