(Closed) Do you get invited to/attend kids birthday parties if you don't have kids?

posted 3 years ago in No Kids
Post # 2
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I don’t even attend children’s birthday parties with my children. My personal philosophy is that if the children are young enough to need parental supervision at a birthday party, then the child is young enough to be happy with a family only party.

Once the children are old enough, I drop them off and pick them up. Having a bunch of parents sit around is simply unnecessary in my world.

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

valencia247 :  I don’t, but that is becasue I am older and most of my friends have kids at this point.  I think I may have invited my close friends, at least to the 1st birthday, but honestly that party was more for adults than kids since most of the kids were 2 and younger.  I also have a lot of booze and food at the party.  I wouldn’t be offended though if they declined; people have stuff going on.  This year, my son is turning 3, and we are having a more kid friendly party, so I would probably not invite them to that. 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

I don’t have any children.  All my friends were a little different, some I haven’t been invited to any parties, while others invited my Fiance and me to the first birthday party.  After the first birthday things kind of dropped off and became more family or child’s friends centered.  I would probably do what you mentioned, decline and send a gift.  I imagine you see their children at other times, so I don’t think they would get the impression of you not liking their kids. 

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2014

We are invited but generally don’t attend (unless it’s something more significant like a Christening/First Holy Communion/first birthday (which is more for the parents anyway)). We’re only invited as a courtesy as our friends know that we are a) CFBC and b) don’t really enjoy the company of children so they have no issue with us declining. 

We only do gifts when the baby is born, for their first birthday and first Christmas, and for their Christening/Communion. We would spend a fortune otherwise. We do send a card, though. 

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

No, thank god.

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

 Nope! Thank-god! I think it’s weird to invite adults to a child’s birthday. I thought kids just had small, family only parties until they were old enough to have friends that they wanted to invite and then just the kids were invited, not the parents.

Post # 9
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Honey bee

valencia247 :  I always attend my friends and family’s kid birthday parties. Adults are always invited in my circle whether they have kids or not. It does not bother me one bit. Didn’t even know it’s an issue to some until this thread. I am usually the official party photographer. 

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2014

We’ve only been invited to one kid’s birthday party. It was one of DH’s friends and it was for his kid that usually lives with his mother in another state. The party was mostly adults, but that was more because the kid didn’t have any friends in the area. It was basically family and friends of the father hanging out eating and drinking while the kids swam in the pool, not too bad.

I do think it would be very weird to be invited to a party where the parents are dropping their kids off though, I’d probably decline on that or just stop by for a few mins and drop off a gift. 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Nope. Unless maybe a neice or nephew, but generally I think if you don’t have kids you don’t need to attend.  My kids are young (1 and 3) so I don’t send them to parties alone. And most of our friends have young kids, so they always attend our parties with their kids – so I don’t think adults attending a kid party is weird.  We don’t invite friends without kids, the only childless adults there are family. 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

My friends are just starting to have kids so we were invited to our first birthday party last summer.  It was for one of my best friend’s son, who just turned 1, so it was a family party more than a kids’ party.

If he was older, say kindergarten, and it was a party with his friends, I probably would not have attended.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

We only get invited to SIL’s kids and my BFFs.  For nieces and nephew, we go every year.  For BFF we went to both kids first birthdays because first birthdays are less about a kids party and more for the adults anyway.  

We will invite DH’s best friend and his wife who doesn’t have kids to our kids first birthday with our children (they will also be named guardians in the will). 

For family, I don’t find it odd to be invited and go, and for a few close friends we make judgments by age.  After DHs nieces and nephews 2-4th birthday parties, I told him we aren’t having Birthday parties at those ages.  Every year, we watched kids get too much crap, over stimulated, over sugared, over crowded by other kids, and then over tired.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

Darling Husband and I also do not have children yet but have a handful of friends who do. Their children are still quite young – the eldest is 5 – so we really only get invited to the first birthday party (most of our friends seem to only do something big for the first birthday or they do family only for birthdays after the first one). I guess the other difference is that we’re not the only childless couple who attend and the parents have also made sure to cater for the adults – it’s not a kids party with parents hanging around, it’s an all ages party.

I think if we were invited every year or we were the only childless couple on the list, we probably wouldn’t go all the time. We’d probably make the effort for the kids of our closer friends (ie DH’s best friend has 2 little girls) but not so much for less close friends/acquaintances. As long as you don’t decline all the time, I don’t think the parents would be offended.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

valencia247 :  My close friends always invite my husband and I to their kid’s birthdays, and we always go. Their kids’ birthdays are a big part of their lives, and I’m there for my friends. I do whatever i can do to help my friends. Sometimes that includes chasing rugrats around for a day so be it. I also like their kids and like that they have some constant adult role models in their lives outside of their family. My friends are always so grateful to have us there to not only help, but provide a few minutes of grown up conversation in the midst of elmo…. That said, I think it would be weird for a coworker to invite me to their kid’s birthday party. At work, my relationships are strictly professional, so an invitation to their 4 year old’s birthday party would be awkward. I wouldn’t even know why they would want me there… and I like my coworkers, but only at work.

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