Post # 46
I don’t have chilren of my own, and I don’t get invited (thank goodness). If I did get invited, I can’t see myself attending, and I would decline the invite. It is strange you get invited so often. Maybe your friends assume you’ll have kids one day, and would feel awkward waiting to invite you only after you’ve become parents. They may feel as confused as you do about the situation, and they invite you so as not to offend you.
Post # 47
I don’t have kids, but my closest friends do and they invite me to the parties. It’s typically a rented space, open bar With a catered meal. Parents and adults have our and mingle while the kids play.
I don’t always go, but I almost always get invited.
Post # 48
My daughter is two, and so far, I have only ever invited adults to her birthday parties. None of them had kids. I didn’t actually know anyone else with kids until my one friend had a baby this year. We will be inviting the baby to her 3rd birthday party, but he might be out of town. Honestly though, I am sure my daughter would rather spend time with adults than a baby. We go to gymnastics and soccer classes with my daughter, but the 5 or 6 week sessions are not long enough for her to develop friendships at 2 years old. Maybe she will make some friends when she starts preschool this year. But until then, I will continue to invite adults without children to her birthdays. They don’t have to come.
When she is old enough to want to have a party with friends, I will probably do a dinner for family members and a different party for her friends. I may ask my mom or one of my best friends to help me host the friend party, depending on where/what it is. But while she doesn’t care, I will keep inviting MY friends, because I like their company.
Post # 49
I was invited to a kids’ party only once for a good friend’s daughter’s first birthday. This was a very culturally significant event for them and they rented a restaurant, hired entertainment, etc., so it wasn’t one of those birthdays where parents dropped their kids off. I think they probably felt obligated to invite me because I’m a good friend and the occassion is a major one in their culture. I usually love any kind of party, but I have to admit, I really did not enjoy this one. I knew no one except the parents (who were far too busy to talk much) and the grandparents, who I didn’t want to monopolize. There wasn’t even an opportunity to be introduced or talk to anyone else since everyone was running around supervising their own kids. I basically got a plate of food and stood there by myself.
Post # 50
My husband told me one of his coworkers invited us to his 8 month old daughter’s party. I don’t know why, but my husband wanted to go…I was like um, no sorry please no more kid parties. It’s the most boring and uncomfortable thing for me, and not how I want to spend a day off.
His sister also invited us to her kids’ early birthday party (ages 7 and 4???). I can’t imagine having to go those every year. I’ll go to a party for adults only.