Post # 1
I am in the school of the thought that if I am with people who only speak English, I will accomodate and speak English too. I wouldn’t want people to think I was talking about them, or that I am rude/inconsiderate. I do this as a rule for people I am actually with, but I don’t always pay as much attention to it in public with strangers.
I was on the phone the other day and I was speaking to someone who does not speak English. I had no choice but to respond in the language that she does speak, even though I was surrounded by English speakers (I was getting off public transit, and received an unexpected call). I kept the conversation brief, but people did stare at me.
Anyway. I could hear two guys talking about how rude it was and making all kinds of other statements “under their breath” (like how I don’t belong in Canada, even though I was born here). One of the fine gentleman decided to sneer, “I thought French girls were supposed to be hot.” Obviously he was just trying to be insulting because I am hot.
So I decided to say, “And I thought Asian guys were supposed to be smart. It was Russian, you douche canoe.” Sooooo, I didn’t have the most mature response but it pissed me off. I don’t think I was out of line to answer my phone, but I suppose I could have come up with a more politically correct insult 😛
Post # 3
Those guys have maturity and anger issues, plain and simple
Post # 4
@MrsPanda99: What a dick. When I used to bartend, ticked off guys (cut them off, wouldnt give my number, etc.) would take jabs at me like that alot, call me “ugly” and stuff like that. It’s a really crappy, ineffective defense mechanism to seeing a pretty girl, I guess *eyeroll*
But as for your first question, no. It doesnt bother me at all. It used to when I’d go to the nail salon and it would happen, but that was really the only situation I’d find myself in where that would happen.
Honestly, I wish BF and I spoke a similar language other than English *just* so we could have private discussions 😡
Post # 5
Weird! I would never be offended or bothered by someone else speaking a different language. More often than not I stand there completely enamored by it. I love hearing different languages.
My best friend in high school was Uruguayan and her family spoke spanish all the time, her mom didn’t speak much english. Every now and then I would wonder what they were saying but I really just enjoyed listening.
+1 for douche canoe though, never heard that one.
Post # 6
I agree with badabing88. I used to hate it at the nail salons because you just KNOW they are talking shit about you and other customers. But whatever, maybe they are just bitter about their lot in life. In general, I do not get offended when people speak other languages in front of me. Pretty hard to do living in the “melting pot” and all.
Post # 7
yeah lol maybe your response could have been a little more politically correct, but I’d be just as irritated as you!
I don’t think you were out of line and I don’t mind at all if people speak different languages around me. Dudes were just being ignorant tools.
Post # 8
@badabing88: It’s cause they think we get out of bed and get made up in order to look good for them so telling us that we aren’t is the ultimate insult. Except that we’d have to, y’know, care what they thought in order for that to be effective.
Post # 9
@badabing88: LOL, that’s a common one. Since I rejected you, I’m ugly. But if you had scored, I’d be a babe. Oh, men.
A lot of times in the nail salon, they are talking about you, lol. I think that’s different because they are providing you with a service, so they should at least try and engage you (don’t they want tips?). I was just have a quiet conversation with someone and I get blasted. Awesome.
FI and I do use Russian code words sometimes, or if we have to be covert. I wouldn’t sit there and carry out a full on conversation and ignore everyone else though. I’m not rude (at least, not unless I am provoked and told I don’t belong in Canada, lol).
Post # 10
Those guys were just rude. I would never be bothered if someone spoke a different language on the phone. I do have to say though when I was in school groups of (mostly) guys would speak in different languages and check out the girls. Like you could clearly see them look them up and down and whistle. I hated it, it was almost like they were hiding behind their language because I doubt they ever would have said it in english even though they ALL could speak it.
Post # 11
Nope. I’m in NYC, where it seems about half of the people on the subway are speaking a language other than English.
Post # 12
No, I like it!
The only time I don’t like it is when EVERYONE ELSE is speaking another language around me (although they know English too) AND at some point in the conversation I hear, “Blah blah blah Joya blah blah blah” and then everyone breaks out in laughter. 🙂
I kid. That has happened to me but it was always an innocent thing and it doesn’t really bug me because nobody ever did it to be intentionally exclusionary.
I hate it when I go to other countries and either:
-Some tourist expects the hotel staff, etc., to speak English, even though we’re not in an English-speaking country, and gets all pissed off that they don’t,
-Some service-people in a foreign country CAN speak English but get really rude once they realize you are not a native speaker of their language and they’re forced to switch to English to help you understand what’s going on (only happened to me in Paris):
I was doing my best to ask the Metro guys about which subway I needed to take in French, but I was having difficulty understanding them over the crowd noise. They were so nice when we were speaking in Frenchm until they realized I’m not a native French speaker… at which point they started speaking English to me with a sneer like I was really imposing on them for forcing them to speak English…. not cool).
And one random lady in Paris asked me directions to somewhere and I answered her in broken half-French half-english and she looked at me with disgust and went off in that direction, no merci or anything! Lady, YOU asked ME!
As you can tell by my username I love non-English languages (English is great too but I already know it well) and I hope to be a fluent polyglot someday.
Post # 13
@VegasSukie: I probably would too, though: I have witnessed some of the most rude and nasty people I’ve ever seen getting their nails done and basically verbally abusing those poor techs and treating them like servants. I actually called out a women once who was being SO condescending to the girl doing her nails. I was pissed FOR her 😡
Post # 14
@Birdee106: LOL, my friends are always asking us to teach them Russian words. They tease us that we are in the mafia *eye roll* Yeah, if I was in the mafia, I wouldn’t go work a corporate job everyday (which they say is my cover, lol).
I adore other languages too. There are some that are so beautiful to hear that I don’t even care that I don’t know what they are saying. Even my furbaby knows Russian, and he knows if mom is speaking Russian to him that he is in BIG trouble 😛
Douche canoe is my new favourite. My friend just taught me, lol 🙂
Post # 15
- Wedding: March 2014 - Brazil Room
I think like anything, it’s circumstantial on whether it is rude or not. Your circumstance was not rude at all! That guy WAS a douche canoe and good job on calling him out for being a moron.
The only times I find it rude is when I’m in a group of people that I’m hanging out with and suddenly two of them decide to speak in another language (then I’m like “I want to join in and laugh too! Hope you’re not laughing at me!”). I had that happen at a Henna party and was bummed that I didn’t know what they were saying anymore even though I was right there in the conversation and they were speaking english just before that.
On another side though, I do cringe a bit when the lady who is doing my pedicures starts talking to the girl next to her in another language because I somehow always think she’s talking about how ugly my feet are or something (which I’m sure she has better things to talk about than that, but whatever).
Post # 16
honestly.they are just jealous.